Is closure needed for both of us?

[Su-Hae]

---

sagdii lang to cia ts oi..

someday someone's gonna love you! ^^

[browniies]

dili needed ang closure.

ur not commited to him man gd.

if dili nka ganahan ma in contact nya sultie na lang sa cguro pod cya nga

"dont text or call me. i need time for myself for the meantime. hope you'll respect my decision."

ana lang sa cguro. and maybe he'll understand.

[elve_sexy]

yes...maybe...kay wala paman ka kalimot nya..

[bodacious_babe]

@ T/S: since dugay na ni nga thread, i would like to know how you're doing now.

Basically, ako post para ni sa mga ga experience ug parehas nga situation sa pagka karon.

What I know is, wala man kinahanglan closure kung wala jud mo nagka uyab. Personal closure hinuon for yourself dapat naa. Kana ganing ma dawat nimo ba nga wala na jud chance para mo move on na lang ka pero wala bitterness or hatred.

Ako lang gamiton ang example ni T/S ha. And similar man gud ang situation.
I was blessed (gihapon) nga honest ang guy nako about his true motive. That was also one of the things I admired in him cos he did not give me false hope. Prangka siya in telling me that there should be no strings attached. And he was caring enough to make sure i didn't feel sighted or used. Ana ra man na.. mas ma wala ang anger nimo sa taw kung nakita nimo nga wala ka gi pa-asa.

Kung mas makatabang move on ang temporary disappearance, then by all means do that.. to help save the friendship.

[clickmenow]

Hello, Im back on the track..
right now @bodacious_babe, been busy with my career and trainings in my life.. I am away in cebu but then scars leave me no choice but to feel it and learn from it.
I did let go sis.. with all honesty, I lost contact to the guy na. Hearing rumors back and then with friends.. but never pa ko kita nea from 8 months and counting ....

I am feeling alright sis and right now.. I do have learned life in a hard way..

To all the guys out there, if a girl is really sincere with the feelings and ikaw na guy kay naa sa confusing stage coz of comfort zone na gihatag sa gurl than the people that surrounds you then please dont give her a false hope or a signal that could led to catastrophe..

Guys, the time that we shared, the experienced that we had, the laughters and chits chats are gone like a wind because of one MISTAKE. and thats fALLIng in love and no one gonna catches you in the end of the day. There are no win or loss in a game that we played in a tango of life

but then, bottomline, WE wasted so much time. We wasted and got hurt in the end
and I was the one who hurt the most but i am learning in a cool and positive way..


And girls, if a guy find u close to comfort, then don't be misled to some situations u are into. Learn to understand the guy's attitudes and the situation u have. If you cant understand then as much as possible, let go as early as u can..

And to both who acted like lovers and somwat friends, consider the situation and the consequence u have. Ma immature man or dili, please talk samthing serious pod sa inyu(sa inyung duha na current situation).

U may talk nonsense, u may enjoy company with each other.......... but both must act with common sense kung asa jud mo dapit.

I am not asking u to RuSH things but yaw sad padugaya......

learn to evaluate if you're in a kind of situation. Sa ma bootan man or dii, i think this kind of situation, all you need is taLK and learn to understand and meet half way of the bargain.

I dont believe naay torpe na lalaki or hilomon na lalaki, if it comes na ur into her.. then Learn to know what u really want from that person.

Learn to value those who value you.


so far, that mao na ako na learn... and if u disagree on what i am thinking, pls free to drop your thoughts in here.

[leo_trams]

From a guys point of view.

Being close doesnt mean that there is something more than friendship that is in the making.
I have experiences of being close to several girls but all were only up to that...close friends, nothing more. It does not make me a torpe kind of guy. I know the situation that I am into and I dont want to frustrate or disappoint a girl by telling or giving her a false feeling of being 'loved'. When it comes to love I always mean what I say and say what I mean. Malooy ko sa babaye if akong daygan sa akong gugma unya ang tinood wala gyud diay nako siya higugmaa.

For all girls, please dont rush things, dont assume, dont preempt things, just wait and be wary of your 'love environment'. Dont think that because he is showing interest in you he is already into you...he might just be looking for things or characteristic that only he understands so please be patient. The signs you are seeing in him might be the love that you are hoping for but for him he was just trying to be a gentleman, a mr.nice guy, etc while still in the process of getting over a past relationship or while in the process of looking for one.

I admit that there are times that lust takes over but I try to control these by not really taking advantage of the girls weakness...kutob ra gyud ko sa kumot-kumot, kuot-kuot, heavy petting and necking to the point nga murag the girl wants me in....hahaha.but at the back of my mind there is always that feeling of guilt...what if she clings to me pero I dont love her? what if she gets pregnant but I dont love her? kafaet!

Closure is not needed. You should thank your friend that he did not take advantage of your weakness. Or did he? poor guy if you hound him with what the two of you did...poor guy...bwahahaha
Just enjoy the company, have fun but with limits, value the friendship, learn from the experience it will make both of you stronger.


.

[hunyanggo1977]

malay mo ugma damlag mag cross na pod inyo path and next month pakasal na mo... hehehe.

di ta kabalo sa mahitabo, kay kita gasubay lang sa nagliko likong dalan...

[clickmenow]

@leo_trams Thank you for endowing here in my thread anD give us some a truth tale about a guy's thinking to a girl. Yes you might have the point in telling those things to us.. but as what people have quote and unquote, it is easy said than done...but really i will put in my little brain about those words you have type in here and make it a good guidelines in a ruling of interaction to different unique opposite ***. dont worry, what ever I do, I never blamed and hate him coz I am old enaf at my age of 22 to know it. So no regrets in the end..and by the way, before we part ways.. we did some closure and have a heart to heart talk alone. and so i learned and i understand...

@hunyanggo1977 - i am not in a wishful thinking nor in a hoping stage to meet him or not along the cross roads although I keep dreaming here once in a week or so... but whatever happens to my life, i wont find scapegoat and blamed my past deeds. Still, I act and decide for it, still I have to stand from it. Malay natin.. but then what ifs are for children ploy and I am with present flow than from an idealistic child. its against reality and the REAL world.

@to all, i know each one have this kind of situation may it from the past or still in the current state.. this is our just purely POVS in life but then, it is still ur life on how to mold and act from it. Just enjoyed life when u know the fall back is 3x(3 times) harder than u expect.

[abewtifulmind]

usa ra jud akong maesulte... "kung taas ka og pasencya... naa kay maayo nga moabot".... yaw ang gud pagdali dali dha.... let it flow lang sa

[anjerika]

in its strictest sense, di mo uyab so di mo kailangan og closure.


kasuway ko ana imong sitwasyon kaniadto TS (di na lang ko mu elaborate)

but frankly di na ninyo kailangan mag closure. end of the story.