DIVORCE: Should it be legalized in our country?

[rodsky]

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If there was a divorce law in this country, some current issues my life will be a LOT simpler. Which is why I'm in favor of it.

-RODION

[cebu1029]

Erap should support this law! hehehe!!!

[r3roble]

For me, i think divorce should not be legalize, because it will lose the sanctity of marriage. and also so that the burden of choosing who are you going to spend the rest of your life lies on each one of us. dli kay, minyo ni bisan kinsa kay pwede bitaw mag divorce after.

[angelfyre]

im for the legalization of divorce for many reasons.

[annabelle]

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner,
> I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell
> you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed
> the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to
> open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was
> thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic
> calmly.
>
> She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead
> she asked me softly, why?
> I avoided her question. This made her angry. She
> threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are
> not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other.
> She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what
> had happened to our marriage... But I could hardly
> give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my
> heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn't love her
> anymore...I just pitied her!
>
> With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce
> agreement which stated that she could own our house,
> our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at
> it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had
> spent ten years of her life with me had become a
> stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time,
> resources and energy but I could not take back what
> I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she
> cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had
> expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind
> of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed
> me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer
> now.
>
> The next day, I came back home very late and found
> her writing something at the table. I didn't have
> supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep
> very fast because I was tired after an eventful day
> with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the
> table writing. I just did not care so I turned over
> and was asleep again.
>
> In the morning she presented her divorce conditions:
> she didn't want anything from me, but needed a
> month's notice before the divorce. She requested
> that in that one month we both struggle to live as
> normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple:
> our son had his exams in a months time and she
> didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
>
> This was agreeable to me. But she had something
> more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her
> into out bridal room on our wedding day. She
> requested that everyday for the month's duration I
> carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever
> morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make
> our last days together bearable I accepted her odd
> request.
>
> I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions.. She
> laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter
> what tricks she applies, she has to face the
> divorce, she said scornfully.
>
> My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my
> divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when
> I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared
> clumsy.. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding
> mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of
> pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to
> the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my
> arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't
> tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling
> somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She
> went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to
> the office.
>
> On the second day, both of us acted much more
> easily. She leaned on my chest... I could smell the
> fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't
> looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I
> realised she was not young any more. There were fine
> wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our
> marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I
> wondered what I had done to her.
>
> On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a
> sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who
> had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth
> and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy
> was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It
> became easier to carry her as the month slipped by.
> Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
>
> She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried
> on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable
> one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown
> bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so
> thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more
> easily. Suddenly it hit me, she had buried so much
> pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I
> reached out and touched her head.
>
> Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's
> time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father
> carrying his mother out had become an essential part
> of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come
> closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away
> because I was afraid I might change my mind at this
> last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking
> from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the
> hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and
> naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like
> our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me
> sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I
> could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to
> school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't
> noticed that our life lacked intimacy.
>
> I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly
> without locking the door. I was afraid any delay
> would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs.
> Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I
> do not want the divorce anymore..
>
> She looked at me, astonished and then touched my
> forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her
> hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't
> divorce. My marriage life was boring probably
> because she and I didn't value the details of our
> lives, not because we didn't love each other any
> more. Now I realise that since I carried her into my
> home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her
> until death do us apart. Dew seemed to suddenly wake
> up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the
> door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and
> drove away.
>
> At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet
> of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what
> to write on the card. I smiled and wrote:
>
> I'll carry you out
> every morning until death do us apart.
>
> The small details of our lives are what really
> matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the
> car, property, the money in the
> bank,blah..blah..blah. These create an environment
> conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in
> themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend
> and do those little things for each other that build
> intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
>

[r3roble]

Hmmmm... makahilak man pud ta.. for me, absolutely right:

"The small details of our lives are what really
matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the
car, property, the money in the
bank,blah..blah..blah. These create an environment
conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in
themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend
and do those little things for each other that build
intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!"

In a marriage life, good times always outweighs the bad times...

[inks82]

para nako okay ra e legalized.. Alangan man nga miski dili namo magkauyon kamo lang gihapon gyud.. magpinatyanay.. also sad para free nasad ang couple from each other para ma ka kita sad sila sa ilang partner sad..

[McLover]

Para nko uyon nko ani, ky tungod sa kadaghan na mga nag suffer sa unhealthy marriage.. How about you?

[jlodarl]

For me im against sa divorce jud.. bati kaayo broken family.. i know daghan na unhealthy marriages pero its up to each couple how to deal their marriage to make it lasts.. kay ni enter mo ana ni promise ug till death do us part.. nya pwede ra diay mag divorce.. maypa ilisdan ang mga promises if magpakasal.. ingnon na lang hangtod kanus a ko ma kaagwanta or mo lasts..

[am_believer24]

'm also against divorce...
so before getting married dapat one has to be very, very sure...♥