My husband is going abroad

[she_babymo]

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With God's help, he had his US visa approved and will be workin' on a cruise ship this month.. tips on how to make our relationship stronger...

OFW wives.. help poh...

[berry_muffin]

communication ra jud ni sis... hehehe

my husband is out of the country most of the time man sad and dili kaayo mi dugay magkuyog, but we don't have problems with our relationship. we call each other often and we chat everyday.

trust is very important too. my husband usually tells me kung asa siya mulakaw and kinsa iyang kuyog. ako sad, i always tell him about my plans for the weekend kung asa ko mu-adto and kinsa akong kuyog. that way, we both know kung nag unsa ming duha. normal ra na nga maguol. i feel that way too...

communicate lang jud sis, kung madala nga everyday jud mu magtalk, everyday jud. everything will be okay.

[she_babymo]

we just had a rough time with the marriage.. but we decided to keep the marriage going on..
he's in manila right now for his visa, sa 25 na xa molakaw.. but he said he'll be coming back here even if bitin na kaau sa panahon.

i know it's not a good time for us to be apart, especially now na ok na unta mi. hay sis, kahilakon na kaa.u. but i know he's doing this to become a good provider for the family. we have one son and 2 years old pa, magadjust jud mi ug dako,, i hope i can be better with being a mom and a dad at the same time sa aq kid.

Sa cruise ship man xa work, i dont know if naay signal.. right jud ka sis, communication jud..what if magkalalis mo sis? lisud kaau ky naa man xa sa layo?

[berry_muffin]

right, he's working abroad for your family's future. once in a while, we all need to make sacrifices for our family. mao sad na akong huna-hunaon everytime mularga akong husband para dili kaayo ko maguol.

a mother can be anything she wants. that's how strong a mother is and im sure you'll be a great mom and dad at the same time. first time ni nimo malayo sa imong husband sis? kay kung first time, ingon ana jud imong ma-feel, makahilak ka mag think nga malayo mo. later on, maka adjust ka... there are times nga mingawon jud ka, but you have to be strong lang jud. what i did was to keep myself busy para dili ko mingawon and dili ko mutanaw sa calendar. don't count the days 'coz musamot ug kadugay imong paghuwat.

kung sa cruise ship, possible nga naa times wala'y signal, dili sad ko sure. basta when you both get the chance to talk, talk. grab the opportunity. ma early mornings man or late nights, talk if pwede.

about sa lalis, yes possible gihapon nga maglalis mo. in my case, kung maglagot ko, i try to control myself and huna-hunaon nako if kinahanglan ba ko makiglalis. hehehe... i don't want him to feel bad because kung unsa ang kamingaw nga atong ma-feel, mas grabe ilang gibati. that's why, kung pwede kay dili nalang jud ko makiglalis. mas sensitive ra ba na sila kung naa sila sa laing lugar. maybe because, bago ang environment, mag adjust pa sila sa mga tao nga makauban nila and layo pa jud sa pamilya. if there are things nga maglagot ko, ako siya ingnon in a nice way para likay away. at least we get to talk about it and wala'y away... hehehe... medyo lisud jud sa start sis, pero you'll get through it jud.

[rudjard]

@ she_babymo

Tips lang:

manage your earnings well sis kai dli forever ang pagseaman. naai time nga sa kadugay ninyo magstorya sa phone maglalis/away na nuon mo. better avoid unncessesary topics/chismis while magstorya mo.
then sa inyong kid always mention sa bata his dad and where he at/ what his doing para nig uli sa imong bana ma minimize ang pagka "ilap" sa bata. kasagaran gyd ni mahitabo labi na unya puhon dali ra kau mo balik sakay imong Mr. cases are mga anak, labi nag baby pa nabiyaan, dili intawn ma-ilhan ang amahan or dugay kau mo duol sa daddy...
kanang mga "fling-fling" sa gawas normal na gyd nah, i think you know your husband more than others so thrust your instinct. mga selosang asawa sis wla gyuy lugar sa kinabuhi sa seaman. magsigi ra unya mog away when you can't control your anger and jealousy.
guide your children well kay ikaw ramn gyd permi uban sa bata.
daghan pang mga tips ani nga you will learn along the way
Good luck ninyo and smooth sailing unya sa imong hubby!

[she_babymo]

@berry - muffin

it'll be our first to be apart for a long time.. cge lang jud q pugong sa aq gibati, anytime i could snap.. (i meant cry out loud)..

lisud jud ka.au to play both roles sa aq son, labi na ky laki.. i need the strength, wisdom and the pieces of advice from people like you.. ky di man lalim wui..mingaw na jud ka.au mi niya.. 6-8 months ra man iya contract sa cruise.. pero dugay nasad na wui.. worth man sad gud ang pay ma.o ni-decide xa to push through with the work..

lisud jud a.u sis.. but you made it through man diba.. i'll try sad na dili q makiglalis..there were times na mouli sa iya hometown sa manila then layo mi, di man kaau mi magaway.. less amu away if apart ky masnakafocus sa longing for each other man gud.. mao jud na aq na-observahan..

positive thinking lang jud sis noh.. and of course.. prayer.

[she_babymo]

@rudjard

thanks bro..

you're right with the earnings bro, in fact 6-8 months ra iya contract.. renewable hinuon..

dili nlng diay q makigchismis para di masayang amu conversation.. i have also been telling my son na his papa will be working on a ship, and we kiss his papa's picture everyday, we even cry together sometimes labi na ug mangita na xa, picture ra jud mi kutob..

my husband's "fling-fling".. been there done that.. im not the jealous type and what i dont know wont hurt me.. focus lang xa sa Ginoo and he'll be fine when temptation comes.. pero di ra ko mo-ask about ana niya ky di man ko mangita ug bato para i-pok2 sa aq ulo.. as long as love mi niya kme sa iyang anak, ok na ko ana..

i thank you guys for the tips.. i badly need it, ky newbie para ba q aning long-distance relationship..

[szichri]

oisssttt she... unsaon nalang ang parking lot sa kabayo... mudaghan na spiders web ana.... hehehehehehe joke lang hap.....

bitaw she, trust lang gud sa imo husband... 6 months is not that long just keep yourself busy para dili kaayo maghuna2x sa kamingaw and besides dili man gyud kaayo ka mingawon ana kay naa man inyo baby boy and kami nga mga istoryans molingaw nimo... and usa pa with the technology today long distance relationships is a goner na(panahon pa na ni mampor nang problemaha)... and of kors don't forget God and prayers to give you strength... hope this helps bisan pataka lang... hehehehe

[rudjard]

@ she_babymo

well, you'll get along the ups and down just fine sis maau gani imong hubby passenger ship iyang first vessel abroad and not those other type of merchant ships

life there ain't boring kai they all have those different kinds of communication; text, email, ym's and walang sawang phone cards so both of you can fill the gap between spaces ...

again Good luck and be thankful sa blessings...cheers!

[jlodarl]

i know its hard to be apart but you need to fight.. trust and communication are more important !!! good luck sis!