How do you forget a betrayal?

[MzKyuT]

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you wont forget you forgive

mao jud..

[angelfyre]

this is reli difficult. i can forgive, but not forget.

[mitch_a888]

been in this experience once. it was my beau and my barkada who betrayed me. they slept together for 3 straight nights. i just cried that time, burst it out in my friends and let go. but until now, the guy still asked me to sleep with him or go somewhere else to finish our businesses daw...how foolish of me if mopatol ko...maglaway cya..

[stingbee]

share lang ni nako ha, murag same mn gud sa topic... it happened to me already. i have been unfaithful with my guy before (high school pa mi ato), we were kids then but i know he was serious about our thing... we ended breaking up. for almost 3 years, wa mi communication, no nothing. then, just this year, we started talking thru YM. i was surprised that he can still make my heart leap (u know wat i mean...). at first, talk lng mi about our life and etc na na-abot about wat happened before. i learned that he still hates me which cause him to play around with other girls, he feels happy whenever he sees a girl crying in front of him. geez! i never imagined him doing that. we told ourselves na we would really never be back together coz it's impossible, knowing how he still hates me. my friend told me na, "he can still feel the pain that you've caused coz he still loves you". i didn't believe that. until na we call each other friends and nagkita mi... and to make it short, we're back together although he has been honest that he can still feel the pain but not as intense as before and he feels guilty about it coz d niya ma-forget but i don't blame him... the fact that i know he loves me and we love each other, im contented.

@stingbee: bai, just face it... concentrate more on ur love for each other and well, hopefully you can forget about it or lessen that feeling of betrayal.

thank you for your story. i guess it's safe to say that the pain i've been feeling is normal, coz for a moment there i thought i was getting PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder).

all i have to do now is deal with it. i'm gonna have to rely on the saying that "time heals all things". i surely hope this is true.

anyway, if you have unfaithful stories of your own, we would love to hear from you and learn together.

[cottoncandy]

your BF/GF betrayed you in past.Â* How do you deal with this?Â* As for me, im having recurrent instrusive recollections of her unfaithfulness.Â* What do you think i should do?

I think it's pretty normal to have those intrusive recollections of what she did in the past , people have tendency to remember unpleasant experiences long after these have been resolved but it doesn't mean that coz it's just normal for you to feel that way, you won't do anything bout it. The mere fact that you welcomed her back inspite of everything,i must assume that you've forgiven and your willing to forget. Though the latter is vewy vewy hard jed, it takes a lot ofÂ* "pokpoking" ur head against the wall talaga..heheh..![I'm sosyal, k?]

Just don't let the past haunt you because it won't do you and your relationship any good. Talk to her...but don'tÂ* harbor anger and hostility toward her for what she did in the past. Just express what you feel and let her express what she feels also ... Listen so you can accurately assess your current situation.

Pahabol lang bro, you still have chance to decide while you are still single. Mag mahay unya ka f ul get married na. If she did it while you're still single... she can do it after marriage. Reality ni atong storyahan. It will bug u for the rest of your life... DON'T SOLVE THE PROBLEM BY ANOTHER PROBLEM.

Point taken but still "cheaters" deserve second chance. They have their reasons...that we don't know. But if she does it habitually and just for the heck of it, there seems to be a problem with her system... psychologically..[schizophrenic maniac]..She needs help and a lot of clinical pampering..wehehe..jk :P ! And ei, married ones who haven't experienced cheating before marriage doesn't warrant fidelity all through their married life. Depende ra jed na not only with the kind of person he is but the situation he's in! *me thinks*

[Yarie]

this is reli difficult. i can forgive, but not forget.

same here ....

[chellee]

get even then dump him....let him feel, what u feel ....then move on ...after all only time can heal the pain...trust is very impt. in every relationship if wala na na then why stay tagaan lang nato prob ato self..bitaw that's applicable for bf/gf lang tingali pero kung married na different way na of forgetting betrayal cause u have to consider people around u na...haay life...!!

[demonyito]

d best medicine 4 dis s 2 leave him/her n try 2 mov on..lisud bt u hav 2!

[Witherwind]

you should not forgive about it but make it a lesson for you to be stronger. but of course dont fear it as well.... just learn from it..... dont make it a reason for you to hate them.... you should also learn to forgive them...

[kenart]

i never forget a betrayal (forgive but not forget)
i learned from it