My father never taught me martial arts, why?

[tophat]

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My father passed away a few years back. Over this time, I learned a few facts about him. He was top martial arts expert in our town during his time...all the bugoy's in our town respected him. He was the trainer for combat arms for his battalion during the war.

But i know him as a peace loving man, in fact I never saw him got angry once.

I wonder why my father never taught me the fighting skills that he trained his soldiers with before? Why must I learn to fight from someone else?

Just wondering...

[sandman2c]

i think i can relate to your father. i am into martial art for quite long time and i also conduct some seminars locally and here in abroad.
Now that i have a 2 year old son and some of my close friends ask me if will i teach my son personally?
tobe honest, it gives me a hard time answering this question. it's a delima on my part.
my answer is to let my son discover his hobby or "hilig" and wait if he will ask for my help.
and thats after i enroll him in another sports base martial art school.

i was really surprise bout this thread.
maybe i was only trying to protect him.

i personally, martial art is a pure hobby o "hilig". it's difficult to explain but i think martial art is in the blood. just like basketball, it just so happened that martial art was a contact sports and also for self defense. thats why few like it and lot of people are sarcastic about it "huh, kablit ra sa tudlo na bai".

i am also confuse on this matter of will i teach or not.
one thing is certain, i will teach him how to survive.

"Run son! rhunnn!!!!


thanks

[bowee]

@TS

your father might have other purpose for you.. it doesnt mean the tricks he learn from the trade, should be rightfully carried by his son..

I'm sure your father is really proud of you, he passed away without hinting any "gift" he can passed to you since he believe that you are the captain of your destiny... It is you who would seek your path, and if you should encounter problems and fights along the way.. He truly believe deep down in his heart, that you could get away with it unscathed and unhurt... He has given you the will to survive.. Deep down you know that inside you...


What matter most, is.. You are the gift that your father is proud of.

[tophat]

my neighbors often ask me, wa diay ka tudloi ni papa nimo? its when i know a few things about papa, little by little, i piece together a broader picture. papa was an intelligence officer during the war. he kept things mostly to himself. he seemed a stranger to me. people think i am a fighter as well, but all i know is run from a fight...just like the song by kenny rogers.

[epoaxlan]

maybe bro nahan lng imo papa modagan ka kong naay gubot kay mas safe man para nimo..if kahibaw man gud ka bro naa jud tendecy nga mopatol jud ka kong naay mohagad away nimo kay u know man naa kay nahibaw.an but dili man all the time ang imong nahibaw.an makatabang nimo, bacn ma disgrasya nya noun ka..

[r3roble]

i can relate to this..
my father was a BAP referee, but he did not teach us how to play basketball...

[kelv]

@r3roble
hehehe..di cguro kahibaw moduwa ug basketball imong papa bro ky wa mn ka nya tudloi. pwde mn ang referee di kahibaw moduwa bsta kahibaw lng cya sa duwa. kung coach pa cguro imo papa or player sa basketball kana tudloan gyud cguro ka nya.

[cywizard]

cguro ang imu papa dli ganahan nga ma-pressure ka kung musulod ka ug martial arts... mapressure ka kay tungod nga maau man kay xa... or basin sad gahulat ra to xa nga magka-interes ka... dli cguro xa ganahan nga pugson ka kung unsa jud dapat imu kahiligan...

[tophat]

sumone told me nga init daw ko ug ulo when i was growing up. basin thats the reason he did not teach me anything. but in d course of my life i was drawn to and became a warrior myself. i just wish papa taught me, and i would be able to preserve his skills not so much about fighting but more on the discipline.

[Cory1986]

As I was reading some of the replies, I got teary eyed . I miss my Papa so bad that i still dream about him