Dealing with In-laws

[Tamblot]

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Yes. You are in love. You both finally decided to tie the knot. In one way or the other, both of you have already gone through the "MEET THE PARENTS" stage. Maybe, everything is all bed of roses. Or maybe, something seems to be a bed of thorns.

Though, a perfect positive in-law bundle is not a fairytale, some if not most of us out there have this in-laws who are or or or just but plain pain-in-the-ass.

if you happen to have any in-laws such as this, please share your styles, tactics, whatever you may call it, on how you deal with them.

They say, there is a way to disagree without being disagreeable. What's your way?

[jugs_06]

me, im not married (still enjoying my youth), but i have encountered a lot of similar situations, in-laws conflict for this matter..

most often, the conflict arises indirectly.. that is, a face-face confrontation between in-laws are not that common.. instead, mang libak nalang..

this is just based on my observation..

[Spec-V]

@Tamblot - The best way to deal w/ them is to kill them w/ Kindness. Keep your Opinions to yourself & avoid side comments. Even if your partner has a beef w/ her siblings or relatives & even she ask your opinion, dont make a comment but if she insist then....chose the right words correctly & be nice. Diplomacia dyud pirme.

[wak_wak]

so far so good man ko sa parents sa ako uyab

pero naka witnessed pud ko mga conflict sa in-laws with the partner of there son.. ahay, unta di nalang mang hilabot, di bitaw sila ang mutapad, ahehehe

[Tamblot]

@Tamblot - The best way to deal w/ them is to kill them w/ Kindness. Keep your Opinions to yourself & avoid side comments. Even if your partner has a beef w/ her siblings or relatives & even she ask your opinion, dont make a comment but if she insist then....chose the right words correctly & be nice. Diplomacia dyud pirme.

yeah right Spec-V. But sometimes, when things seems so big to swallow, diplomacy has the tendency to jump out of the window.

[florevic]

I have a live-in partner, wa mi nagpakasal kay di moatubang ang parents sa ako bf to my family kay di sila ganahan nko. Pero as time pass by, daghan na kaayo sila ug mga istorya against nko. Pero ang ako mama, ok ra sa ako bf, ang ako papa ra ang di ganahan sa ako bf tungod ra sad sa iya family. Ingon ana kagubot ang ako life, we have a 7-month old son.
Within the first year sa amo pagtipon, magpada na ug letter ang ako mom-in-law to my bf nga naay mga bati kaayo nga words against nko. Of course, nagtipon man mi, makabasa jud ko sa letter. Apil sad ug libak nko ang iya mga sister kay di jud daw sila ganahan nko. We are in our 7 years of our relationship and 15 months living together.
Pero bisan giunsa nila ug istorya ang ila anak, wa japon mi magbuwag, coz we know we love each other. Amo lang sila gibalewala. If moanha na sila sa amoa, ako pa ang moluto ana nila, bisan paghugas sa plato, di jud na sila molihok. Magsige ra ug katug, unya moingon sila nko nga akoy bati. Ang ila anak, nag-working since hi skul until college... In fact, wa jud silay natabang sa pag-asenso sa ila anak.
Pero sa ako bahin, moingon lang ko nga "Si kinsa ba sila. Wa man gani sila kabuwag namo before nga uyab pa mi, karon pa hinuon nga nagtipon ug naa na jud mi anak." Mga plastic pa jud kaayo, maayo kaayo sa atubangan nko pro ig wala ko, libakon dayon ko, kana ra ba nga silingan nga makadungog nila, motug-an jud nko. Usahay sad, mahurot na ako patience nila, dili jud sila tagdon nko ig moanha sila sa amo. Anyway, I have the right in that house, wa man sad ko mangau nila para amo kaonon. Sila pa hinuon maoy sige pangayo.
In short, mga baga jud ug mga nawong! Lisod kaayo ug sabot sa mga tawong ingon ana, kay bisan siguro sila wala makasabot kun ngano ingon ana na sila.
Ginoo ray maghukom ana nila. Anyways, wa man koy sala nila. I just love their son, di man siguro kasalanan yun. Di man sad siguro sala sa ako bf kun ngano ingon ana ang iya family.

[Spec-V]

@florevic - Girl....I dunno where you got the strength, but kudos for you for standing by your man. Yeah...thats a typical "In-Laws from Hell"..they crash @ your place, ate your food then leaved without saying thank you. Harsh Language from In-laws are very stingy & unpleasant but hey; those Harsh Language cant kill ya'h.

[florevic]

@florevic - Girl....I dunno where you got the strength, but kudos for you for standing by your man. Yeah...thats a typical "In-Laws from Hell"..they crash @ your place, ate your food then leaved without saying thank you. Harsh Language from In-laws are very stingy & unpleasant but hey; those Harsh Language cant kill ya'h.

Maybe, naging strong ako dahil sa bf ko at sa baby namin.
Mosukol nako nila bisan asa pa mi moabot. Usahay maluoy naman gani ko sa ako kaugalingon, maghunahuna ko kun unsay ako sala nila nga ila man ko daug-daugon. Kapoy bya, pero di na jud ko magpadaug-daog karon ug di nako mohilak tungod nila. Bsan kausa, wa na silay natabang or nahatag namo, sila pa hinuon maoy sige ug pangayo namo. If moingon sila nga didto sila pangayo sa ila anak, moingon ko nila nga naa koy katungod sa ila anak ug nagtrabaho sad ko para di sila kasulti nga ila anak maoy nagpakaon nako.
Sige pa jud ug panghulam ug sapatos, polo shirt, blouse ug kwarta kapin na siguro sa 10k, wa jud bayad-bayad. Moanha ra sa balay nya mokaon, matulog unya mangita kun unsa nasay ikalibak nako. Pagkawala juy mga batasan.
Siguro, mao na ni ako kapalaran... heheheh.
Pero okey ra man nako nga ingon ana na sila nako. Basta kay happy mi.

[marix24_7]

btaw ana jud! Go Gurl!!!
yaw jud paapekto nla. :mrgreen:

[Tamblot]

@florevic: unless you are still not serious about everything, i suggest you two should get married by now. Why?

1. marriage would put you in legal grounds. As for now, you have no right with respect to their son. That is, if we base things according to the law of the land.

2. You already have a son. I know you dont want him to grow as a "bastardo."