Stupid Basketball Addiction Problem Pls Help

[Dr Hidden Ko]

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Okay, I'm posting this here because I'm sure some of you have encountered this kind or problem.
It starts with one of my uncle. Since he was young hes been good with basketball... in an average way for me, and he keeps dreaming of becoming a PBA player. He dropped out of school just to play basketball, went to his 30's doing nothing but basketball, he got married without any employment, his wife left him because he is of no help because all he want's to do is play basketball, now he is in his 50's, his son is the one working so that they have food on their table and he still dreams of becoming a PBA player... and still plays basketball!!!

NOW, I have 2 cousin's that seems to have made him their role model. All they do is play basketball, one is 21 yrs old and the other one is 26 years old and all they do from morning till evening is play basketball and dream of becoming a PBA player... how could they become a PBA player if they don't even want to attend college... and worse of all... they both have a child, both of them impregnated their girlfriends... or should I say groupies. One just a month old and the other one is almost a year old. Both of them don't want to work, both of them just rely on their mother to raise their kids... I feel pity for their mom because she seems to have given up hope for his 2 boys, and I feel sorry for the future of their kids...

I don't know what to do with these people... if you can offer a good advice, I would really appreciate it.

If you know somebody was like them and have changed, please share their story so that I may have an idea how to make these people change.

[jdsanz]

what did their parents do to intervene? the parents should get involved and talk with them, otherwise, playing all day wont bring them anywhere.... they need to study, work, and earn a living.

[Dr Hidden Ko]

what did their parents do to intervene? the parents should get involved and talk with them, otherwise, playing all day wont bring them anywhere.... they need to study, work, and earn a living.

Of course she did to the point where she gave up
She was scolding them eeeeeveryday when they were still 8 or 9

It was not only their mother, most of the family were talking to them, including me.

[Dr Hidden Ko]

I guess there is just this mentally to basketball players that when you are the best in your school or in your barangay you really are good enough to be a PBA player and that gives them the wrong idea that it is that simple, that they really are so special that in the end, they just ruin their lives because they could not think of doing anything else but basketball

sigh

[monrose29]

kalo-oy sad oi....

kanag mga edara gahi na ra ba ka ayo nah tambagan kay feeling suhito napod ka ayo nah sila....

ako ma tambag nalang ana..why dont tell them nga gamiton ilang talent para maka kwarta?

if ma ayo gyud ka ayo nah sila mo duwa and lets say nga daghan ni believe ana nila.. kamo mga paryente pede mo mo tukod og basketball clinic..puyde mo start sa inyo baranggay mga bata nga mahilig og basketball inyo target...
basic dribbling and all about basic sa basketball.. kana pod if imong cousin knows about that basic thing in basketball...

then ibutang nato og tag 100 ang registration fee or 50 lang bah.. at least maka feel na sila nga unsa diay nang mangita og work para na-ay ipaka-on sa ilang family...

im sure kana sila cge nag duwa og basketball nga lima2x nga usahay ka kita pa og away then ang pusta 20 ra.... kong ma igo ka sa sika kuwang pa imong 20 palit tambal...

[2tdruid]

ipakulata na lang na sa amahan sa ilang napa mabdosan

[jdsanz]

maypa paapilon nimo na sa amo session every friday, para maka socialize sad na silag laing mga tawo nasad.... so far, ngilngil na kau manuwa or wa say asenso...hehe

[CYCLOPES]

ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS TO PRAY NGA MABALI NI CLA CG DUWA UG BASKETBALL PRA MO-UNDANG NA..
Ingon ani sd to ako brother sauna. Nabuang ug basketball, dli lng mosulod sa classi ky manalay sa laing lugar moduwa ug basketball. He once invited sa UV try-out, and invited by ruel gomez sa UC. Ni-training jud to xa sa UC, BUT ni-undang ky nahigam sa cg panalay ug duwa.. Good thing ky naka-amgo.. Nka-graduate jud nya karon nka-sakay na barko sa gawas..

[tackielarla]

Stop giving them support (financial). Apply the "sink or swim" principle.

[icon_king]

kabaw ka naa gyuy mga uban tao mag salig nalang sa ginikanan. PNB (palaging nasa bahay) or PAL(Palamunin)... Mao nay gi ingon ug anaraon gani sa ginikanan nga dili maninguha ang anak inig ka gamay pa, inig ka dako mao nay resulta... nasobra-an sa spoon feeding pagka gamay, hangtod pag dako dina kabalo mangita ug kaugalingon diskarte.... Life is full of surprises ug kabaw ka sa pasikot sikot ug diskarte sa panginabuhi, mu survive ka...pero ug magsalig lang ka nga naa kay paaboton, di gyud ka maninguha... I just do hope they will realize this Maayo pa ug Lawas ilang Ginikanan, what if mawala nana, asa man sila padung... dili bya sa tanan panahon hayahay ang tao, patilawon bya gyud ug kalisod....busa kinahanglan andam ta permi kay ang buhay sa tao dili permamente....