Is closure needed for both of us?

[esotericlove]

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hehehe, nasakitan nako sis coz for the past month.. honestly. I did expect na dili baya dapat.. hahayst.. human jud ko.. OA ra kaau.. but now im slowly learning jud... coz once the heart is given, its really hard to take it back. especially if serious jud ka sa taw.. hahayst.. c rH na lang ako true lab ani oi..

SIS, naka experienced jud ko ana kaya be happy nalang muna na friends mo..enjoy every moment and be open for anything nalang na possibilities..

[mrnice4u]

i think you are feeling this way coz you are expecting something from both of you...

people here are right just be open to any possibilities and just enjoy each day...

treat him as a friend and don't think more than that...

at least you won't get to be hurt...

[jennilexshop]

hinay hinay lang sis ... maybe nag step by step pa na cxa

[annerhexian]

As i read the thread.. something hit me and realized more than i expected to turn out..

People might say - dont do closure for oNLY lovers are intended of it.. bout wat about friendship?flings? ff? wat about the word "us" even it is not officially "us".. (watever form of relationship is it) but then.. will it benefits for both of u.. closure... in order to close feelings - u tend to resort closure.. Will talking change the fact that is already on ur face....
Some words are better left unsaid and i hope sis in this situation.. this might fit u..

I dont know wat to think sis,... neither I dont judge u. coz I for one.. experience this kind of thinking.. and till now.. its a worst than thinking and resolving coz in the first place.. ghost that hunt u, its only u who made it.. coz MAYBE the other party is not affected or dont know.. I Dont want 2 judge the guy coz accdng to u - he is a good man and yet he will never be urs... for some facts and esp that guy is inlove with ex...

What insecurity u felt.. U mite think.. its the ex - the past.. but i think.. its the guy'e heart.. coz watever u do.. no matter how sincere u are.. some feelings are not meant for u coz that special feelings are meant nothing but only to that ex..

I think sis.. closure or not.. In pain and in remorse moments.. Bitter or ur at worst...

First accept the facts in the present.. and bit by bit.. pieces by pieces.. if mazes are still puzzling.. then let it be.., dont make an effort for once upon a time.. U did ur part but its just not a good timing back then..Just observe, enjoy the "friendship", dont be to obsessive neither to clingy to him and Dont expect too much esp to ur situation right now..

Ur so weary right now.. and inspite of it.. yet, U felt the same feelings.. Same feelings na u wanted to move on,,, den move away.. keep a distance.. and if the guy needed u as friend. then be there.. but dont lost ur grip to open ur heart for another feelings to grow.. coz thats insanity beyond ur limits na jud..

well, let it sink.. but then.. learned from it.. coz all u have left - NOTHING but memories.. and let it be till it will dry to cold and be a whole again without him... and without the feelings u felt from him..



Hope life and love might be at stake at the moment.. but pattern well ur life.. as well as ur heart..
b Strong and watever is ur decision.. learn to see the both side of each story and consequences..



God bless then..

listen to this nalang sis.. din pahipi ok? : http://www.getacd.org/listen_qJUP-Gc...cover_english_

[clickmenow]

mixed signals---yeah bcoz he gets comfort from u everytym mingawon xa sa iyang ex ur there to fill in his emptiness...how long wud u want to be treated this way?dba u said mahug ra ka ug meantime girl?thats y maglibog ka ky f d xa magkinahanglan nmo cold xa bt f mgknahanglan xa nmo mangita xa nmo and ikaw sad, tungod lge ky love nmo xa, naa sad daun ka...bt sis, connect the dots...for me lng ha, gi take advantage nmn ka...wat else do u need to know?bt its up to u...watever ur decision is, suport ra mi nmo...

lets say u lost ur pride, now dignity is all u hav...get hold of it...never let anyone degrade urself...kaya mo yan sis...

Thanks sis! kayanun jud.. ako gud na sudlan mao kabalo sad ko mo gawas.. heheehhe

[clickmenow]

As i read the thread.. something hit me and realized more than i expected to turn out..

People might say - dont do closure for oNLY lovers are intended of it.. bout wat about friendship?flings? ff? wat about the word "us" even it is not officially "us".. (watever form of relationship is it) but then.. will it benefits for both of u.. closure... in order to close feelings - u tend to resort closure.. Will talking change the fact that is already on ur face....
Some words are better left unsaid and i hope sis in this situation.. this might fit u..

I dont know wat to think sis,... neither I dont judge u. coz I for one.. experience this kind of thinking.. and till now.. its a worst than thinking and resolving coz in the first place.. ghost that hunt u, its only u who made it.. coz MAYBE the other party is not affected or dont know.. I Dont want 2 judge the guy coz accdng to u - he is a good man and yet he will never be urs... for some facts and esp that guy is inlove with ex...

What insecurity u felt.. U mite think.. its the ex - the past.. but i think.. its the guy'e heart.. coz watever u do.. no matter how sincere u are.. some feelings are not meant for u coz that special feelings are meant nothing but only to that ex..

I think sis.. closure or not.. In pain and in remorse moments.. Bitter or ur at worst...

First accept the facts in the present.. and bit by bit.. pieces by pieces.. if mazes are still puzzling.. then let it be.., dont make an effort for once upon a time.. U did ur part but its just not a good timing back then..Just observe, enjoy the "friendship", dont be to obsessive neither to clingy to him and Dont expect too much esp to ur situation right now..

Ur so weary right now.. and inspite of it.. yet, U felt the same feelings.. Same feelings na u wanted to move on,,, den move away.. keep a distance.. and if the guy needed u as friend. then be there.. but dont lost ur grip to open ur heart for another feelings to grow.. coz thats insanity beyond ur limits na jud..

well, let it sink.. but then.. learned from it.. coz all u have left - NOTHING but memories.. and let it be till it will dry to cold and be a whole again without him... and without the feelings u felt from him..



Hope life and love might be at stake at the moment.. but pattern well ur life.. as well as ur heart..
b Strong and watever is ur decision.. learn to see the both side of each story and consequences..



God bless then..

listen to this nalang sis.. din pahipi ok? : AN.JELL- Without Words Cover (english) - Listen - GetaCD.org / QJUP-GclgcM

Thanks sa imo advise sis or bro ba? hehehe... confusing gamay.... grabe.. taas jud kaayu but true jud tanan..

I made up my mind.. eletgo sa nko ang feelings as of now.. ug dili pakita nea as a friend..

And when time comes na ok na ko.. din mao na time mo balik ko niya as a friend and if dili ko dawaton nea as a friend or stranger nako - DIN DAWATON sad ko na.... I have to face the consequences on my decision as well..

honestly duration sa among kita.. I never treated him as friend.. and never will be... his special to me eventhough dili ko special niya.. Will accept the truth jud.

Sorry ha. but honest lang jud ko sa ako na feel ba... mao palayu sa ko og ako sa n elet go.. para mawala sad ang sakit and pain.. AKO ra man gud ma ka help sa ako self and no one.. so i have to think for my self sa, as of now.

[mykus]

sis got my opinion here...remmebr ne-ingon cya ug na ma-tempt cya wen mankuyog mo..da mere fact bout it is that lain ang iyang tumong pero iya lang gipugngan..cguro kay suod mo..der myt times nga makathink cya nga uyabon ka niya but cguro mas macompare ka niya sa iyang xgf..cguro naa mga difference kay ang taw nga ganahan jud nimo..wla manay duhaduha nga panguyaban ka...cguro hisgot cya sa iyang xgf na inlove cya nya dli na cya gusto balikan but cguro mas labaw pa iyang gusto sa babae nga wla niya makita sa emoha...sori to be frank..he goes out with u?ayt..cguro gusto lang cya malaingaw nga naa cya companion..

ako suggest nimo..y man d.i ug friends lang mo..cguro nag-expek mansad gud ka ug sumting niya mao ingon ana emong mindset karon..better go out with someone..pasagde.e nlang na siya..da more ka magcgeg kuyog da more ka masakitan..

[maitoots]

sometimes sis there are things better left unsaid. give yourself a break lang sa.. if you want to go away from him, i think a simple pananghid will be more than enough. don't worry kay if kamo jud, time and chances will always find a way

[heisenberg69]

utro sad ni nga topic...unsay CLOSURE?ok RAKA dili man gali mo UYAB tapos CLOSUREoi inday taronga sa og sabot ang GUGMA ha..usa ka mo post diri...murag ako raman ang pranka kaau diri mo storya...yaw tawn mo pataka og post..napa kay pina CLOSURE....murag KOREK!

[clickmenow]

sis got my opinion here...remmebr ne-ingon cya ug na ma-tempt cya wen mankuyog mo..da mere fact bout it is that lain ang iyang tumong pero iya lang gipugngan..cguro kay suod mo..der myt times nga makathink cya nga uyabon ka niya but cguro mas macompare ka niya sa iyang xgf..cguro naa mga difference kay ang taw nga ganahan jud nimo..wla manay duhaduha nga panguyaban ka...cguro hisgot cya sa iyang xgf na inlove cya nya dli na cya gusto balikan but cguro mas labaw pa iyang gusto sa babae nga wla niya makita sa emoha...sori to be frank..he goes out with u?ayt..cguro gusto lang cya malaingaw nga naa cya companion..

ako suggest nimo..y man d.i ug friends lang mo..cguro nag-expek mansad gud ka ug sumting niya mao ingon ana emong mindset karon..better go out with someone..pasagde.e nlang na siya..da more ka magcgeg kuyog da more ka masakitan..

with respect sa imong POV. yes.. i think ur true in many instances jud..

we never started something as a friend jud, but maybe u can categorized that one as FLINGS.
yah, ma tempt jud cea nako.. na iya ta tan aw nako - gi prankahan mn jud ko ana nea.. as a FRIEND ra jud but everytime we see each other.. ma ka limot cea unsa among status duha.

The guy as I observed lang ha, least as i respected him, His words is confusion through actions. He acted like somehow, somewhere like I am special to him or maybe mere sweet actions is not enaf for signs..

Yah, na lingaw guru cea nako sis.. in a way..
ni ana baya cea nako - na kung unsa ako ipakita - mao sad iyang ipakita.
So if ako cea gitarung - well tarungon sad ko nea.. and KODUS for him coz in a way gitarung sad ko nea.. but I have to accept the facts jud like what people advises me here.. and what I have seen in the situation as well..

Your suggestion is good also - yah why make friends with him..? Yes being a friend with him is good.. I value friendship as well more than my self.. but then.. I have to do some mind setting and be more firmed about to let go of the feelings before ko mo balik nea as a "FRIEND".. no malice and no expectation..

coz karon na instances sis.. bisag unsaon pogong guru nko.. mo balik og mo balik man gud ug wala jud nako na tuyo a.. so had to choice things which i think a more logic thing than an emotionally sto away.. I had to end d' communication and link with him for my own good..

Selfish cea sa? but thats the best option ive got in my pocket now.