Disciplining your Child

[kiekim]

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me also ambot if doin' the right way of disciplining my kids matod sa ako bana kunsintidorang inah akoh!!!

[aphrodite]

i discipline my child with love. whenever he does something wrong, id bring him into a room, just the two of us. discipline him with a rod, make him feel the pain (but i dont do this when im really angry). after that, talk to him about what happened and why he had to undergo such thing. I would explain to him that its because of my love for him, that he has to be corrected cos i dont want him to grow up na disobedient and stubborn. and this is very effective for my son. whenever naa siyay sala or if he misbehaves, he knows what's going to happen next, he will accept the discipline using a rod, and he always ask for forgiveness. then he listens and hugs me and then avoids to do the same mistake again.

another one is by being a good example.showing them what needs to be shown. explain what's not right.

I've read this book by Dr. Harold Sala "Train Up A Child and Be Glad You Did", worth P100 plus lang.. read it..it's also a good guide for parents.



and you might want to watch this too YouTube - Train Up a Child in the Way He Should Go

[d`monyita]

yep..spare the rod...spoil the child....

[Nikki80]

spare the rod spoiled the child...i always agree with this..sorry to those who dont makita man sad nimo ang new generation karon nga wala pang bunali compared sauna nga gipangbunalan jud ato ginikanan lahi ra theres more respect but ayaw sad kulataha basin mag ka bukol bukol sad sa lubot lang nya pasabta dayon ngano gi bunalan cya

[jzazy]

kung kiat lang sa bata tolerable na xa kung buot huna hunaon. basta lang imu ipakita nila ang boundaries nga kiahanglan taman lang sila mag duwa sa certain place sa balay. ultimatum. madala man na. labi na ang imo hulga buhaton jud nimo pag dili mutuman, aw tan-awa, next time nga may isulti ka musunod jud na dayon.

kanang bunal, last recourse na, pag grabe na jud ang sala. pareha sa ako panganay nitukar ang ginamos sa ulo, gi ihian ang lampshade sa amu room, ay goodluck! napuspusan jud nako tsinelas.

ang mga lola masuko jud na sila pagbunalan ila apo, lahi man gud ang apo kontra anak. sure ko ginabunalan pud ka sa imo mama tong gamay pa ka. pero pag nakita nila imo bunalan imo anak dayon imo explain why imo gibunalan, sure ko oi makasabot siya og dili na lang mutubay maski lain ila buot. heheheh. trust me sis. that works for me and my 2 boys na pasaway

[sienna]

spare the rod spoiled the child--------this is definetly da way im gonna discipline my future children

[stampAcrete]

Kids have different personalities baya. Please give extra patience sa mga mas ki.at, especially boys. Give them the 1,2,3 strategy lang gud. pero dapat bunalan pud pag ma abot sa 3rd count na.

[jblim1980]

yes kiat jud mga boys esp akoa kay twins..ako lang cla estoryahan den explain nga bad na....maminaw man pod dn mohunong or dli nko tagdon hangtod mohilom rman pod

[sienna]

me im going to spank dem coz i want dem to taste pain so dey will learn something. im a strict momma heheehe super as in

[vze]

Kuyawa ani oi. When the children grow up and start to be capable of making decisions on their own, anything that the parents will do that is a hindrance to that decision might make them think their parents did it intentionally to get what they want which automatically interprets to them not wanting their children to be happy. It's another form of emotional blackmail. It might work for now, but it'll backfire.

Just my two cents.

Murag libog man ang context.

Anyways, it cannot be considered an emotional blackmail because in the first place, you, as a parent, would explain to the child why you need to do such thing (like the example I've given). You don't just spank or shout at your children without telling them why. Most of the children when they grow up keep on repeating the same mistakes and become rebellious because in the first place they don't know the difference between right and wrong since no explainations were given when they were spanked or shouted at. They have to learn the difference the hard way while growing up, which does not have to be that way.

Daghan man ways to discipline a child. My example is just one of the ways. This could work or may not, but it's worth a try. Ang importante, mapasabot ang bata unsay nahimo niya nga nasakitan ang parents sa iyang gibuhat or nganong gkasab-an cya. Dili kay kasaba dri, kasaba didto, syagit dri, syagit didto then pgka-human mura rag wlay nahitabo. Pero, ang tinuod, the incidents have left the child with weights on his/her shoulder while growing up.