For the Family Oriented People

[edgeowns]

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Clearer by definition? I made it quite clear when I said that its for those who value family more than all else. That pretty much explains it in all angles. Even a non-Gemini should understand that. lol

But whatever you think family-oriented is, its quite obvious to anyone that this thread is for the good light of family. The positive sides of family and how we feel about it. Who cares what you really think about what family-oriented is? If you think youre family oriented, despite the problems, post away. Not whine and bitch about it... I was hoping people would just post away anything nice about it and add to the topic, and not, once again make this as a debate or whine and find way to put negativity in a supposed to be positive thread.

Yes, Make New Topic is helpful if you wanna talk something out of context. More people can add up to that specific problem/topic.

[edgeowns]

It's not the same now coz i have my own family. We just visit them once in awhile.

It's nice to be in their shelter before. You know.

Yeah I know how you feel. But hey, its always nice for both parties to communicate regularly and have a reunion whenever they can. Im glad you feel the same way towards family. Its something we should be proud of.

[Ms.Beau]

@edgeowns
i respect your intention of bringing out positivity instead of negativity and of celebrating the worth of the family. but since this is a forum and a free board, you can expect comments from all angles and to me it's just kinda disappointing to read your brushing off someone's comments just because it doesnt fit your expectation. and to think the topic is about family. i sense a lot of irony here.

anyway, lemme just give a more family-like input to junmar's situation:

pero how about imo family ang reason why you won't grow? that they have to question all the moves you make instead of supporting? okay man ang pamilya pero if mao ra hinungdan sa ako pagka-lugmok, maayo pay mopalayo!

yes, i understand your situation bro. not everyone is fortunate enough to have a supportive family. there are times when you just need to have that space from them. and surprisingly, it doesnt destroy the family, it preserves it. the longer you allow the unhealthy family dynamics to continue, the more resentments build up and this chokes the love you have for them. so yes, in this situation, i believe healthy ra ang magpalayo. you'd discover that without the resentments and irritation you'd normally have if near them, you'd be feeling healthier and more able to love them.

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and that's my POSITIVE contribution to a comment that received a rather negative response earlier.

[Streetcar]

A family will always be a family regardless. I happen to have a wonderful family. There's a lot of love, respect not once have i remembered any fights or raising our voice with each other. Also I'm the oldest and i find wonderful barkadas with my two brods. We all get along and have fun together. My Mom isn't that old so she is like a sister to me too. Our family get-togethers are the most fun and special. They might be few and far in between but when we do get together we enjoy our bonding tremendously. Wala mi nagdaku around yelling and fights. We respect each other's views and my parents always gives us advices but leaves the decision to us since they trust that we can make independent decision for ourselves and act responsibly. We do not discourage each other's goals or plans but we support. My family's love and that of my children fills me up and its sufficient enough for me that i dont need to look for that love outside of my home.

[majer]

close kaau ko with my family even im married na i still call up my pa and ma everyday sa house not just once but many times. i feel incomplete ang adlaw kung dili ko ka talk with them me and my son go to the house every tuesday, thursday, saturday and sunday. during weekends mo shopping man me with my parents, bro walay labot si hubby kay always buzy sa work.

[edgeowns]

@edgeowns
i respect your intention of bringing out positivity instead of negativity and of celebrating the worth of the family. but since this is a forum and a free board, you can expect comments from all angles and to me it's just kinda disappointing to read your brushing off someone's comments just because it doesnt fit your expectation. and to think the topic is about family. i sense a lot of irony here.

And whoever said I consider this board a family? Some people are cool, but I see some are just dolts and just post here to compensate what they lack in real life, with topics like how to lie, or how to get the gf of another. Maybe some people who spend countless hours in the forums consider this family, but not for me. So thus, there is no irony.

Better brush off an out of context comments than posting one... or defending one. lol Cuz by your theory, lets all just have one topic in each area... No more different topics on Fashion or Food area, just put them in one main thread. Its still the same anyway right?

[edgeowns]

close kaau ko with my family even im married na i still call up my pa and ma everyday sa house not just once but many times. i feel incomplete ang adlaw kung dili ko ka talk with them me and my son go to the house every tuesday, thursday, saturday and sunday. during weekends mo shopping man me with my parents, bro walay labot si hubby kay always buzy sa work.

Props to you. I salute people like you. And Streetcar.

Me, I was a huge rebel before, but then I realized despite their faults, my family(and most others out there) are only after your best intentions. Maybe if we should not give them reason to doubt us, they would treat us better. Anyway, as I am more mature and older, on hindsight, I feel embarrassed for the actions I did and realized I love them despite some normal fights now and then.

[Ms.Beau]

@edgeowns

your title "for the family oriented people" is broad enough attract readers who think they are family oriented, whatever their definition may be.

you invite posters by saying "to those who value family above all else". now a post of junmar elicited a "then this thread is not for you...", so i asked your definition of family orientedness to understand what you're referring to exactly. you talk about valuing and loving the family and my simple question is, if someone stays away from his family for some valid reason but loves his family nonetheless, does that make one NOT family oriented?

well anyway, you have stated already what you want from posters in this thread and it's POSITIVE ATTITUDE TOWARDS THE FAMILY....that's what I have understood from you. Now I feel like there is no room for healthy exchanges of ideas, positive or otherwise, around the BROAD term "Family Oriented". Coz again, what you want are ALL positive comments on the family and anything less than positive is given a "create another thread" reply.

I hope this is clear to everyone now.

[Velvet]

family-oriented to me means being very much involved with not just spending time with family but also with being involved in their emotions - you want to be aware, you want to understand what is going on with them, they're feelings and aspirations. literally feeling sad when they are sad and happy when they are happy. you have a desire to uplift each and everyone; you have an intense desire for strength so you can give strength. sounds tough and you have to be made of hard stuff.

with this definition of "family-oriented" it might be a little presumptuous to say that i am one. but i guess i am, because what is not a requirement of being family-oriented is - being perfect. it does not say that any amount of understanding and sacrifice won't go a long way. after all not every member of the family can give you everything you want, that's why we go out into the world to find things on our own. what they have been missing to give you for whatever reason, you don't hold against them. it might be a lack in their part which might not be entirely their fault.

[edgeowns]

@edgeowns

your title "for the family oriented people" is broad enough attract readers who think they are family oriented, whatever their definition may be.

you invite posters by saying "to those who value family above all else". now a post of junmar elicited a "then this thread is not for you...", so i asked your definition of family orientedness to understand what you're referring to exactly. you talk about valuing and loving the family and my simple question is, if someone stays away from his family for some valid reason but loves his family nonetheless, does that make one NOT family oriented?

well anyway, you have stated already what you want from posters in this thread and it's POSITIVE ATTITUDE TOWARDS THE FAMILY....that's what I have understood from you. Now I feel like there is no room for healthy exchanges of ideas, positive or otherwise, around the BROAD term "Family Oriented". Coz again, what you want are ALL positive comments on the family and anything less than positive is given a "create another thread" reply.

I hope this is clear to everyone now.

Its not for him cuz he said he rather be away from his family just cuz his family is judging his every moves, he never even made an attempt to explain it but instead put closure to his point. You know that too. He never stated he is family oriented or even shown signs that he is, he merely showed a self-pitying point that if one is being treated like that by his family, he rather be away... its more of opposing what I posted about one's feeling to their family than what you are trying to show. Again, thats not really making any attempts to contribute to the topic, much less talk about it, right?

Its like in an "ice cream appreciation/ice cream lovers" thread, one would say "Ice cream is ok, but what good is it if it makes you fat? I rather not eat it"... wheres the appreciation/love for ice cream there? He should be in a Delicious but Bad Foods/Diet thread. See my point? Atleast he could say, "I really like ice cream, but I eat it in small quantities else Ill be fat". Or in junmar's case, "Family is great, its annoying how they always judge me, so I rather avoid them, but in the end family is really what keeps me going"... Complaining but still respecting. Not, "What if they are the reason Im not successful? What if they keep judging me? Family is ok, but if they are the cause of my downfall, I rather be away from them!"...

What I want are positive comments as this thread implies, and negative or out of topic comments are for other threads. I know you want to defend him cuz he is your friend, but sheesh, youre making one comment of mine blown out of proportions. Give it up already. If you are so righteous, please go bash people who ask advices on how to lie, or how to steal a gf, or that its ok to cheat if theyre not caught - they are rampant in this forums. Otherwise, I dont see why youre taking this too personal, of how you seem to be affected with "CREATE NEW THREAD" phrase when there are worse comments out there. lol Still pissed that you cant change my views and that how you once told me you dont agree with how I live my life? That it is wrong? haha!

And oh, are you a hired spokesman now? lmao