What to do if your husband to be don't want u to help your family?

[RainDrizzle07]

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Ako jud money but iya lang daw is cge ko tabang why not ako i prioritized ang amo upcoming family duha. cya man gud sad nka experience na no matter unsa kadako imo mhtag sa imo family still dili na enough pra nila..so turn out na ikaw gyapon bad ...sa ako lang man gud i really love my family also but if i will let go this guy i dont know if maka kita pa pod ko pareha nya ka responsible ...cguro dili man jud perfect ang tawo but grabe lang jud pod ang gidili nya nko...pwerti kalisod buhaton....ako papa not always man ask ug tabang but my brother is lge monthly jud maski gmay ra but sa ako pa bf gitabangan daw nko ug samot kata pulan...mg lisod lang sad jud ko ug talikod pod sako family.

I perfectly understand your situation and yes naay point imong fiancee with regards na imong gtabangan ang imong brother ug katapulan, is your brother working already? or dli pd maka sulod trabaho coz drop out? louy sad imong bro ug mag cge xa salig nmo kay maabot man jud ang time na dli na jud ka makahatag nya bsag piso puhon, specially if naa nay baby and all.

storyae nlng nin u, like mag set nlng ka ug amount every month na mao ra imo ma spare sa imong family. ana nlng jud nah.. COMPROMISE nlng jud moh..pasabta nlng pd xa..

I really don't want to sound nosy, still I wanna ask if.. naa namo savings para unya sa inyong ka minyoon?

pero lahi2x jud ang situation sa taw..

kami sa ako bf, though wla pa jud sa among plano ang magpa sakal..(bata paman sad mi ^_^ )

iyahang sweldo is ako jud iya pa kopton pero ako xa ingnon na since imo ma ng kwarta so bahala ka nsa imo buhaton anah, sa ako pud money same rah, pero sa ako sweldo dako jud kaayo na ug cut ako mama and ako brother (which I really don't mind coz I'm single baya)

pero dli man mi maghilabtanay baya same sa imoha, uu usahay mo ingn pd xa nako na dli lang ko palabeh hatag kay dako2x man sad jud ko mahatag sa ako mama..nya ang ending kay ako nay wlay kwarta usahay. pero okey ra nah kay single gd ko, wla jud koy ghuna2x bah..pamplite ra ug para kaon nako.. nya palit personal stuff,maka food trip ko sa ako fave food.. "'nanarbaho gani ko para sa ako mama & bro" nya dli na noon ko mohatag nla? hehe ingon ana pd btaw ang akong logic.

storyae lang jud na nin u.. pasabta lang jud xa.
set nlng pd ug amount na asa mo mag abot sa imong fiancee na imong ihatag
every month sa imong family.

I know is easier said than done, pero kaila nmn cguro kayha jud ka sau fiancee? xaro dli na nin u mastoryaan dba? ^_^

Wish you all the best!!
Congratulations ^_^

[miramax]

Ako jud money but iya lang daw is cge ko tabang why not ako i prioritized ang amo upcoming family duha. cya man gud sad nka experience na no matter unsa kadako imo mhtag sa imo family still dili na enough pra nila..so turn out na ikaw gyapon bad ...sa ako lang man gud i really love my family also but if i will let go this guy i dont know if maka kita pa pod ko pareha nya ka responsible ...cguro dili man jud perfect ang tawo but grabe lang jud pod ang gidili nya nko...pwerti kalisod buhaton....ako papa not always man ask ug tabang but my brother is lge monthly jud maski gmay ra but sa ako pa bf gitabangan daw nko ug samot kata pulan...mg lisod lang sad jud ko ug talikod pod sako family.

Dah lagi jud! may point jud imo bf girl...
It happened to me b4 sa ako sibling naka bf sad ko ug rich naguy ako utol has masteral's degree and graduated from one of the most prestigious schools in Phils.yet mas madiskarte ko sa iyaha,i need to send our mom monthly allowance nya ngayo pud sya 8K ra gud.
My bf pitied me in that situation mora daw ko bibingka, kayo sa ubos ug ibabaw.
He suggested nah e-petition na lang ako bro diri sa gawas para mabawasan daw ako burden.

So,naka-abroad jud ako utol, he was single during dat tym and he promised to provide financial assistance to our mom, pag-abot sa gawas, wa pay tuig nagminyo dayon. One tym neborrow ko niya money, sus, paet kay geinteresan pah, morag laing tawo.

Again sis, naay point imo bana, maihap ra sa tudlo ang kaliwat motabang nato if kita maoy wala yamo.
I would suggest dat, why not give them some means of income, like small biz.

We have this old saying " don't lit a fire for a man, instead teach him how to make fire himself"

[freesoulyra]

Dah lagi jud! may point jud imo bf girl...
It happened to me b4 sa ako sibling naka bf sad ko ug rich naguy ako utol has masteral's degree and graduated from one of the most prestigious schools in Phils.yet mas madiskarte ko sa iyaha,i need to send our mom monthly allowance nya ngayo pud sya 8K ra gud.
My bf pitied me in that situation mora daw ko bibingka, kayo sa ubos ug ibabaw.
He suggested nah e-petition na lang ako bro diri sa gawas para mabawasan daw ako burden.

So,naka-abroad jud ako utol, he was single during dat tym and he promised to provide financial assistance to our mom, pag-abot sa gawas, wa pay tuig nagminyo dayon. One tym neborrow ko niya money, sus, paet kay geinteresan pah, morag laing tawo.

Again sis, naay point imo bana, maihap ra sa tudlo ang kaliwat motabang nato if kita maoy wala yamo.
I would suggest dat, why not give them some means of income, like small biz.

We have this old saying " don't lit a fire for a man, instead teach him how to make fire himself"

Thanks sis for the enlightenment , I'll ask my bf if I could just help my brother for the last time to start a small biz then after that wla na dayon...but murag grabe ni na explanation mahitabo....I'll just try my luck.

[heisenberg69]

easy la...find another husband la...walawi

[xxSTARLIGHT]

weLL he sucks! such a seLfish bastard..

[rambutan]

nag skuyla pa imu bro ? pa tiwasa lang na xa, after that, xa na pod support sa imu parents.. then, sabot lang mo imu partner na bisag 5% lang sa monthly or even lower, depende sa imu capacity.. then the rest is for ur upcomming family.. istoryai ra na oi.. ayaw mo pagbuwag. basin diay.. hehehe

[jjalman]

sis m xur mka realize rnah imung husband to be..sayang unta kaau imbis xa mu make decisions in the future murg lahi man nuon ya gnhan..pero lets not be bias,bcn pd naa rnah g.feel nga bati xa toward sa imu fam..bcn soon mu heal na ang hurt and mwla na tanan dumot

[a_girl]

na parehas jud ta sis...akog bf ky nsik....kana lge naa na kunu tay atog own family mag build nman konu ta ug fundtion..so much btter mag storya jud mo kay di man gud lalim sa financial kug naa namuy family and for d futur sa inyug bby naa cge pagau.. ones gane mu grab naka for married thngy,u hav to tok to ur fam..na mo help ka but naa na gap gamay kay mg thnk nabya ka for d future.


my gne ka naa u bz..daan but ag probs lg anah ag mga relativ man gud mag anad...kug kahibw xla u bz....let urself be open to dm na di na pwede mg depend xla nimo kay kug mag menyo ka..di na maau ikaw gihapon mag dupa anah nila...
naa rjud na u decsyon tanan..but keep it n ur mind na mo help ka n ur ways na di sd burden sa imog syd..responsble man kaha xa so..mao na ya gi huna2 sa inyug future for ur own kids...dont doubt sis...pag tok mo unsay negatv and positv sa topic and balance it,think...always think..dont ever doubt it cn mke a wrong decision..pray always..god bless..^^

[mYta82]

well you have 2 try really hard 2 wxplain to him what d situation is and really hope he would understand....if all else fails well..wa jud kay mabuhat...=(

[freesoulyra]

thanks sa tnan ng hatag ug advise. I'll make it sure na ako desisyon is dili unfair sako family ug sako husband to be...I am praying hard that mg meet me half way sako bf otherwise naa jud ko ma sacrifice either my family or him.