Scolded for poor grade, boy, 13, hangs himself... :(

[lodyl]

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Scolded for poor grade, boy, 13, hangs himself

CEBU CITY -- A 13-year-old boy was found dead after his mother scolded him for getting a grade of 78.

His younger brother found the teenager hanging from a beam outside the door of a comfort room next to their house in Barangay Lipata, Minglanilla, Cebu at 9:45 a.m. on Wednesday.

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Peter (real name withheld to protect his family) was reportedly confronted by his mother about his poor grades.

“According to the information we got from his mother, he was scolded for getting a 78,” PO1 Ronald Imbralinag said in a phone interview. Police investigators, however, found no note from Peter.

The boy was a first-year student of a private school in Minglanilla. He has one younger brother.

The boys’ mother had already left for work when the younger child found Peter, hanging from a noose made of nylon rope.

Their father works abroad.

Relatives, who heard the younger brother shouting for help, cut off the rope from the beam in a frantic effort to save the boy’s life.

When the police arrived, Peter was already lying on the ground. He was brought to the Minglanilla District Hospital, but doctors declared him dead on arrival.

His parents need to undergo a de-briefing, said an official of the Department of Social Welfare and Development (DSWD).

“What we can do is debrief the whole family. They have to talk things over,” said Jaybee Binghay, DSWD information officer.

Acceptance

“All eyes are on the parents now. (We have to address) survivor’s guilt, especially that of the mother,” she added.

Binghay also suggested, in light of the incident, that schools set up a peer counseling group for students.

In a separate interview, DSWD Family Welfare officer Benjamin Baruc said he has no details on the circumstances surrounding the specific incident.

“There is a need for a deeper study of the relationship of the parents and the children,” he said.

The upbringing of the parents themselves could also be a factor.

“Parents should not compare their children; they should be able to accept the limitations of their children,” he said.

“It is in our culture na makit-an dayon ang diperensya (to notice what’s wrong or missing right away),” said Baruc. “We should highlight what is good in a person. We have to acknowledge their efforts.” (JTG/BAP/Sun.Star Cebu)

Published in the Sun.Star Cebu newspaper on April 14, 2011.

[DEMONOCIETY]

poor lil kid rest in peace na lang

am too scolded by my mom when I was a kid ky bugoy man sa skool wa gani ko tarong grade pero cge ra man kog ngisi am proud to be bugoy

[MoeHan]

“Parents should not compare their children; they should be able to accept the limitations of their children,” he said.

“It is in our culture na makit-an dayon ang diperensya (to notice what’s wrong or missing right away),” said Baruc. “We should highlight what is good in a person. We have to acknowledge their efforts.” --- SAKTO JUD NI.. ka luoy pod sa bata ui.. Parents should give proper guidance to thier children, especially na 13 yrs old pa.

[Blackbeard]

grabe tingali ang pagkasaba pod sa inahan, tho di pod ni iyang sala ky di mn iyang intention na maghikog iyang anak. wa lang jud tingali na take sa bata. unfortunate kaayo.

[mr_kyme]

Bugo man sad gud ang inahan mao na liwat sa anak. So therefore ang inahan na bugo
mao salarin. hehe

[windshock]

may his soul rest in peace....

[emow]

weak lang gyud kaau ang bata.... sauna pud, naay nagpakamatay na bata tungod wala gipalitan ug laptop.... naa gyud mga tao na sobra ka sensitive....

[aLohaBby]

sakto gipang ingon ni msgr. binghay....

"There is a need for a deeper study of the relationship of the parents and the children,” he said.

The upbringing of the parents themselves could also be a factor.

“Parents should not compare their children; they should be able to accept the limitations of their children,” he said.

“It is in our culture na makit-an dayon ang diperensya (to notice what’s wrong or missing right away),” said Baruc. “We should highlight what is good in a person. We have to acknowledge their efforts.”


Positive reinforcement lang unta.... pero what has done cannot be undone... lisoda ani sa family oi... trauma for the parents and for the sibling.... di nako ma imagine the pain they'll be going thru with the loss... and also luoy pud ang 13 y.o boy.. wa na jud siya'y na kit-an nga maayo sa kalibutan siguro mao ng ngpakamatay....

[PaYaSo]

Bugo man sad gud ang inahan mao na liwat sa anak. So therefore ang inahan na bugo
mao salarin. hehe

therefore i conclude dapat sad mghikog ang inahan

[AntitaniC]

that freaking mother doesn't know her children.... now she knows..

poor mother... people will really look for someone to blame...