The Past VS The Present: The New and the Ex-

[ChaosOrb]

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Yeah, agree kaayo ko ani, mas sakit jud kong i.dump lng ka bcoz of a new guy/gurl. Pero mas sakit jud kung and ipuli sa imong girl kay girl ra sad(TOMBOY) or ang ipuli sa imong guy kay guy ra sad(GAY).

[sexy_chic]

f naa mo sa akong place kinsa inyong e choose

ang past---> we've been n a relationshp for 4 yrs na nya ako lang jud xa gibuwagan kay naa xa ka link2x na girl and lain gani au coz cge na cla kuyog2x (coz diffrnt man among skul) nya hatod2x pa sa bai coz neighbors pa jud cla.. and gi ngaan pajud cya sa ila skul na uyab daw cla and chikboy pajud xa... but iya jud na e deny na naay sumthng nila but its hard for me trust him na gani kay kadaghan na bya jud na happen namo na naa xay sumthng going on with other girls thru out sa among relationship..mamakak pajud nya in d long run masakpan pajud na nagkuyog2x cla sa ka2ng ka link nya na girl...then now, he sed na ni change na jud xa and he's trying to win me back... naa paman koi feelings nya coz grabe na bya jud among pinagdaanan den 1st love pajud nko xa...

ang present---> he sed he loves me and ma feel jud nko na pinangga jud ko niya and he really makes me happy jud..and m startng to fall for him too...sayon ra unta 2 kung ipa chus ko kinsa akoa, c past ba o c present, sure jud ko na c present akong pilion...but d prob is naa xay gf for 5 yrs na.. i know bad jud au na naa sad mi affair niya and la man sad jud mi ning xpect na maabot gani ani na na in love nlng ming duha.. samot pa jud kog ka guilty kay na close na nko iyang gf.. i know d ryt thng 2 do s to stay away man jud and believe me im tryng my best to stay away but its hard man gud coz krn na nuon ko nka kita sa person hu makes me hapi and feel jud ko love jud ko niya nya mgpalyo na nuon ko...

i know u guys will probably say na leave both of them and wait for a guy hu will love me and hus single..but thats just it.. la naman koy gana sa mga laki gani... kapuyan nko ba..i know na lahi nlng akong e center sa akong attention like my friends and other hobbies but sumtyms lonely baya and nahan sad jud ko na naa koi sum1...hehe but i have to choose kinsa nilang duha coz na pressured na jud ko...so f naa mo sa akong place... kinsa inyong pilion

[dotskie]

sakto jud ka miss, moingon jud mi nga biyai ang duha.. hehe kay if u chuz past, wa tay xur if mostick ba xa nimo kay 2ngod adtong iya silingan.. nya if u chuz present, kuyaw kaau na kay makaguba kag relationship, den, in the future, karma will bite u back.. dako kaaug possibility nga iya buhaton nimo ang iya nabuhat sa iya gf for 5 yrs...

pero if i wer to chuz jud, id go for the one who my heart is shouting for.. maybe in the future magkalisod mo nya magbasol ka sa imo decision, pero luk at the bryt syd.. at least u went for the one nga nagpalipay nimo..

[nolex]

choose the future inday.. para way libog...

[- rain -]

well... dis s really hard...sayon ra unta mu ingon na w8 for d future nlng but its clear na dapat jud ka ipa chus sa duha..f naa ko sa imong place?? i would go to d 1 i love para walay regrets or watsoever...hehe

[all the ice]

i say you choose Mr. Present. but only if he has completely decided to break up with his girlfriend... but having been on a 4-year long relationship yourself, you know that the feelings and affection for each other doesn't fade overnight. it's gonna be a tough job convincing him that you were worth it. it'll be difficult as well dealing with his soon-to-be exgirlfriend.

your previous boyfriend has too much history involved in him and that kind of behavior is not easy to tame. he may claim that he's changed but you have to ask yourself how long it'll take before he returns to his old self again.

[usrolla]

i'd wa ky pilion...for the reason nga puros man d i commited ang duha..so to avoid complication and future heartaches wa nlang sa duha

[lady_yen89]

sakto jud ka sis, moingon jud mi, na wa kay pilion.

.ni mr. past, ayaw ug tuo daun nga nichange na siya, tan awa usa ug unsa iyang gibuhat, action speaks louder than words baya, if tan aw nimo murag tinud anay na jud iyaha, nakita nimo nga murag naningkamot jud xa magbag-o, then go,,

then ni mr present, naa na xa commitment sa lain, try kuno ug think, if ikaw ang gf ni mr.present unya byaan lang ka sa dakong kasayun, unya niabot na sila ug 5 years, dba sakit? siguro mura lang ka ug nakafeel ug love niya(mr.present) its because, ang wa nimo na feel nga love ni mr.past, nafeel nimo niya.. pero intawn ang karma sis, 3 times ra ba mosumbalik..

if ako ikaw, magwait nalang ko na maabot, si mr. right at the right time,
pero as what i have said, if nakita nimo naningkamot ug imong nakita si mr. past nga nagbag-o jud then go,

[black_vixen]

+ Move on your past. complicated kau iyang life, and mo dungag paka. better to teach him a lesson, by not going back to him. period!
+ it's better that you and your second guy should be friends for now, naa xa gf, and friend pa jed mo iya girl. Wait till the guy mkig.break sa girl, depende sad sa ila love situation duha, if ang girl love sad kau niya ang guy, if naa ka conscience nga ma.louy
ka sa girl nga buwagan lang sa guy, or mo fight ang guy sa feelings nnyo both. masakitan jed ang iya gf. and, murag mang.loud jed xa nimo. Still ang second guy is complicated, and mas complicate pa jed kay naa ka feelings, samtang gamay / wala pa na ni grow imong gugma. i settle lang sa na sa friendship, sa primero sakit jed, sabota lang na ninyo sa guy, kai kamo mka-psakit jed mo ug tao ana. and for me lang ha, any relationship gani nga dili accept/ or naa moy mapasakitan na tao dili jed bless if true/ sincere sad intentions iya partner sa imo guy. pero pude ka choose nlang sa present guy to be your love if willing xa mofight
nimo. .....

[diem]

@sexy_chic, if you cannot answer your own question and resolve your own problem it just indicates that you do not know and trust yourself well.

Truth be told, I think you placed yourself between a rock and a hard place. But the thing is you can get yourself out. If you would only believe that you deserve the decent kind of guy and the right kind of happiness.

I know that being single can be lonely sometimes, but only if you let it.

Come on don't tell me that these two guys are the best you could do... no offense meant but they seem not all that worth it. All I am saying is that you shouldn't have to wait for the right guy to come along but you also shouldn't have to settle between these two.

Being single has its certain freedoms, feel free to browse around-- there are a lot of decent guys out there all you have to do is know where to look. Mostly decent guys can be found involved in civic groups, community sports programs, libraries, church events and other activities.

If you cannot stand yourself being alone, then be involved with something bigger than yourself. Not just your friends-- make new friends or get involved with a cause or a group that allows you to meet and help other people with all the best that you can do.

I believe that each one of us has good something to offer, no matter how little it is.. as long as it is kind and given generously-- it is good indeed. And you only get what you give out, sexy_chic, so please be good and generous with others, forget about yourself a bit, and then I'm sure Life will find a way of giving back to you.

Wishing you all the best in Life and Love! :mrgreen: