Ask Soul Doctor any question about life

[CocoCrunch]

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experiment on predictability of online bullies

here's a follow up question.

why do you need to experiment further if they are already considered predictable?

[Soul Doctor]

okay TS

i want to ask you this
Please do explain to me why some people would want to be famous and i would really like an explanation in a psychological aspect. Thanks

not everybody wants to be famous.

it goes with the personality of a person.

wanting to be famous has its reasons
though im not a psychologist.
but it goes down to what the person want and why?

if you are a businessman, you want to be famous so you get more business.
if you are a student, you want to impress fellow students to have more friends.
if you are an artist, you want be famous so that your works to have bigger market value.

it boils down to social nature.
What we want for ourselves--happiness, health, money, friends, and special treatment.
we think we are happier when we are famous because we see famous people smile all the time.
We see famous people are rich because of fame.
We see famous people has lots of friends in high places.
We see famous people can afford doctors and they seem to live longer than ordinary people.

[farmboy]

What is the meaning of Life?

How is your definition of the meaning of Life related to Love and Suffering?

What is the purpose of Pain and Joy in life?

[Soul Doctor]

have you ever cheated? how does it feel? why did you do it? will you do it again if presented with an opportunity?

Have i ever cheated?
yes i've cheated once.
and i'm not proud of it.


how does it feel?
it feels like you did not just hurt your wife--it feels like
you also hurt this person you cheated with, yourself, your family and your friends.

why did you do it?
its a long story but it basically is done to get back at wife who ignores the verbal abuses her parents
have thrown at me. We came from a family were we watch our manners and refrain from hurting words.
But my inlaws are verbally abusive, day-in day-out. so she thought ok ra ko atong ilang mga verbal abuses nako.

Ingnon pa ka nga nagbasol sila nga ikaw ang napangasawa sa ilang anak!
I was young then and in my lowest moment.

Well, we made some bad choices in our life.
Whats important is that we correct them and prevent them from happening again.

[ceb3370]

doc why do we live? whats the purpose?

[yiennahs]

not everybody wants to be famous.

it goes with the personality of a person.

wanting to be famous has its reasons
though im not a psychologist.
but it goes down to what the person want and why?

if you are a businessman, you want to be famous so you get more business.
if you are a student, you want to impress fellow students to have more friends.
if you are an artist, you want be famous so that your works to have bigger market value.

it boils down to social nature.
What we want for ourselves--happiness, health, money, friends, and special treatment.
we think we are happier when we are famous because we see famous people smile all the time.
We see famous people are rich because of fame.
We see famous people has lots of friends in high places.
We see famous people can afford doctors and they seem to live longer than ordinary people.

so how does one's mind work when people are motivated?
does it have anything to do with neurotransmitters?
which part of the brain is responsible when a stimulus for motivation sets in?

[Soul Doctor]

What is the meaning of Life?

How is your definition of the meaning of Life related to Love and Suffering?

What is the purpose of Pain and Joy in life?

one question at a time bro.

meaning of life is broad.

love and suffering is relative and it depends on the person.

i want to answer "What is the purpose of Pain and Joy in life?"

Pain is designed in our system.
It is there to teach us.
If we touch fire we feel pain,
that teach us not to do that thing again or you will lose your finger to burns.

but there are two kinds of pain.
The physical pain and the emotional or mental pain.

emotional pain is caused by our unmet expectations.
same with physical pain in intensity-- but it last longer than the physical pain if not dealt with properly.

the physical pain is designed to make us survive.
the emotional pain is another story.
it has something to do with the way you think. if you think wrong, then you are bound to feel emotional pain more.
the more you understand things and situations, the less emotional pain you get.

joy is just a reward, again there is physical joy and emotional joy.
physical joy are highs we get for fulfilling our motives.
emotional joy is more complicated, still it depends on your mentality and the way you understand things.

[farmboy]

thank you doc.
now ill wait for your answer to the meaning of life.

[Soul Doctor]

so how does one's mind work when people are motivated?
does it have anything to do with neurotransmitters?
which part of the brain is responsible when a stimulus for motivation sets in?

i appreciate it if you compose your questions one at a time for clarity.
i dont have the luxury of time so i want to answer one question at a time.

to what part of the brain works or are responsible for such response, i have not studied it yet.

it sure has to do with neurotransmitters, hormones, biochemistry, everything.
but it also has something to do with memory.
memory remembers pain.
that memory gives us fear.
the fear to feel pain again.
some can overcome their fear, some can't.

Its obvious that our mind works better when motivated, it is more focused.
and is more active and productive.

[Soul Doctor]

here's a follow up question.

why do you need to experiment further if they are already considered predictable?

to test my theory that online bullies are predictable (because it is a form of psychological disorder ).