How do you turn down a persistent suitor?

[P-Chan]

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cg lang P_Chan ako lang sad ingnon akong cuzin na coronel..kung naa ka persistent na suitor nya nahasol naka...jst let me know...hehehehehe...

thanks.. i think i can handle my own problems.. pero if dili na gud ma kaya.. mo PM lnag mwahahaha

[neishan731]

hehe... lingaw kau kasuway nako ani.. akong gbuhat g.ilad nako... akong g.ingnan nga minyo na ko pag 1st... d mo2.o... then akong g.ingnan nana koi anak... d ghapon mo2.o... ako bitaw g.ingnan dretso nlng "unsa pamay isulti nako para makasabot ka sa gusto nako ipasabot?" ataya bogo-ah ang gitubag btw nako... "huh? wat do you mean?" atay! claro ato...

some people just dnt know how to read between a line...so sometimes girls should just say it straight to his face...

[najr]

yeah i believe that girls should explicitly say "no." mao ra. easy as that.

in my case though, i've been persistent and still hanging without a clear answer. at first, after i told her i liked her, she showed extreme interest in me. trust me, she was really into me. but then i made a move, started courting her, and treated her special. she noticed it and kinda backed away. she now sends me these depressing love quotes, and stopped calling me the lambing names we call each other when we were just friends.

i noticed she changed and was avoiding me, so i told her about that. she denied both counts, and even blamed me for being oversensitive, paranoid, etc. so i sent her flowers and said sorry and she liked it alot. still, we communicate, but we're not as close as before i courted her. ok, i tried the "no communication" for a week test. during that span, she sent me three depressing (true) love quotes [letting go..etc.], even when i didnt reply or anything. i guess she cares for me that much huh?

but time after time, she shows me she does care. like when a member of my extended family died, she went out of her way to comfort me. she explicitly told me that she really wanted to comfort me but she felt i didn't want her (pa luod2 daw ko tungod sa iyang pagka walay klaru or maybe her playing mind games with me).

whatever i give her, she always says thanks to. but recently, i made her a really mixed-up poem that kinda gave the message that if i didn't have a chance with her, that i wanted her to tell it to me so i won't be hanging. no reaction. she didnt even thank me for the poem now. right now, my friends told me to give up. but i feel i still have a chance. it's just been 3 months since i courted her anyway.

she's 21. smart. pretty. very friendly. yet, she's an nbsb. dumped a lot of suitors, yet i dunno her ways of doing so. so i'm still guessing.

oh, by the way, it's a long-distance thing. i'll see her at the end of the year.

she's unclear. and she admitted it even before i courted her. she even told me that i might give up on her for that reason.

i take hints at face value. there's nothing definite til she confirms it. i know she's pakipot. but is this normal in its gravity? or is she really turning me down?

comments, suggestions greatly appreciated.

[apple_jane]

just say "no" and never encourage or show any signs that will give the person the hope that you can be together.

[7DMM]

need my help?

[Galadriel]

i told him nga friends ra mi taman and we can never go beyond that level. honesty always works.

[Graecia]

ingna ko siya nga addik ko hehehe

[7DMM]

persistent suitor?! wow sis ang haba ng buhok mo! char! bitaw.maybe naa kay actions nga na misinterpret niya nga naka pa hatag niya ug hope na naa pa siyay chance even nga gibusted nimo siya.bitaw, honesty would be the most suttle way for you to get rid of him.

[bengerboy]

parihasa sa akung gibuhat.......... ayyyyy......... ayaw nlang kay kurat kaayo..


hehehe....

prangkahi nlang nga wafa ra kaayo ka........

[shuen79]

ako gibuhat...ako gisigihan samok...dah!