Cheating wife, will you forgive?

[cyberlady82]

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Di jud lalim ang mga nabiktima og ingon ani nga situation. I tell you grabe kasakit especially if you're a faithful wife. I'm one of the victims. We are happily married bya and blessed with 2 kids (boy and girl). I was cheated by my husband when i went to the US last year for training for 5 months. We had a constant communication when I was still there. I went back home September of last year. Ang gikasakitan lang nako og maayo kay last January nako nakahibalo so nagmata ra diay ko og buntag. And the worst thing is, the girl is pregnant. Kaila pa jud mi sa girl. We were living on the same house (separate rooms) that we rented before. So pag adto nako sa US, didto na nahitabo ang di angay mahitabo. Married pa jud ang girl with 1 child. So moving forward.. pagkahibalo sa girl nga mouli nako pag September mao to niuli cya sa ilaha somewhere in Mindanao. She told me she never thought na ma preggy daw xa. Ang girl jud diay mismo nagcge og text nako and I learned it all from her. She kept on texting my husband sa akong phone pa jud. Nagsabot diay cla nga ipa-abort ang baby and now nagcge samok ang girl kay ask cya og medicine for abortion and ask cya money para ipa-abort ang baby.

Ako gi confront ako husband og sa way duha2 niangkon cya sa iyang sala. They were both drunk daw when it happened. Pero ang super kasakit pa jud kay kadaghan nila gihimo. OK ra unta to og once lang kay murag madala ra pero if kadaghan na tinuyuan na jud to nila.

Ako unta biyaan ako hubby pero i was thinking of our kids nga looy kaau nga modako nga walay father. Dugay kaau ko naka recover and dugay pud nako cya na forgive. BUT i always believe that everybody deserves a second chance. So karon na forgive na nako akong hubby pero I will never forget what he did! If it happens again then it's gonna be the end! And I tell you, it is very hard to build that TRUST again!

[pablingz]

cheating is betrayal of trust... so.... he made the right decision not to stay with her...
dapat anang mga cheaters kay...BURN THEM TO H*LL...

[hunt99]

A friend just recently found out that his wife is cheating on him..Since they dont have kids...theirs no point of saving the marriage.

Do you think he made the right choice.?

unsa manag klasiha sa wife oi di mana tinarong pero sad noon nindot gyud ng mo forgive perog mag cge gihapon og balik balik og cheat aw na let them talk in serious and a calm way lang

[twistedANGEL25]

...so why are you guys so quick to condemn a cheating wife...and is is so okay to have the husbands cheat hmmm? double standards tsk tsk tsk

in my opinion...cheating is the worst thing you can do to your partner...whether from the wife or the husband....dili lang sa wife oi...kon unsa na inyong na feel nga luod...mao sad tawn na ma feel sa wife if mag cheat ang husband

sakto....in our society today, men easily cast stones to any woman who cheats....seems so unfair because if people know that the husband is cheating, GOOD of him coz its shows that he is a "real" man. pero kung ang mga taw makahibaw na ang asawa ni cheat, BAD for her coz it shows that she has low morals and she is no good than a *hore!

if in a relationship, there is cheating(whoever it is), it goes to show that there is a problem.

I JUST DONT GET IT WHY IF WOMEN CHEAT,ITS SUCH A BIG DEAL.BUT WHEN MEN DO, PEOPLE JUST SHRUG IT OFF.

[hobie]

@twistedANGEL25

I believe the same ra man. It just so happen na ang boys always mg cheat. You know, the unusual becomes usual if its always there.

[doom_angel]

Di jud lalim ang mga nabiktima og ingon ani nga situation.
So karon na forgive na nako akong hubby pero I will never forget what he did!
it is very hard to build that TRUST again!

kung kaya nimo biyaan, biyaai nalang kay kaw ra mag antos unya, pero kung dli ka ka biya tungod sa mga daghang factors, makarelate ayo ko kay mao man sad ako gibuhat ug dli jud lalim, every occasion or intances dli jud ka ka help makahunahuna na basi ila sad gibuhat ug unsa ila feelings atong gibuhat na nila, and most of the time imo mahunahuna na pwerti jud nila lipaya.

[pleeep123]

dili na bro.. na pud baya ta priide...

[rocketdog31]

I've had personal experience on this and have forgiven my wife for the 3 times (as far as I know) that she cheated on me. This, despite the fact that I can count at least once during those 3 times na-buntis siya... sadly, gipa-abort niya ang baby kay she said it was a mistake. I forgave her despite all that. Now, I find out naa na pud siya gi-uyab uyab and the hard part is she kept saying wala na sila and yet sige gihapon sila og communicate (she missent a text to me... unya kay dili man "babe" iyang tawag nako, i know missent gyud to). Tungod sa akong kalagot, na-labayan nako og cellphone akong wife. I know it was wrong and she used that as leverage against me and reported me to the authorities and I've been labelled a wife-beater (even if for 4 years ako'y sige'g dawat sa sagpa, sa kambras og sa kutsilyo). Gi-issuehan pa gani ko og Barangay Protection Order nga dili ko pwede mo-uli sa amo-a for 15 days. And it didn't solve anything kay wala gihapon mi mag-husay, and sige gihapon siya og kita kita sa iyang mga ka-chat og iyang uyab.

So, to forgive? I guess my example isn't the best one. But I would say, if she did it once, she can do it again. And damn did I make a mistake forgiving her and thinking things will still work out.... kay ako karon ang dautan.

**** Republic Act 9262! Kay matod pa nila, there's no such thing as a battered husband kay ang babae daw ang weaker ***.

[doom_angel]

So, to forgive? if she did it once, she can do it again.

agree ayo ko ani bro, pro usahay man gud ma clouded imo hunahuna sa gugmang gi A T _ Y!

[unsay_ngalan_nimo]

tell him to talk to his wife. Ask her if its worth saving. its easy to say i forgive you but its difficult to forget. your friend might have been to busy to notice that their relationship is in bad shape. so they might as well talk where things got wrong.

there is no absolute divorce in the Philippines, they have to go for annulment if they do want to separate ways.

If they happen to decide to salvage the marriage, its better that he forgets the whole episode and dont take it against his wife if they argue in the future.