HELP Naay kabit ako husband, unsa.on ni nako?

[princess_21]

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maka relate ko sa imong situation sis kay i was also once a victim like you. if nagcge ghapon ang kabuang sa imong bana bisag nasakpan na, leave him! an unfaithful husband is never an easy thing to deal with jud. you better make your move na! patuga man na og minyo imong bana nga super man na ka irresponsable ui. grabe ang infidelity!!!

sakto dyud ka sis...

[princess_21]

pangitag ebidenysa...kanag strong evidence jud...

dayon file ug case "adultery"....

pilay edad sa girl? kung minor...samot pa jud...


so makakwarta paka....

or naa say lain....

i-ampo pag ayo imong bana...St. Augustine was converted due to St. monica's fervent prayers...

naa ko amiga...iya papa grabe ka palikero...naay gyuy pamilya sa lain...unya ila gihapon napasaylo ila papa...daghan nangahitabo...but forgiveness maoy nilabaw...and of course love...

karon maayo kau ila pamilya...

Adultery is only applicable to married women but in this case, it's concubinage not adultery kay ang husband man ang naghimo sa sala.

[princess_21]

you have all the rights to inform the administration of their school about your situation right now. this is a question of morality. once found guilty, the school itself will have to do what should be done with her.

Amen to this.. but not only the girl but also the husband ang possible masibak coz normally under school policies, bawal nang ingana especially if the teacher exercises jurisdiction over the student regardless of whether married and teacher or not.

[raizene]

maybe in this case, basin ang bana wla na ganahe sa iyahang asawa, then wla may divorce dinhi sa atoang nasud so mahulog nlng sa kabit kabit...am i right?

[princess_21]

file annulment! naa koy hibaw-an na mao gyud ni ila expertise mga anullment. pm me if interested ka.

Annulment may be a remedy but not applicable as of the moment since the victim married woman is still in a situation where she is still trying to identify the culprit (the girl).

Siguro, after sya mo file ug administrative action sa school about her husband's deeds (but the victim must take not that dili lang ang girl maoy possible nga matangtang sa school but pati iya husband that's why she must produce strong evidence) and filing a criminal case of concubinage in court, and if proven guilty, then that's the time she may file an annulment case on the ground of "psychological incapacity".

Not all immoral acts of a husband or wife can lead to annulment. Our law provides certain grounds for annulment and this case may or may not be a ground for annulment.

[princess_21]

its like this....pagka 1rst wek sa june, naa cyay gipasulod na O.J.T sa ila trabahu.an nya siya man sad ang ila maistro, wla rato nko kay ingon cya g.f daw to sa iya migo, so wla rapod ko nag mind...pagka dugayan, tagdugay nman cya mo uli unsahay mabuntagan nman nya daghan au cya pasangil nga naa kno cla gitiwas na project ky dina.lian daw, ako ra gyud cya gipasagdan. hantod naabot na gyud ang tym na ako cya gisita kong ngano tagdugay na cya mo uli, iya btaw ko gisinghagan nya gibunalan ko nya og bangko nka hilak gyud ko...hantod na ako na gyud cla nasakpan, ky nagduda nman sad ko sa girl, mao ako gi texan ang girl nya akong gihadlok nga ako cyang ipa survilance kong cya ba gyud ang kabit sa akong bana..nahadlok mana cya, nanawag sa amo nitug.an nga nabiktima kno cya sa akong bana og nagka uyab gyud kno cla...unya sukad ato ni promise na cya nga dli na cya makig kita sa akong bana og dli pod kno niya type ang moguba og pamilya...so wla nko mag mind ky kahibaw jud ko nga wla gyuy secreto nga dli mabulgar og dli masakpan...sos ky nagduda nman sad ko sa ako bana ky ako man gi tan.aw iya wallet naa may sim na lain nya kato nga num iyang na txt nko unya ingon cya nga nanghuwam radaw cya sa iya migo, namakak nsad cya nko...akong gikawat ang sim nya akong gitexan, nsakpan ra ghapon nko cla ky kato na num nga ako gi texan sa klasmyt diay to sa girl unya ni ingon iya klasmyt nga mao kno to nga num ang gitawagan sa girl...so sakpan ra ghapon...ako e confront aqo husband ky mo deny gyud cya, grabe ka bakakon...tagdugay ghapon mo uli bisag iyang mga anak nangasakit ,baliwala ra nya...og ni angkon gyud akong husband na nkasala kno cya nko og nangayo cya og sorry, so ako pod cya gipasaylo...na unsa man hinoon ning hitabo.a nga iya rman ghapon gibihat dri nmo, mamakak ghapon cya nmo, looy na kaau among mga anak, nagkasakit sakit na...gnahan ko nga ako na cyang biyaan...og gusto unta nko nga mka hibaw ang parents sa girl pra ilang mabadlong ilang anak ang problem lng ky dli detail kaau ang address sa girl unsa.on mni nko..taga bogo gyud nang bayhana unya nag abot rna cya dri sa banilad sa green plain daw and i dont know kong asa pod na dpt.....og ask lng unta ko ninyo kong pwede ba mapahawa ang girl sa iyang scol ky akong plano ako unta adtoon sa ilng scol ky gusto ko makick out cya sa iyng gibuhat og adto pod ko mangutanan sa iyng tinood na address og name sa iyng parents...ok bana akong plano??.... plzzzz tambagi ko kng unsa akong buhaton....looy na kaau akong mga anak...3 pa gyud kabook nya ang youngest ky 5 months pa tawon....thank you so much

This is my best, honest, practical, emotional, and legal advice for you based on the facts presented.... but of course it's still your decision coz ikaw man jud ang naa sa situation.

Ayaw sa buwagi imu bana... remember you have 3 kids... even if you have financial capability of raising your kids but your kids will surely suffer the consequences of family break ups and they will surely bring this trauma when they grow up, even if it's not your fault.

Kani ha if you are legally married and ready na jud ka and if wala na jud kay pagbati sa imu bana but if not and naa pa gani kay feelings, ayaw nalang ahata sis kay basin unya in the middle of this process muatras nya ka which would really be a waste of time:

First thing you should do is:

1. Talk to husband again and make a final word that you will end up the relationship not only emotionally but also legally if you find any single evidence of communication with that girl (you are not threatening him but you are simply telling him your plans para dili ka niya mablame for the consequences).

2. Identify the girl (her name and everything about her)

3. If you can't produce it, collect all evidence necessary for proving your claim then go to the school and present it. (They have to take action on this because this may affect the reputation of the school but it will always depend on how you prove it thats why you have to have strong evidence)

4. If they take action, good, but if not, file a criminal case against both of them (that if you are ready for it with evidence on hand) with an action for support while pending litigation for the benefit of your 3 kids kay luoy sila if ingana lang kadali buwagan nimo then walay financial support, magkatawa lang na imu bana.

5. If the court proves them to be guilty, who can opt to file annulment case based on the abovemetioned case if ganahan jud ka nga wala nay strings attached between you and your hubby.

6. Prepare that time will come, your kids will ask you "why?" and you will have a confidence by saying to them.. " I did everything to save the relationship but it didn't work" which will make blameless in the sight of God and of man.



Hope this helps!

[mom_in_cebu]

move on sis...biya=e imong bana...maluoy ka sa mga bata....inig dako nila maka sabot ra na sila sa sitation nimo now....

hays faets...

[okoy]

To some it all up... biya-e na imong bana then try to check after that kung nag-live in na sila... if nag-live in kana kuha-e ug picture dayon ikiha ug adultery para makabalos ka......

Ako mamakak man ko sa akong asawa usahay pero dili anang nag-kabit kabit ko sa tarong nga pama-agi. Kay wala gyud tawon ko ana... hahahaha..... LOL.........

[Arshen]

give force....kill them all

[martiristic]

I am also experiencing the same problem at this stage of my life, I caught my husband twice and the latest is truly unbearable.Naglibog gyud ko unsay akong palabihon. To save the marriage by swallowing my pride or get out and retain my self-respect? Kita ra gyud makatubag ini pinaagi sa pagpaminaw sa mga advices and sort which is applicable to our situation. The advices are of great help to people like us and I hope many more will be willing to share their ideas too...