How do you forget a betrayal?

[stingbee]

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Currently GF nimo sya? Lisura ana bai oi especially sa ato mga lalaki! for me siguro makigbulag na lang ko pero ask urself if she is really worth it, if the feeling of love is really that strong then forgetting the thing she did would somehow be easy. Are you willing to wait for the time na makalimot ka ato? Talk about it time and time again with HER. Ask her jud always if wala naba jud to muAssure man na sya saimo na wala najud if wala najud. Hope lang ta na it will help somehow.

i'm sure na wala na jud to. In fact, she is traumatized for she did.. we don't talk about it coz it'll only make us feel down. what bothers me is the memory.. every time i think of it, i go nuts!

[sanesilly3]

...move on with your life instead..then distract yourself from thinking and talking about the betrayal because the more you think and talk about it, the more you're putting energy to it...thus keeping the memory alive...depriving you the freedom to forgive and move on with your life..i guess the best thing you can do is learn from that experience and when you love again, be on guard..basta dont dwell nalng on those things you can't do nothing about...coz madepress lng ka thinking about the betrayal she did to you..ok? hope this might help....lighten up!

[splendid moonlight]

i have to agree with cebu_tux. u need to talk to someone heart to heart. if possible, your girlfriend. but how can she be traumatized? betrayal is a thing a person chose to do, why the trauma? we might be giving you the wrong advice. i wish you would tell us the details if you are comfortable. but if not then at least have someone that you could talk to and be honest with. God bless.

[stingbee]

Thanks guys for your opinions and comments. it sure helps a lot.

[bradfits]

Pahabol lang bro, you still have chance to decide while you are still single. Mag mahay unya ka f ul get married na. If she did it while you're still single... she can do it after marriage. Reality ni atong storyahan. It will bug u for the rest of your life... DON'T SOLVE THE PROBLEM BY ANOTHER PROBLEM.

[gangrene]

Currently GF nimo sya? Lisura ana bai oi especially sa ato mga lalaki! for me siguro makigbulag na lang ko pero ask urself if she is really worth it, if the feeling of love is really that strong then forgetting the thing she did would somehow be easy. Are you willing to wait for the time na makalimot ka ato? Talk about it time and time again with HER. Ask her jud always if wala naba jud to muAssure man na sya saimo na wala najud if wala najud. Hope lang ta na it will help somehow.

i'm sure na wala na jud to. In fact, she is traumatized for she did.. we don't talk about it coz it'll only make us feel down. what bothers me is the memory.. every time i think of it, i go nuts!

then dont think about it na... the fact na kamo pa, gisettle na ninyo, meaning agree na mo both to move on sa inyo relationship... lisod bitaw na kalimtan, i never did sa akong experience.. but i looked ahead and think of the good things we shared together, that helped me hold on ta sa relationship... ur luckier than me gani, ako it did not only happened once or twice, but 5-8x.. ang bad part pa jud di siya makigsettle sa problem, so we end up separating.. pero nawa ko ron, dili na ko bitter sa akong na experience. kay humana man to, na forgive na nako siya, and i let his conscience bother him na rather than thinking of getting even. basta ang important was, he knew how hurt i was, he knew how i tried to save it, and he knew i loved him that much to give him many chances unta... if i was able to move on maski, kadaghan ko gi-deceive and maski it did not eventually end well, mas labaw na ta ka kay u still have a relationship to take care of. dapat ikaw baya modala ana kay ikaw gud ang guy...

[mique]

share lang ni nako ha, murag same mn gud sa topic... it happened to me already. i have been unfaithful with my guy before (high school pa mi ato), we were kids then but i know he was serious about our thing... we ended breaking up. for almost 3 years, wa mi communication, no nothing. then, just this year, we started talking thru YM. i was surprised that he can still make my heart leap (u know wat i mean...). at first, talk lng mi about our life and etc na na-abot about wat happened before. i learned that he still hates me which cause him to play around with other girls, he feels happy whenever he sees a girl crying in front of him. geez! i never imagined him doing that. we told ourselves na we would really never be back together coz it's impossible, knowing how he still hates me. my friend told me na, "he can still feel the pain that you've caused coz he still loves you". i didn't believe that. until na we call each other friends and nagkita mi... and to make it short, we're back together although he has been honest that he can still feel the pain but not as intense as before and he feels guilty about it coz d niya ma-forget but i don't blame him... the fact that i know he loves me and we love each other, im contented.

@stingbee: bai, just face it... concentrate more on ur love for each other and well, hopefully you can forget about it or lessen that feeling of betrayal.

[thisbe.ara]

if you're human, you will never forget a betrayal.
it's actually a choice when to let go.

[aquila]

Take the knife out from your heart and toss it in the river. Let your heart bleed until it bleeds no more. Let it dry up and let the scar form. Then love again. Maybe with the same girl, maybe not. Just listen to your new heart and in time it will give you your answer.

[inagoddess]

forgive and live a meaningful life