Getting married at an early age

[ashmae_01]

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getting married at an early age is not easy

kmi ng minyo mi sako husband at d age of 23 though we hve stable jobs bt dli jud diay saun

samot na f wla moy own hauz dn mkipuyo ra sa prents ghapon

mglisud jud ug dghan gastohan esp. naay baby gasto kaau maabot ang tym mag away mo sa imong huband ky wla moy kwarta...thank god wla pa pud mi naabot ana nga point nd blessed pud mi wd so many things

bt dli ghapon mlikayan mka ana ka sa imong self na wat if wla pko ng minyo krn dghan na unta ko money kay solo nako akong salary nd i cn go werevr i want na wlay atimanon

bt yet im stil thnkful of hving an angel nd responsible husband....

bt dli ghapon maau na mgminyo at an early age kng wlay ikabuhi dli jud sayun....

[gamatoy]

kani ma minyo ug sayo daghan advantages and disadvantages,,like ang advantage ani kay sayo manganak ug inig matiguwang ka naa nay mo tabang nimo kay daku naman ang anak..unlike sa ulihi na minyo inig tiguwang ka gamay pa imng anak ana..pero ang pinaka ka disadvantage kana maminyo ug sayo kay,sige ug away,wala pay saktong huna2x,mapul-an sayo,dili pa ready mo committe ug serious na kaminyo-on..mao na sya..

[reyadz25]

wow.... nice topic.... i would not say that getting married is a big mistake, but a question to those teenagers around here may go this way " are you mature enough to face the consequences in marriage life?" and it should be in mind that marriage life is a BIG NO JOKE at all, and may ruin the life of innocent children they might have, specially if their relationship does not work.... good for them if they don't have child, but still, each of them do not have the freedom to marry another person (maybe the right person for them) marriage is not a contest, it is a relationship where in two path meet at one end to become one..... just continue to follow the path you have now, and it will lead you to another path which will merge to become one on another end... rja2009

[Ryan747]

Depende kng financially stable mo og ready namo og responsibility as a parent pwede namo mgminyo.

[T0xic]

@toxic.
Ana jud na basta mamugos ta sa atong gusto.
Ang universe naay gitagana nga partner para nato.

Problema-- kita may mamili.
Usahay ang atong mapili- lisod
usahay sayop ang atong mapili.
tungod kay dili kita kahibaw mo huwat.
One must be patient in choosing a partner.

Usahay sad dili nato pansinon
nga anaa ra diay sa atong atubangan
ang gihatag sa universe nga para ato.
dili nato tagdon kay taas ra kaayo atong standard.
naa tay kaugalingon nga specification.
Pero ang atong specifications dili haom sa para nato.

Mamili kag gwapo, syempre daghan sad mag-apas og gwapo.
Resulta-- daghan mo mag-ilog.
Mamili kag dato, syempre kwarta ray imong gi-apas niya.
So muabot ang babaye nga dili particular og kwarta,
adto siya kay didto siya makafeel og love.

Wa ko namili, he was given. Remember nag buwag mi, no communication and all, for 3 years. And out of the blue, sa kadaghan tawo sa nag gamit sa internet at that very same moment, anang adlawa, ato nga minute, nganu kami man gyud duha nagka storya. If the universe was not on our side and di mi meant to be, right then and there, the universe could have handed me or him somebody else. The only thing ragyud nga kuwang back then was TIME but given a chance to do things all over again, I'd still make the same mistakes. What would I be without him? If not for my husband, I wouldn't have the greatest kids I have now.

Standards? of course you have to set certain standards, who wouldn't!? You cannot see the real person right then and there so the first thing imong makit-an are the physical attributes jud. Daghan mag ilog? first and foremost, inig kita nimo nga naay itsura, kahibaw jud ka nga daghan mag apas (challenging!) besides, sa tinud-anay lang, let's say naglakaw sa mall, naa kay ka tagbo while walking, unsay first nimo ma notice? mu ingun ba ka nga hala ka nindot niya ug batasan oi, di di ba? mu ingun jud ka nga hala pretty sya or handsome sya. Ganahan sad tawon ko makita ka sa akong liwat nga at least naay breeding heheheheh.

Honestly, daghan kapili-an. Daghan ni offer and di sad ko maka ingun nga they were the right ones para nako. It just so happened nga ang akong gipili, akong husband kay sya man ang right person for me and falling inlove is about taking risks. "Living at risk is jumping off the cliff and building your wings on the way down. "~Ray Bradbury
Here I am, flying, because I jumped off the cliff and took the risk of marrying someone whom people thought was not right for me.

Money? I was never after the money. I was well provided by my parents, kaluoy sa Ginoo, akong mama and papa naningkamot ug maayo and naka provide ug enough food, shelter, clothing, education and swerte-an sad ko kay naa koy grandparents nga tig hatag namo sa akong brother. So why would I look for something nga in the first place naa nako!? Di sad ta maka ingun nga para pang tuition kay i was sent to a reputable school from kinder to College, nganung mag salig man ko sa uban para mu asenso akong kinabuhi? I was never after his money. Not all people are the same, naay destined nga tawo para natong tanan, some may be blessed, some sad dili but its already up to them ug unsaon nila pag change sa ilang life, I don't think sala nako if gi hatagan ko ug husband nga gifted (intelligent, talented, gwapo -para nako gwapo! way mag buot!hehehe, ug naay sulod ang bulsa and someone who loves me for being me) In fairness to him, bisan kahibaw sya nga naay ikabuhi iyang family since wa man sya igsuon-only child man, naningkamot gihapon sya ug maayo para maka provide sa among family.

Frankly speaking, nakasuway sad gyud mi nga wala gyud pud ming duha. Wa mi nangayo ug tabang bisan kinsa, and I'm proud to say nga we made it through and never gave up. If I married someone nga di siguro fighter basin nagpakilimos nalang mi karun sa dalan.

just like what Kim Atienza said, ANG BUHAY AY WEATHER WEATHER LANG!Kung unsay gi hatag ni Lord, be contented and make the most out of it. Once ra na niya ihatag nimo, wa nay lain, so grab the opportunity and thank God for the blessings.

[eamarac]

if ngitah rmu ug challenge sa life ky wla nai lain mbuhat cge pg minyo mu ky diha ninyo ma agian ang tumang kalisud mutokod og pamilya. ky kng minyo nka dli lng imu kaugalingon imu huna hunaon but including imung asawa og kng naa na anak apil pa sd nah..heybi jd ka challenging especially kng ang mg tiaon dli financially og emotionally stable...dha mkita ang katag...survival of the fittest na mhitabo.

and about lovers getting married because the girl got pregnant i dnt think that's a gud sol'n lalo na if u dnt love and trust that person so much...

[mine_dayoff_mine]

naa ko dghan fwend naminyo sayo.. some did work, some did not.
early marriage mostly tungod mabdos na ang girl..
la na choice kundi magminyo, panindigan ang sayop.
naa ra man jud na nnu duha if mgtinabangay mo para mo work inyo marriage...

[mydear_paula]

getting married at an early age is okey if both partners are stable with financials.pero unfortunate x uban kay mo struggle jud sila for their furture especially preggy ka.

[T0xic]

if ngitah rmu ug challenge sa life ky wla nai lain mbuhat cge pg minyo mu ky diha ninyo ma agian ang tumang kalisud mutokod og pamilya. ky kng minyo nka dli lng imu kaugalingon imu huna hunaon but including imung asawa og kng naa na anak apil pa sd nah..heybi jd ka challenging especially kng ang mg tiaon dli financially og emotionally stable...dha mkita ang katag...survival of the fittest na mhitabo.

and about lovers getting married because the girl got pregnant i dnt think that's a gud sol'n lalo na if u dnt love and trust that person so much...

mao jud. maka ingun gyud kag nganung ni enter! di naka mag huna huna sa imong self. ang imong i-hungit, imo nalang i-hungit sa imong mga anak.

and marriage is not the solution para ang 2 ka tawo mag minyo. this happens man gud kay to prevent the girl from further embarrassment since na buntis na gani dayun gi daganan pagyud. swerte-an lang ang gi minyo but congratulations sad sa mga wala gi minyo-a and kadtong mga single moms kay gi accept nila ang responsibility nga suppose to be para sa 2 ka tawo nakaya nila himuon on their own.

for those who got married at an early age, hang in there, hold on to each other, trust God and most of all think of your kids and their future.

for those who are in a relationship, BE SAFE! marriage may sound exciting (at first....first few months) but eventually when problems arise, maka ingun nagyud mo ug NGANU MAN!??

marriage after all is always about building and rebuilding! no exact design.

[hustler23]

8s beter f ready namu, kaysa kalit2x lisud gud if way ika buhi ang guy...
mao nanay gi ingon nga " bubuhayin kita sa aking pag-ibig, sa bugas di ko pasalig "