Is love a feeling or a decision?

[butbuton]

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Love is a decision...

[jd_iceblizzard]

love is not a feeling nor a decision...
for me its a commitment...

[czharlloutte]

feeling jed na but imo jed kinahanglan desisyonan if e pyt ba nimo okez?

[miss tapya]

Let me Share with u this forwared msg from a friend....

Love is a DECISION
I WANT TO SHARE THIS MESSAGE WITH YOU. WHETHER YOU ARE
MARRIED OR NOT I HOPE YOU'LL GET SOMETHING FROM IT:
During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common
question. She said, "How do I know if I married the
right person?"
I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to
her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?"
In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"
Let me answer this question because chances are good
that it's weighing on your mind. Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you
fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their
call, wanted their touch, and liked their
idiosyncrasies. Falling in love with your spouse
wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and
spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO
anything. That's why it's called "falling" in
love..... because it's happening TO YOU.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my
feet." Think about the imagery of that _expression. It
implies that you were just standing there; doing
nothing, and then something came along and happened TO
YOU. Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and
spontaneous experience. But after a few years of
marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural
cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone
calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is
not always welcome (when it happens), and your
spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive
you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every
relationship, but if you think about your marriage,
you will notice a dramatic difference between the
initial stage when you were in love and a much duller
or even angry subsequent stage. At this point, you
and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry
the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect
on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may
begin to desire that experience with someone else.
This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their
spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their
marriage for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment
comes in all shapes and sizes. INFIDELITY is the most
obvious. But sometimes people turn to WORK, CHURCH, a
HOBBY, a FRIENDSHIP, EXCESSIVE TV, or ABUSIVE
SUBSTANCES. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT
lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not
saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone
else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better.
But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (read this carefully ): THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING
IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S
LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous
experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You cannot
"find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and
day out. That's what we call "the labor of love."
Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most
importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO
DO to make your marriage work. Make no mistake about
it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things
you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed
with your marriage. Just as there are physical laws of
the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws
for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise
program makes you physically stronger, certain habits
in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger.
It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply
the laws, the results are predictable... you can
"make" LOVE.
REMEMBER: Love in marriage is indeed a "DECISION"...
not just a feeling.

[belai]

you have to decide on what you really feels

[Tamblot]

its a biological reaction. credits are due to the human nervous system.

[wak_wak]

both.. decision and feeling

[nadine eidloth]

feelings, kay kung decision pa walay magpaka marter. desisyon lang gud kabalo naka daan nga mali or tama but kung love nimo dili man gud ka kakita sa mali mao na nga dili ka desisyon ug tarong kay nag follow ra ka sa imong gibati. walakay pakialam sakto ba or sayop ang imong gitan aw. ang importante mahatagan ug pagtagad imong gibati. maona feelings ang love dili desisyon. unsay pagtoo negosyo nga desisyon ang definition sa success. sa gugma nga aspeto makaingon ka nga successfull ka kung ang imong pagbati natagaan ug tugbang nga pagbati nagdto sa tawo nga imong gitamod mapa sakto or sayop sa mata sa ubang tawo.

[LaBelleza]

Love should be felt and not decided. Breaking up is a decision coz there's no more feeling or it's different..
U wouldn't choose who to love in ur family now would u.
Love feels gooooooood

[lover_online]

both a feeling and a decision....