10 yrs. enagagement.. is that a good reason to get married?

[7DMM]

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my wife & i were together for almost 10 years before we decided to get married.

marry for the right reasons.

it is up for the both of you to find out what are those.

[Zarkuu]

ani ang nahitabo.... ang guy na xa jud pud xa insecurities saako bestfriend kay mas dako income.
but before clas nag pakasal 1 year naman sa states ako bestfriend. ang guy misulod sa military.. official na xa karon. then nagchange na xa daun. wla man sad daw third party... ana ra xa nga wala najud daw chance ila marriage... luoy au ako bestfriend cge ask nko unsa iya mali... wakoy matubang.. i don't know how to help her...

[Zarkuu]

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ingun pa ako bestfriend mura na kuno ug lahi na tao ang iya bana. motxt man gani puro " KALIMTI naKo" "WA Na kaY bALIkAN DrI" to think nga devoted kau xa saako bstfriend for 10years. dedma jud xa sa third party issue.... for the men what do you think? is there a possibility nga naa xa 3rd party in denial lng xa?

[jamesk]

There's a possibility na third party, there's also the possibility na dili. It could be something as simple as dili ganahan ang guy na naa sa gawas ang iyang wife. Honestly, I don't think it was the marriage that caused the change, it's probably something else. Obviously we don't know what it is. Let them talk, let them figure it out. After 10 years of engagement, they would know how to talk it out and when to talk about it. Or, they would know when to really call it quits. As of now, it's entirely up to them.

[elsa`]

this so sad! the girsl deserves to know what's goin on.. the guy should not leave her in mid-air tsk tsk something must had happend y nikalit ang guy..

[shyler]

in my opinion..its really possible dat der s a 3rd party involved.
marriage is another stage in their life, but den after 1 month nibalik
daun states ang girl. it could be nakakita lain ang guy nga duol niya.
dli lang guro mosulti ang guy cz it would be very painful for his wife.
but then let them talk. the truth will set her free. and then let go....

[Zarkuu]

that's what i told her... the prob is mogasto jud ug dako ang girl para maka uli ASAP ... kay 1 year pa man iya contract gud.. and she told the guy sad nga mouli xa bhala na mogasto xa.... ingun sad ang guy useless na ... wla najud daw cla chance.... hulaton nlng daw nya ang annulment papers.... kapal au ang guy to think she's helping his family and she handled most of the expenses sa kasal.... ang characteristic btaw sa guy kay silent, perfectionist, conservative......ako bestfriend kay outgoing,bubbly,conservative sad kay adventist man.. dli sad moinom. simple ra kau... when it comes to u know na... they're both hot man sad. wla man prob ana nga aspect.....

[tools4kools]

yeah, my cousin too had the same dilemma, although 6-7 years they were together with his GF but what we mostly consider their relationship to near "perfection" turned out to be a "disaster!"... its true that its not about how long they were together, its just that seemingly undescribable feeling of love towards each other that is important in a relationship. Actually, the situation is quite broad, and I hate to speculate bec. there are certain things that we're quite not sure about like was there constant communication between them? or was there the issue of self-pride on the part of the man? we couldn't tell exactly. but hey, I'd like to believe the girl wants to save their marriage bec. 10 years together is no worth for a trash!

[Zarkuu]

correct jud ka..... she really want to save the marriage.... but she doesn't know how... as of now she's hopeless... naluoy na kau ko nya tua bya xa states... wal xay kapamilya didto... though we talked all the time.. but lahi ra jud oi.... cge ra xa cry....

[tools4kools]

well, there's nothing we can do about your bes at this point bec. she's in the US man kaha so ang ma-storyaan r gyd nato personally kay ang lalaki. now, do you know each other ba? have you talked about your bestfriend's feelings? what did he said daw? well if you mind sharing it with you, pero we had the same dilemmas man pud gud sa akong cousin before kung unsaon pag-help bec. basically these are people who are confused and are emotionally stressed at this moment and won't think rationally. on my part, I just empathize on him kay I should not sympathize coz it won't help gyud, inom diri, inom didto, smoke diri, smoke didto, panghagis diri, panghagis didto, then ikaw pud otro sad mu-join pud niya sa iyang mga vices....

PS: pero actually pa-secreto lang ko ug inom kay lami man gyud inum-inum...