For me, *** is a must in a SERIOUS and COMMITTED relationship. It is showing the person u love and trust that u comit yourself to him/her. it shows your love and affection when no words can describe it. It really depends on how deep the relationship is and the trust u gave to one another. If your not ready or having 2nd thoughts,, u should not have *** out of pressure. *** is something wonderful to be shared with the one u love and loves u in return.