how to come out as a lesbian..?

[ashley85]

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good for you darling_28 coz your family are supportive..i don't know with my friend's parents coz she told me that everybody looks up on her..she's afraid that her mother might be disappointed or frustrated if they'll find out...but i would like to leave these words...'she has to live her life the way it should be'..no pretentions..no hiding..

[hyori]

paimna sya ug SPRITE!!

[ashley85]

and guys, will it be okay for my friend to tell one of her straight friends that she's gay?

she was saying that there were gossips about girl on girl relationships in their office before, but people were not able to prove it..but my friend knew who's that couple coz they were her friends..and now, one of their boss heard about that same *** relationship issue and asked one of her colleagues if she has an idea who's into girl on girl relationship in their company..

[cesski]

@ashley: pretty much, your friend and i are both in the same situation. everybody expects me to be a perfect little thing especially my family. that's why i find it the most difficult to tell my parents.

akong kuyawan jud kay palayason ko sa akong parents. i'm afraid they will disown me. mao nang mangita sa jud kog stable na job para makatug-an najud ko. para okay ra kung palayason ko. bahala na'g i-disown ko.

ang ako rajud masulti sa akong parents kay:

"i never decided on being a lesbian/bisexual. it was never a choice. it wasn't an influence. i am what i am. i am still your daughter. and i'm still the same person you have brought me up to be. but i don't see myself living my life based on lies. so i don't wanna hide it and have to lie about it anymore. basta ma, tay, if you really love me, you'll accept me, just like others have accepted me." -cesski

[colby]

@ TS

Naa pud ka thread na lesbian zone...

what is with this "lesbian" topic that you are curious about...

something is telling me...

[Sand Man]

a.) dude, there's no "masculine" namong duha. we're both soft butch. not every lesbian relationship has an acting male.

b.) i love her smile. i love the fact that she's very down-to-earth. and she loves me for me and has accepted my past and present. and also pinangga kaayo ko niya.

c.) i hate that she's sometimes indecisive.

d.) yes, we do. sahay kay agbay.

what's with the questions by the way?

a)----same as above----=)
b)i love her lips and the way she makes me smile. bsag magtn aw lng ko nya enough nana nko.
c)hmmmm..if naa mi misunderstandings, mkasulti siya sakit na words..=(
d)----same as above----

Bear with me on this lang gud kay you know, someone is gathering info on how to "step out and be free" and we are assisting her.

Anyway, my last question would be: Is there any one of the two of you who thinks that she loves the other more than the other does?


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@ashley: pretty much, your friend and i are both in the same situation. everybody expects me to be a perfect little thing especially my family. that's why i find it the most difficult to tell my parents.

akong kuyawan jud kay palayason ko sa akong parents. i'm afraid they will disown me. mao nang mangita sa jud kog stable na job para makatug-an najud ko. para okay ra kung palayason ko. bahala na'g i-disown ko.

ang ako rajud masulti sa akong parents kay:

"i never decided on being a lesbian/bisexual. it was never a choice. it wasn't an influence. i am what i am. i am still your daughter. and i'm still the same person you have brought me up to be. but i don't see myself living my life based on lies. so i don't wanna hide it and have to lie about it anymore. basta ma, tay, if you really love me, you'll accept me, just like others have accepted me." -cesski

It would be difficult for a parent to accept this sorta thing. Samot na ug makalitan. But to make it easier, try to put yourselves in your parents' shoes and try to visualize how you would react... and then try to find a way to "soften the blow" so to speak.

You know, in the past, homosexuality was considered a mental illness by professionals in medicine, mental health, and the behavioral and social sciences pero di lang gyud nila ma-prove tungod kay kini "normal and positive variations of human sexuality" raman diay. Pag 1973 ra gyud to na-declassify ang homosexuality as a mental disorder.

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@ TS

Naa pud ka thread na lesbian zone...

what is with this "lesbian" topic that you are curious about...

something is telling me...

hehehe It's either she's the one who is coming out or someone she deeply cares about is.

[bosin]

it's with the emotion gyud kay if boy gyud ka dle na gyud na ma lalis

[kitty_kittens]

bilib jud ko aning sandman dah.. naa jud rationale

[ashley85]

@ cesski: she's still afraid to tell her parents..although naa na siya'y stable job..but my friend told me that she thinks her mother already has an idea when she(mother) was fixing her things and she saw a DVD entitled The L Word...but she's not sure though..

@ sandman: i like to meet you in person.. i think you are nice..

[kitty_kittens]

@ cesski: she's still afraid to tell her parents..although naa na siya'y stable job..but my friend told me that she thinks her mother already has an idea when she(mother) was fixing her things and she saw a DVD entitled The L Word...but she's not sure though..

well if kahibaw ia mother unsai storyline/theme sa L word, cguro magka idea xa, pero i doubt it.. wa man kaha gi tan.aw sa ia mother ang dvd? and besides, cguro mag denial pa na ia parents kung mu agi man gae sa ila huna2 na lesb imo friend.. IMO lang ha..