HELP: I need a legal advice about our sons custody (ISSUE SOLVE)

[omad]

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Nikki80:

I know how you feel. Every second of being away from your kid feels like an eternity. I know the drill. I've been there, done that. There is no easy way of explaining to those who are not in our situation on "why your son is not with you". Let's put it in perspective, every OFW's situation is different, unique. some examples are: both parents have the same 9-5 jobs, you can never trust a stranger (nanny) to watch over your kid, influence in schools is very high specially in a big city where gangs is a normal way of life, just too risky. In that scenario, the next best option is to let the grandparents watch over the kid temporarily until such a time that you can bring him over to where you're at.

We also have an 8 year old son. We also left him with his grandparents since he was less than a year old. BUT as parents, we see to it that we communicate with him EVERYDAY thru skype for the past 8 years. Before we leave for work, we see to it that we communicate with him at least 30 mins to an hour during business days and at least an hour or two on weekends. Ask him about his assignments daily and sometimes helping him accomplish it. There are a lot of online games that you guys can play together if you really want to spend some quality time with him while you're both online. I also make it a point to come home every year so we can spend quality family time. And in those visits I see to it that I meet with his class adviser and some of his teachers every single time so communication lines would be open in cases like there are emergencies or special situations (like what you're in) will be prevented.

But that's just me.

I know that what we're doing is still inadequate and would still be considered as "poor parenting" but that's a choice that we should live by whatever the consequences. All we can do is cover all the bases since we are not at his side always. But things will get better sooner rather than later for my kid. And I already made him that promise of which I am not planning to break.

In your situation, accept the fact that there's nothing more you can do about it. Transferring him to his grandparents (mother's side) would be the best thing to do FOR NOW. And if you're mind's already made-up then do it NOW, not tomorrow, next week or next month. DO IT NOW so he could enroll and transfer to another school while he still can. While there is still time.

You've been working for your company for awhile now so I think they can understand your situation (and allow you to come home again) specially when it involves the welfare of your kid. Have your in-laws research their area if a school would allow exams (evaluation exams? I'm not sure...) so you're kid would be enrolled in his supposed grade (grade 6?) in the coming school year. Have them look around and ask if it's possible.

As far as your parents (mom and step dad) is concerned, they can't do anything about it. They already had their chance and they blew it. BLEW IT BIG TIME!!! Please accept the fact that by moving your kid to your in-laws, bridges will be broken, feelings will be hurt and bad-blood would develop between you and your parents as well as your parents and their in-laws. That's a given and I hope you've thought about that situation really hard.

BUT who cares Your son is the victim here. Not your parents. Stick it to them and let them know how disappointed you are at them.

Last but not least, don't blame yourself. WE are just regular parents trying to make a bright future for our children. There's nothing wrong with that. All I can say is: "Bad things happen to good people". Keep your chin up. Learn from your mistake. You're both good parents.

Talk to your kid and apologize to him for your shortcomings. Tell him that you'll try your best not to be complacent and be more involved with his life on a daily basis. Tell him truthfully about the situation, when you'll both be back for good or when will he be able to join you.

And if you make a promise, keep it.

[Nikki80]

omad,

thank you from the bottom of my heart..As what ive said we only want the best for him nothing less nothing more..Ive spoken to my mom today and ive told them my wife is coming over to fix this,we have no choice if your not letting him go and they calm down..so they've just asked for a little extension for both parties to condition themselves. and we agreed..My son is going to take his placement exam in mindanaowe really hope this would work out...

Again thank you guys for the advice..

[omad]

^ anytime man. don't hesitate to write when you need to express / share your problems regarding your kid. there's a lot of us here who are ready to help those who are in the same situation we're in.

there is actually a board that talks about anything regarding families:

Family Matters

I hope you enjoy your stay here in istorya.

[vienzel]

ibutang nalang nato na THE DAMAGES HAS BEEN DONE in all parties involved labi na sa inyo anak. expect ur child will have residual behaviour along the way while growing up. this is gonna be very difficult both for him n u. however, dont wallow on wat has been done anymore ky wa ka lain ma blame but urselves as parents. wat u need to do is cut of the chain towards further damage. mag-unsa man na inyo PANG-ABROAD or haruhay na life for the future kuno sa family kung d na matabang ang inyo anak sa situasyon. mag malipayon kaha mo? what is important is the present, wat ur son is undergoing emotionally karon. he needs u and mas ma-appreciate nya inyo pagpa-uli. either both or one of u needs to go home and face the problem heads on asap. do wat u gotta do...from legalities or watever, deal with it.

i have a bad childhood but it may not be in a similar situation but sangko sa langit ako mga pagmahay sa ako parents. it took me years to accept facts in life. i made a promise, as a parent now ...i will never let my daughter go through wat i have undergone in the past! never in this lifetime... she will learn things in life but one thing is sure i will be behind her to offer support and help along. i will never leave her behind...alone with all cruelties in life

[cosplay]

this is legal point of view regarding your case.....you file for a writ of habeas corpus against your parents.Yes, you would need a lawyer for this of course. ONce you get a lawyer, he will be the one to explain to you what a writ of habeas corpus is.

Exactly as it says.

[Nikki80]

tnx guys solve nani na issue...tnx istorya

[cosplay]

No problem.

[carmie]

that was heartbreaking and congrats na solve na ang issue. I'm wishing that your child would be brought up to a good family. I've watch the kapamilya's maalaala mo kaya it's about a mother who left for Spain to work abroad entrusting her child to her boyfriend and was brought up in a bad environment. I hope that your son would be brought up in a right way not because of the money you alloted to them. Hoping that your family would be complete. God bless!