I don't believe in determinism... I believe that everything we do here on earth is our doing.... and that whatever we strive for we work for it.... ALONE....
To you, Miss.... I suggest that you take a look at yourself... if you think the relationship you are in does not make feel much of a person seeking out to be someone else... a person who not only depends on another person to be able to rise up from the depths of hell... then.. perhaps ending that relationship would be good..
but if you would look closer at the benefits you get from that relationship?... then perhaps you try to work a little harder... then if still to no avail.. quit...