what would you do if you lose out of control?

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talk to your dad nga if posible naa cla constant communication kay mura man og missed lang na nya nya nangita cyag attention sa imo dad...
gud lak...

[Angelo937]

tnx for the replies...
close??kami??we fight alot..over petty things..pero i do think we're close nonetheless....kaya lang, when he's mad or something......mura xa ug wa'y santo...

anyways..hang upsi guess yes.....before..when we were younger, our dad was in politics..so...we were kinda left at home alot with the miads...coz our mom's a doctor..she's also busy....my mom would make it up to us every night or on weekends...pro my dad's not at home most of the time..so it boils down to..he wants our dads attention eversince we were younger.....samot na nuon karon kay layo na mi nila..and he keeps on telling us he hates our dad..kay karon..sa mla naman nagwork ang amuang amahan...'nya naa xa gapuyo sa amuang aunt..di man ganahan ang akong igsuon sa ilahang side kay social kaau...nya murag nagpabuhi ra sila sa amuang dad....
mao na......nya karon.....feeling nako wala pa na karesolve..
anyways just for some update, my dad came over last wk...and my bro and dad haven't spoken to each other since summer i think...mga may ana.....nya....when he came...mura lang ug wa..as in close au sila..murag didto ra ko kaingon na he miss our dad so much....kay kakita ko sa affection na iyahang gipakita kaniya last week....
i told my dad basin mas maayo if they'll live together nalang.....wala man xa nikuyog pa kay classes are still going on.....mas maayo siguro na didto na lang xa magskwela....layo lang sa akoang aunties of course........abang nlng unta sila bapero..i dunno...

meanwhile...since my dad's visit, his mood became better...... good mood na siya eversince.... di nlng nako patungan kay kefoi basin mabuang na pud....

and his friendsmixed..pro bugoy pud most...mao na'y mahadlukan sa amuang 'rents....kay basin unya madala pud... 'nya he got a tattoo pa jud sa arms (temporary ra nuon)...then ang words kay latin ....murag frat something ang style...

i think he either misses your dad or hes just making a show for your dad.... im not sure about this pero kung close jud inyo family, i go for the first one (missing the father) your his sibling so dapat you should help each other since wala ang inyong parents sa inyong tapad....

....nako'y bro na 17 yrs old na ron..pasaway kaau... to the point na di xa maminaw sa akong parents...or bsag kinsa....nya ang nakabati...kay grabe xa mugasto ug kwarta murag datu..mu.smoke pa jud...nya problema kay wa'y kwarta nya di xa musabot...wala pa jud diri ang among 'rents so i have to take care of him..g.ahak na usahay kay manglabay man gud xa ug gamit kung masuko pati iyahang mga cellphone naguba na, mp4 etc..bsag unsa ray ganahan nya..nag-away na pud me gabi.i kay nangayo xa ug kwarta past 11pm na...hapit na ko matug..ingnan nako xa ugma nalang..di man jud xa kay mangayo jud xa...wala ko nihatag kay double deck man among bed, naa na ko sa taas..i mean hello?gabii.ig daku mangayo pa xa ug kwarta kahibaw na xa na matug ang taw...mao to, lagot au xa g.kuha nya ang akong pillow nya g.labay..nya since wala na xa'y phone, nihuwam xa sa aq.ang phone kay mutawg daw xa sa amuang mama ug papa...g.pahuwam naq..nya wala man nitubag lagot na pud xa g.labay nya aq phone...mao to...walk out nalang ko guba na pud ako phone sakto nalang na maopen..saonz....nya karon, kabasa ko sa iyahang friendster sa shoutout "i'm useless, i should kill myself"...
tinuuron kaha na niya??what should u do if u were in my case? galisod na jud ko...

here's my take on your situation....

nag tantrums ra na ang imong igsuon... maybe he just like the attention he gets when he does that... to think that 17 na siya.... naa na jud nay buot no!....

by the way if your a girl, try to make paawa effect daw niya.... like kung mag away na pud mo tungod lang sa iyang batasan (what you said here, although kanang murag sobra na jud kaayo) make a scene, blame yourself for what he's done like your his elder sibling and you didnt do anything about it... paghilak hilak and things like that... kana jud nga its because of him you feel bad yourself... kung gusto sya magpakamatay, unaha sya ug buhat (in acting pud no, ayaw sad tinud a) if this doesnt work i dunno of any na...


its your choice kung motry ka ani, i just analysed your situation and try to find a solution (although i think its pathetic... hehehehe mura rabag korek ko...)

reverse psychology gud....

[8sme]

tnx for the replies...
close??kami??we fight alot..over petty things..pero i do think we're close nonetheless....kaya lang, when he's mad or something......mura xa ug wa'y santo...

anyways..hang upsi guess yes.....before..when we were younger, our dad was in politics..so...we were kinda left at home alot with the miads...coz our mom's a doctor..she's also busy....my mom would make it up to us every night or on weekends...pro my dad's not at home most of the time..so it boils down to..he wants our dads attention eversince we were younger.....samot na nuon karon kay layo na mi nila..and he keeps on telling us he hates our dad..kay karon..sa mla naman nagwork ang amuang amahan...'nya naa xa gapuyo sa amuang aunt..di man ganahan ang akong igsuon sa ilahang side kay social kaau...nya murag nagpabuhi ra sila sa amuang dad....
mao na......nya karon.....feeling nako wala pa na karesolve..
anyways just for some update, my dad came over last wk...and my bro and dad haven't spoken to each other since summer i think...mga may ana.....nya....when he came...mura lang ug wa..as in close au sila..murag didto ra ko kaingon na he miss our dad so much....kay kakita ko sa affection na iyahang gipakita kaniya last week....
i told my dad basin mas maayo if they'll live together nalang.....wala man xa nikuyog pa kay classes are still going on.....mas maayo siguro na didto na lang xa magskwela....layo lang sa akoang aunties of course........abang nlng unta sila bapero..i dunno...

meanwhile...since my dad's visit, his mood became better...... good mood na siya eversince.... di nlng nako patungan kay kefoi basin mabuang na pud....

and his friendsmixed..pro bugoy pud most...mao na'y mahadlukan sa amuang 'rents....kay basin unya madala pud... 'nya he got a tattoo pa jud sa arms (temporary ra nuon)...then ang words kay latin ....murag frat something ang style...

At this day and age... rebelious ang mga teens ... not all man hinuon pero just like your brother nangita jud na cia ug attention... I had few friends n high school nga affected sa ila family life pero never cla mg talk about it... Iluom ra... We reach college until they started to talk it over... I was thankful nga wala cla ng rebelde back then. Any action while young ta naa jud na rason... On the case of your brother, maybe he wanted to have a family... kanang naa mama and papa together with the siblings. As you said, never man kaha na nahitabu ninyo... Good for you kay nakasabot ka sa situation, you handle it perfectly but your brother doesnt have d same emotional structure sa imo. Try to help him... basin ma frustrate cia when being with his friends nga naa mama, naa mo care, naa mangita, naa mangasaba... maka ask cia iya self WHY ako family dili ing-ana. Marami ko friends who longs for such attention while where teens nya hangtud karon murag naanad nalang pero deep inside them naa ra jud na. YOUR brother needs you... try to work this out with your family... Madala pa na kay young pa imo bro, dont wait nga mapahamak na cia... Kaya ra nagi na...

[mia_princess]

Both of you has to have a constant communication with your dad if that's the case. You give your dad some updates kung unsa na ang latest nga ginapangbuhat sa imong bro. And your bro too, so your dad can keep him in check. It's either kuwang siya sa attention sa inyong dad or he just really miss your dad. You have to let your dad know about what kind of friends your bro has. Remember, layo mo sa inyong dad, and most of the time barkada ang kuyog anang imong bro. Madala na pud nya na sa kabuang.

well..we communicate alot.......but since my bro threw his phone..they dont talk that much on the phone........'nya timing pud if mutawag sila..since laagan ang akoang manghud..wala siya didto.......
.........hayz***

[mia_princess]

i think he either misses your dad or hes just making a show for your dad.... im not sure about this pero kung close jud inyo family, i go for the first one (missing the father) your his sibling so dapat you should help each other since wala ang inyong parents sa inyong tapad....

bitaw sa..pro.......if help is not accepted..i mean y'know..should bea 2-way thing....but yes...i think he do miss our dad..alot..a whole lot....

here's my take on your situation....

nag tantrums ra na ang imong igsuon... maybe he just like the attention he gets when he does that... to think that 17 na siya.... naa na jud nay buot no!....

by the way if your a girl, try to make paawa effect daw niya.... like kung mag away na pud mo tungod lang sa iyang batasan (what you said here, although kanang murag sobra na jud kaayo) make a scene, blame yourself for what he's done like your his elder sibling and you didnt do anything about it... paghilak hilak and things like that... kana jud nga its because of him you feel bad yourself... kung gusto sya magpakamatay, unaha sya ug buhat (in acting pud no, ayaw sad tinud a) if this doesnt work i dunno of any na...


its your choice kung motry ka ani, i just analysed your situation and try to find a solution (although i think its pathetic... hehehehe mura rabag korek ko...)

reverse psychology gud....

lol*** yeah...i'm a girl...but..well...i dont really know how to make the "paawa effect" hehehe kay..ambot...wehehehehe when i cry...tulo ang luha lang.....no nothing...hehehe i mean......kanang once in a blue moon ra kung di na jud nako mapugngan.....and i dont think i can do that...do suicide...hehehe bsag kunwari lang....hehehehe lol*** that's crazy..hehehe

anyways....now that he's having a good mood, i tried to ask him why he'd do such .......mutawa ra....buang....wahaha i tried to talk him over everything...i dont think it's much of a help..pero that's all i can do i guess.....lisuran man gud ko muacting..hehehehe di kapasar sa audition pang artista..bitaw....i know...he knows that i'm hurting..that we(me and my 'rents) are hurting.................

[mia_princess]

At this day and age... rebelious ang mga teens ... not all man hinuon pero just like your brother nangita jud na cia ug attention... I had few friends n high school nga affected sa ila family life pero never cla mg talk about it... Iluom ra... We reach college until they started to talk it over... I was thankful nga wala cla ng rebelde back then. Any action while young ta naa jud na rason... On the case of your brother, maybe he wanted to have a family... kanang naa mama and papa together with the siblings. As you said, never man kaha na nahitabu ninyo... Good for you kay nakasabot ka sa situation, you handle it perfectly but your brother doesnt have d same emotional structure sa imo. Try to help him... basin ma frustrate cia when being with his friends nga naa mama, naa mo care, naa mangita, naa mangasaba... maka ask cia iya self WHY ako family dili ing-ana. Marami ko friends who longs for such attention while where teens nya hangtud karon murag naanad nalang pero deep inside them naa ra jud na. YOUR brother needs you... try to work this out with your family... Madala pa na kay young pa imo bro, dont wait nga mapahamak na cia... Kaya ra nagi na...

tnx!i know...well...in the strictest sense...naman 'ta me family..i mean....dili man buag ang akong parents..it's just that.....busy ra kaau...lagyo pud me....coz we hafta
you're right..i think he really longs for a complete family.....which,i don't think, is possible at this point in time...
when i was 15 or 16 i thought of rebelling..pro the more i thought about it, the more i realize that it won't help..it will just make matters worst..it will do no good for me and it will just jeopardize my future....
with my bro.....i don't think he coped with it.....i hope na makasabot xa..............i'm trying to emphasize kung nganong ingon ani amo fam karon..kung nganong mas kinahanglan na magtarung xa sa school...etc.....may lang ta...one of these days...marealize nia ang akong gipangsulti nia...

[8sme]

tnx!i know...well...in the strictest sense...naman 'ta me family..i mean....dili man buag ang akong parents..it's just that.....busy ra kaau...lagyo pud me....coz we hafta
you're right..i think he really longs for a complete family.....which,i don't think, is possible at this point in time...
when i was 15 or 16 i thought of rebelling..pro the more i thought about it, the more i realize that it won't help..it will just make matters worst..it will do no good for me and it will just jeopardize my future....
with my bro.....i don't think he coped with it.....i hope na makasabot xa..............i'm trying to emphasize kung nganong ingon ani amo fam karon..kung nganong mas kinahanglan na magtarung xa sa school...etc.....may lang ta...one of these days...marealize nia ang akong gipangsulti nia...

can you at bond with your bro... be a friend not a big sister... sakay sa trip nya... if he wants out, go out pud... be with his crowd... he wants to drink, drink pud. Let him feel comfortable around you. Be not the typical sistah nga cge talk talk about future and the right and wrong... BE his FRIEND... kanang bestfriend material... kanang e welcome nimo iya weakness... It cud be huge shock sa imo nga part basin mka witness ka ug unacceptable behavior nya when you do this pero Be strong lang. Its the only way to get to know your brother... LET him feel wanted pud, ask him unsa iya gusto in every decision making ninyo duha... DOnt be the ate nga cge raka himo ug Rules... I must say GIRLS are stronger emotional when its comes to family matters or It cud be strong personality pud ka mau nga na overcome ra nimo ang weakness back then. You been in his shoes once upon a time so you know d feeling. Dba when were with our friends we can be at our worst and our best as well. Try to be in his level para maka know kung naunsa jud imo bro. Goodluck... DO this while puede pa... basin late na nya ma realize tanan enough nga nalulong na cia sa bisyo ug uban pa. Unsa zodiac sa imo bro?

[silent-kill]

talk to him as an adult when his not having his tantrums and ask him what's his plans in life and when is he going to take responsibility on his actions sooner or later his going to get is a$$ in deep sh1t. that you and your family wouldn't be able to help him out, sure 17 years old are aggressive kids but i believe in reasons, and what his doing is very unreasonable. but mostly its the parents' responsibility to make him understand.

i always tell my parents "if i go astray you only have your self to blame" LOL though it sounds harsh and disrespectful it is what i believe that the guidance of a mother or a father is very crucial to a growing up child...

[Miss Mae]

girl, go see a shrink. he gets mad like *the opposite of heaven*.. and he talks of killing himself?
in psychiatry, any threat like that should be looked into.
he has some issues that needs resolving.

[mia_princess]

can you at bond with your bro... be a friend not a big sister... sakay sa trip nya... if he wants out, go out pud... be with his crowd... he wants to drink, drink pud. Let him feel comfortable around you. Be not the typical sistah nga cge talk talk about future and the right and wrong... BE his FRIEND... kanang bestfriend material... kanang e welcome nimo iya weakness... It cud be huge shock sa imo nga part basin mka witness ka ug unacceptable behavior nya when you do this pero Be strong lang. Its the only way to get to know your brother... LET him feel wanted pud, ask him unsa iya gusto in every decision making ninyo duha... DOnt be the ate nga cge raka himo ug Rules... I must say GIRLS are stronger emotional when its comes to family matters or It cud be strong personality pud ka mau nga na overcome ra nimo ang weakness back then. You been in his shoes once upon a time so you know d feeling. Dba when were with our friends we can be at our worst and our best as well. Try to be in his level para maka know kung naunsa jud imo bro. Goodluck... DO this while puede pa... basin late na nya ma realize tanan enough nga nalulong na cia sa bisyo ug uban pa. Unsa zodiac sa imo bro?

well..yes..i'm more of an "ate" than a bestfriend to him..i always try to console him..yknow.....just have fun with him..pro usahay kay lisod naman gud....di na kaya sa powers...and right now...wala man pud ko time para ana..go out and have fun.....kay busy man gud ko sa school (i'm graduating)..daghan ang requirements sa duty..napa'y lectures..........lisod........