please help me guys

[confusemom]

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guys i need ur help im so confuse kasi eh bwt my marriage
here it goes

im so confuse kasi ngayon nd wla akong ibang mkausap coz i dnt trust my friends nor my sisters coz f they will know abwt this im sure they will scold me so i decided 2 join this site coz my frnd is a member here i really need ur advices

im from pampanga but i studied there in cebu when i was in college, when i was studying in 1 of the prestigious campus in cebu i meet my 1st bf we've been 4 years together as bf/gf we've made promises na wen we graduate we'll get married wer so close talaga kasi mag skulmates lng kami pero ahead ako sa knya ng 1year.

sa 4 yrs. nmin pagsasama sweet tlaga kami nd close sa mga family namin nd npka bait tlaga nya i promised to myself nga na i wont marry any man kng hndi lng sya until nag graduate ako ng college and nkapag trabaho sa cebu din.

i met lots of friends naging mhilig akong gumumik ksama mga frnds ko nd yung bf ko busy sa skul nia so wla cyang tym sa akin nd parang ngkalayu na ang landas nmin kasi d na kmi mdalas mgkasama nd may nakilala ako pinsan sya ng oficemate ko gwapo cya, mtangkad at matalino tapos mabait din.

ewan bt bigla nlng dumating ang araw na ndevelop ako sa knya lagi kasi kaming mgkasama nd pg mgkasama kami nlilimutan ko ang bf ko nd parang na feel ko na rin na hindi ko na mahal ang bf ko hanggang sa may ngyari sa amin at nbuntis ako.

inalok nya ako mgpakasal at pumayag nman ako kasi nga akala ko mahal ko na sya nsaktan ang bf ko at ngpakalayo sya sa amin ng trabaho sya sa malayo.

wer living hapily with my husband nd my little boy until 1 day i met my ex bf umuwi na pala sya after 6mos. lng na pg ta trabaho kasi d nya nakaya sa malayo. humingi sya ng number sa akin at nag te txt kmi ng tatawagan hanggang sa ngkita kami at may nangyari sa amin.

inamin nya sa akin na mahal nya parin ako at bumalik ang pagmamahal ko sa kanya na realize ko kasi na iba ang asawa ko sa kanya mas mahal ako ng ex ko kysa husband ko mas caring sya sa akin at pnapakita nya parin na mahal nya ako.

gulong gulo na ako coz bumabalik ang love ko sa kanya kinikilig ako pag mgkasama kami dalawa.
dalawang beses lng may ngyari sa amin pero madalas kami mgkita i dnt knw what to do coz i love him na tlaga ulit.

cnt help but cry nd magsisi kng bakit ng asawa ako at hindi ko sya nahintay i know he still loves me d way he loved me b4 bt im already married so wla na akong mgawa. gusto ko hiwalayan ang asawa ko at bumalik sa ex ko pero kawawa nman ang anak ko.

please help me guys how can i forget my ex nd start my life wd my husband nd my boy?
please i really need ur help i wanna forget my ex bt i dnt knw how.

somtmes napapa isip ako iwan ko nlng ang asawa ko at sumama sa knya pero may pumipigil dn sa konsensya ko. please i badly need your advices.

thanks in advance

[cp103]

on behalf of the other istoryans confusemom, i'm sorry sa inasal ng ibang tao sa cb... anyway, it would be better if we could talk via pm so that i will be able to communicate better. And at least, malaman mo rin the males point of view dba? hindi lang sa female... well, if you want to talk to someone, you can always reach me via my ym, act_1983@yahoo.com ...

For now, this is the only piece of advice i can tell you. Pray to God and ask for forgiveness and enlightenment, and He will surely show you the way.

[isaac95]

Why settle for less when you could have more?

You had a perfect family, with your husband and your baby... Try to accept the reality that you are already married, you must love your current husband. Don't be selfish, try to stop seeing your ex. Everytime you see each other the more "kiligs" you were slowly inlove again with your ex.

Pray to God to guide and enlighten your mind. Try to forget the past and focus on the present. Treasure your family, think twice before you've any decisions. It's a big SIN not only in the eyes of Men but in the Eyes of God. Your commited to someone else (your hubby), don't let yourself go with the flow of treachery....

Contentment is must... Trust and Love are the best weapons to defeat the homewreckers.... especially the Power of God's blessing may help your realize the true meaning of marriage.

Face the challenges and realities of life... stay home and gave your LOVE to your Son and your husband...

[kiekim]

If you play with fire then surely you'll get burned..tsk tsk tsk! you're so weak that you let your emotions get carried away AGAIN so easily,please be wise in choosing and making your decisions,don't just think about yourself solely,think about your husband and most importantly your KID..your "family" if you do undestand what the word means in every sense of it,ask yourself what have they done to you that they deserved such actions now coming from you...its too late now to ponder on the past when you actually have the reality now,simply there's no excuse of your actions since it seems your husband appeared to be a good man...save your family for your kid's sake and please resist temptations,temptation is temptation.

[confusemom]

salamat sa mga advices nyo siguro nga im too weak
may kasalanan din nman ako sa ex ko coz i didnt wait for him and i broke our promise to each other
i have given him so much pain and now im facing the pains i have caused him before

[isaac95]

If you play with fire then surely you'll get burned..tsk tsk tsk! you're so weak that you let your emotions get carried away AGAIN so easily,please be wise in choosing and making your decisions,don't just think about yourself solely,think about your husband and most importantly your KID..your "family" if you do undestand what the word means in every sense of it,ask yourself what have they done to you that they deserved such actions now coming from you...its too late now to ponder on the past when you actually have the reality now,simply there's no excuse of your actions since it seems your husband appeared to be a good man...save your family for your kid's sake and please resist temptations,temptation is temptation.

Agree on this!!!

It's quite unfair on your husband... He didn't know the real score...

Always remember that... "Ang pagsisi ay nasa Huli"

[confusemom]

kaya nga nag register nlng ako dito kasi gusto ko may maka usap wla kasi akong mga close friends mga kapatid ko d rin pwede kasi busy sila gusto ko kausapin ang asawa ko pero d ko kaya sabihin sa kanya dapat ba akong amging honest?

nasa pampanga kasi sya nako konsensya na nga ako pero hindi ko msabi sa knya coz i dont wanna lose my boy i know ilalayo nya sa aki ang anak ko pag nalaman nya.

[Tirong-say]

You're too confused, settle with your present husband, he has the person of more weigh for he is the father of your child and the person you marry, what you did with your x was totally foolish (no offense), you should be principled enough to cling on as a good wife for your husband, indulging oneself into marriage requires faithfulness, love and commitment. Napakapusok ng puso mo.........

[gnox]

kilig moments will just fade away. How sure are you that if you go with ur ex now you will not fall in love with other guys as well? Stay with your family, don't entertain your ex anymore.

[blueangel_88]

sis, i've been into that "quite similar situation before.." i used to fall in love with somebody else after my husband and i decided to separate for a short time but at that time, we still dont have a child yet.. its really very hard and i struggled so hard to overcome it even if inside, its killing me.. its painful, yes it is..but i choose to give up my feelings and do what i think is right..Pray to GOd para maliwanagan ka and always remember to stay away from your ex.. don't ever communicate with him anymore because dat won't help u..keep yourself busy and isipin mo na lang na what would u feel if u'l put yourself in your husband's shoes.. masasaktan ka din pag ginawa sa yo 'yan di ba?.. kaya mo yan Sis, just hold on and always seek guidance from the Lord.