should i wait or should i leave?

[yvonne6]

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lahi sad ni imong bf noh, feel niya iyang anak ang bata. what a lucky kid naa dayun (almost) willing to be an instant dad. while ang akong anak, liwat jud kaau sa iyang amahan and the dad knows that he is the father, yet, sa pag mabdos pa lang, unwanted na. kaluoy sa akong baby oi. now, he is 5, gi ila tuod siya sa iyang dad, love kuno niya ang bata but the love is not the kind of love most fathers would give their only son. siya, kung feel ra niya magpaka amahan. kuhaon tuod niya ang bata diri ug dad on sa ila, biyaan raman pud niya sa care sa iyang parents, while mabuntagan siya sa iyang mga barkada. ako ika tambag nimo ts noh, investigate sad. dont just sit there and cry. its not likely nga ingon ani siya ka affected nga ang uban man gani mga laki, mo freak out makahibalo nga naa na silay anak. gikan niya mismo nga he barely knows the girl, one week ra sila ga kuan, there is no guarantee nga iya ang bata. while ikaw nga 5 years na niya kauban, basta2 lang niya ma give up? i think there is more to this that what it seems. be vigilant. at least kana na lang imong mahimo. if u find out nga he is lying to you, then by all means, move on, wether u like it or not

[SundryBox]

I don't know... in my opinion... please don't get your hopes up too high. I feel for you and I'm sorry this had to happen but lisod na... basin mas painful if you go all out on waiting for him. Get a little bit used to living without him... little by little. Para man gud nko... in this situation, you're the one in the losing end. Paniguro nlng. Love yourself first. Luoy sad imo self if mka decide cya mu let go na totally.

[farmboy]

isnt your bf kinda jumping the gun on "his" kid?

murag kalit ra man gud kaayo. literally all of a sudden, acting on impulse. siya kaha gyud ang father?

i hate a situation like this kay it seems you are at the emotional losing corner.

[bowee]

Ikaw ra gi.ilad sa imong bf oi.. literally and frankly speaking sa... HE DOESNT HAVE ANY KID at all with that girl..

ITS a VERY POOR AND LAME EXCUSE TO DITCH YOU lang.. iya ra nang reason aron pud maka to.o ug mas credible gamay iyang pagbuwag nimo...

TRUTH OF THE MATTER. HE likes the other girl more than you.. and SADLY... HE DUMPED YOU FOR A NEW WOMAN... (perhaps he likes the new fish over you?)

P.S.
Sorry for being blunt TS.. but ingon jud ana ang diskarte sa uban guys.. (not me ha)

[john^^]

you should talk to him again..wa man klaro ang guy sa iyang reason gi hatag nimo..make it clear..tell him u deserve further explanation..and be sensitive enough to get what he's trying to let you understand...just be honest to yourself and make an affirmation of what he is going to tell you.. if he will say just go and leave him.then so be it..and or if he will say i'm just confused then stay with him 'til he will give you a clear mind.. then from there u can decide if u'll leave or stay..

[sugbuana]

waiting in vain will just cause you more pain, kana bitawng magdahum ka sa wala, kana moy sakit, it's more like eating you slowly, makamatay pud ug huna-huna atong tawhana...better imu siyang tagaan ug specific time to decide...mas maayu pud mag investigate ka ug imu, keysa padayun lang ka tuo sa iyang pasangil. may ng ikaw na mismo maka hibawo sa truth.

[LeeLeePot]

i have this gut feeling nga he's hiding something... but if it is because he is inlove with another woman, nganong paspas man kaayo nga for the last two weeks nga nahimo ming housemates, magcge ra man tawon mi katawa because we're more than the bf-gf type..we were like bestfriends, tropa, kainuman, kaharutan and then the next day, iya nmn nuon kong giingnan nga he's letting me go kai d xa gusto madamay ko...i really don't get it...dili jud sapat iyang mga reasons peo i guess i have to live with it...then karon nga mumove out nako sa balay, iya man kong gpugngan...i know this guy for soooo long..dili third party ang makapabungkag namo since he has been honest with me about the girls sa office nga nagaflirt nia (d man unta gwapo ang kagwang oi! peste jud ning mga drummer oi! kusog kaayo ug charm! nyeta!). he even lets me read the sticky notes nga ginasend sa mga girls sa iya so i really don't have a prob with his loyalty and faithfulness to me...something is really eating him up...if he is inlove with another woman, why would he ask me to wait? and why did he promise that he'll be back no matter what happens? haaay! i am giving him time...unta marealize nia pud unsai nabuhat nia sa ako...as for the kid, feel jud nako dli to nia anak kai waa mai usa ka trace sa iyang feature ang makita nako sa bata...makalagot lan hunahunaon ba nga basi ginapollute lan sa babae iyang mind and to take responsibility masking dili iyaha...mahal baya pa-DNA test...tsssk! ang inahan ra jud makabalo sa tinuod..hahaaay!

[walker]

and why did he promise that he'll be back no matter what happens?

see? let him prove his words. he says he will be back. give him the chance. perhaps he deserves it.

[LeeLeePot]

thanks sire...huhu...i am really hanging on to his words for now...waiting is really scary...

[Baeybe_Bryce]

Can't help but smile. Sorry.

First of all, how strong is your relationship?

About the kid, how about go and find the girl. Meet her up and ask the other side of the story. Girl's good with intuition as they may say, so see it yourself. If you can see the kid, better.

About your bf telling you he's willing to let you go, why not tell him "did I ask for it?"

If something's bothering him, then sit and talk about it. Try not to force him but instead, let him know that you will listen to whatever he has to say and you will decide afterward.

It's just that, whatever we tell you doesn't directly do anything but to ease your mind, or otherwise. You are the one who can say if your guy's lying or what. I know it's confusing but if he's hard enough to let you go then why not accept it? It means, love and the 5years of you being together aren't enough to make your relationship work.

Come on lee, you can be better than this.