My Complicated Love: Is She Really into Me?

[mysacrifice]

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I am a simple guy and like most other guys i fell inlove to a girl. This is my story and I hope that you can share your views and insights about my situation, para madali ug storya tambagi ko ninyo palihug.

It all started when I went to a disco and saw my long time crush, last time I saw her was I think 2 years ago and at that time my friends started to tease me with her and eventually we hanged out more often.

The more we hanged out the more closer we got and we started texting all day long, her friends knew me and my friends knew her. Although I heard rumors about her that would surely turn off a guy I did not mind it because I dont know if it was true or not and I dont believe that she could actually be doing those kind of things but what scares me the most is her ex boyfriend because she's so crazy inlove with this guy that she would even give her life for him, they only broke up because the guy choosed his ex gf over her. I think it was more or less 6 months when they broke up, and then I came in the picture.

For two weeks we hanged out together with our friends and eventually I courted her and iya sad ko gisugot. At first our relationship was going fine, she introduced me to her friends in school and they said I was right for her. I really loved her, I help her with her projects, we go out and eat together, I would fetch her in school.

But sad to say I dont know if she really loved me, my heart aches a lot when I wake up in the morning. Although her friends told me that it was their first time seeing her go to church because she would not even go to church with them, its only with me that she did and that was when dili pami uyab gani.

Also since the time na kami na, sayo nasad siya mouli and kung naa ko dili nasad kaayo siya mosayaw maski sa discohan. I talked to her why man murag maulaw ka, she said dili lang gyud ko musayaw basta naa ako uyab and to tell you guys out there nindot gyud siya musayaw sa disco.

Sugod nato ug kacomplicated among relationship when I ask her why man ganahan gyud ka anang kanta na "parting time", "the past" and "nakapagtataka" because she would often sing this songs even in front of me, even an ordinary person would think is she still remembering her past? Why man even naa na siya uyab mao man gihapon ni iya favorite na kanta? I admit nindot gyud ang tune ani na mga kanta pero the meaning are the same! I confronted her if until this time sige ba siya think sa iya ex and she said wala na daw kay naka get over na siya ato but I cant easily believe that.

I asked her are you serious with our relationship and she said yes but she said that her friends told her maypasugton nalang na nimo para makalimot naka sa imo ex so I was shocked and told her that imo ra diay ko gihimo panakip butas? she said "no naka get over na lagi ko ato niya pwede dili nata magstorya about ato niya kay dili nako gusto makahinumdum!"

So the following day namisita ko and at first ok sweet kaayo mi pero taod2x nikalit lang ug init iya ulo unya dili pagyud mosulti kung ngano so niuli nalang ko. I would like to add, she would not text me if I will not text her first.

Based on this story what can you share because I dont know what is on her mind right now. Thank you so much for reading guys, I would highly appreciate your replies...

[diem]

I think it was more or less 6 months when they broke up, and then I came in the picture.

There are people that 6 months is not enough time to be completely get over a relationship. It is possible that she might still have residual feelings for her ex- that may be affecting your relationship. That and she might be just on the rebound.

May I ask how long have you been in your relationship? I assume that it's recent that you two got together? If so, compared to other relationships yours is still in its infancy stage and you have to take things slow dude. Beginnings are delicate things.

Do you drive? I am only asking because you might understand this analogy. In order to save gas, I press the accelarator just enough to get a certain momentum going then shift the gear to neutral, take the foot of the gas pedal and let physics do its work. Doing this helps make my car run on what little gas it has for a long distance.

The same thing can be applied with relationship and courtship, you have to know when to STOP pressing, let momentum take its natural course, and sometimes you have to brake a little to give you time and space to decide the right actions. If you're speeding and breaking certain limitations and boundaries, you're sure headed to a collision.

[ceevzi]

talk to her then ask her if love ba ka niya if she can't answer that there's no reason for you to stay.
you can find somebody na worth sa imo love...

[rishee]

handumanan....

well, I personally think na if it doesn't bother you na every once in a while she thinks of her X, then you two can still be together...

BTW, its so high school.. kagilok!!!

If you can let her go then let her go.. it's up to you.

What goes around comes around must come up then go down.

The only way for you to be loved is to love..

I think I fit your shoes kay akong current, (we've been together for more than 3 years na)
cge ghapon ug kanta sa ilang mga theme song sa iyang X. and just like you, it really hurts so much.
Especially the fact that I know he did everything and even the impossible just for her.. and I know he got really hurt and went crazy pag bulag nila.. so we have a very similar story..

but naabot man mi ug 3 years and going strong jud.. I still have these thoughts in the back of my head but maybe because I'm insecure..
When we first started to be together... I know very well constant pa ilang communication maybe even until now..but I just kept on loving him lang even if it hurt na.. I had this crazy idea of "LOVE TIL IT HURTS NO MORE" and I've lived by that principle ever since..

there was even a time na he flooded the bulletin sa friendster about how much he misses her.. and UYAB NA MI ATO.. wa juy buot.. I know you might think I'm crazy kay obviously the guy still wants his X.. but I'm not giving in without a fight, and until now I haven't lost... but it's always a constant battle for your loved one even if wala xay X kay anyone can just snatch him/her away from you...

sometimes I feel stupid because of it, but I let it pass nlng..

I don't know how my "love til it hurts no more" principle can hold me standing but when that day comes na dapat na jud me mag buwag, I can still look up and say "I did my best"

So mao kini ang atong suliranon karong hapuna.. hinaut unta ang atong suking tigpaminawan magpadala pa kamo ug mga sulat sa inyong istorya sa kinabuhi...

heheh.. don't worry bro! if she goes away, they it's her loss.. maau unta nka tabang ko!

[bachelle1130]

@ rishee... hmmm di mana nako kaya imo gbuhat wuieeee... i hope parehas ko nimo.. grabeh kaayo ko ka.insecure..


"it's always a constant battle for your loved one" .... true kaayo hehe...

[rishee]

hehehe... I hope I helped.

but don't worry about your complicated love.
If she's not for you, then you're meant for someone else who will love you as much as you would like to be loved or even more..

take life as slow as you can, it pays to be tapulan every once on a while.. hehe

[bachelle1130]

hmmmmmmm pwede...

[mydps]

hmmm wala koy masulti ani bisag ako naglibog ko sa imong story

[blueleigh25]

hahayz...im a girl... so i think shes still into her past.. dont get mad huh... based on experience lng.. i mean girls baya if wa pa ka get over hilig jud na sya mga stuffs na mushy... i mean makarelate kau sya sa songs na gi mention nimo... tpos... the way she acted.. di sya nahan istoryahan ang past..why mn? if naka get over na sya... wala na.. past is past. . ok lng istoryahan.. tpos....murag di ka masyado importante pra niya... ngan0 maghuwat pa mn sya mu text ka una... it means na di ka niya ma remember? aw unsa?..its too complicated oi....

ask her personally about it,, you need to talk it over...para di ma magworse and problem....

[joshbonz]

May I know also bro how old is your GF? I can sense that she's still young pa...

Had this kind of relationship before... exactly as what you have said in your thread.. My Xgf was 17, and being in that age.. Hormones and stuff.. they can easily be dissuade by their emotions or thru peer pressure.

Yes, My GF would also sing parting songs tho not the type of songs you describe... and she doesnt text me unless I text her first...

All in all, I have adjusted to her penchants because of her young age. This type of age (17-19) are mostly still seeking emotional maturity. 'Latagaw pa ug huna huna ba...'

You have to be the one to handle and adjust to them.. just bear in mind though that they don't want any serious type of commitments as it would be perceive by them that you're being possessive in nature. Or she might misconstrue it as you're too demanding...

I know you love your GF but don't strengthen the noose on her... just enjoy for what your relationship is worth for now..

just me..