Are you ready for a new relationship??

[laagan_si_organizer]

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(by Rinatta Paries)

After a bad relationship experience, many singles take a much needed relationship break to regroup and recover. Some singles get stuck in this break, and stay single for years at a time or permanently. Even though these singles don't enjoy the loneliness, they do appreciate the lack of hurt and drama in the absence of a relationship. Many justify continuing to stay single by saying they are not yet ready for a relationship.

This brings up the question of how a single person may effectively get ready for a relationship.

When people say they are not ready for a relationship, what they really mean is that they are not ready to go through the drama and/or trauma of their last few relationships again. Many people don't realize this is what they mean. Most people subconsciously base their decisions about love on past relationships, and not on the ideal future relationship they are hoping for. Who would want to dive right into the drama and heartache of a good relationship gone wrong? Who could ever get ready for pain? Almost no one.

Many singles reach a stage when they take a look at a lifetime of good relationships gone bad, realizing they are the only common denominator. At this point many singles decide in the back of their minds they are simply incapable or — worse yet — undeserving of having a good relationship. Then they put themselves on indefinite hold. They may say they are not yet ready, but underneath it all they may never again allow love in order to avoid the hurt that follows.

Although for many people this decision process happens in mid-life, for some it can happen as early as their twenties, or even as a teenager.

After a person puts him or herself on a relationship hold, there is almost no way back to love. This is especially true those people on hold think the way back to love will simply come with time. Time will not get you ready for another relationship. A lifetime of being single may pass and you will still not be ready for another relationship. Work, coupled with the determination to have a loving relationship, is needed.

Getting ready for a relationship can take a relatively short amount of time, as long as the time is spent doing the real work of getting ready. Some of the steps involved in getting ready to love again include:

* Figuring out your relationship pattern and what exactly went wrong in your past relationships
* Learning about what you need in a relationship and learning to pick a partner who can satisfy those needs
* Learning healthier relationship behaviors, like how to pick better partners and how to successfully start and build a relationship
* Getting out there and meeting new people, with an emphasis on meeting new types of people who you have not met before
* Learning how to avoiding common dating and relationship pitfalls

[histrionic0311]

After a bad relationship experience, many singles take a much needed relationship break to regroup and recover. Some singles get stuck in this break, and stay single for years at a time or permanently. Even though these singles don't enjoy the loneliness, they do appreciate the lack of hurt and drama in the absence of a relationship. Many justify continuing to stay single by saying they are not yet ready for a relationship.

this is very true...

[emperadorse28]

pass lng sah.... hehehehe
wla pkuy sapi karon nya ng uyab kung nana ko trabaho balik.. hehehe

[akosabni]

can't say i'm ready, but this will not stop me from starting a new one

[princezzz_pucca]

nope....nope....nope....

[joshbonz]

am i ready..? i guess.. just as long as I don't end up just comparing my x w/ the new one...

sometimes it's very hard to shake someone that had one way or the other carved some meaning to your life before.. and still dwell on it, up to the point sometimes of comparing the past w/ the new... that's why other's would just stay away out of love for whatever reason(s) they only knew..

but for as long as past is past na.. and closed book and chapters already.. then there are no more turning back and just welcome whatever comes in the way.. (as long as there's love in it)

[crush_23]

not now...maybe later

[WengIA]

ako sad dili sa ko, kapoy

[laagan_si_organizer]

i'm not ready..but if someone comes along..it's okay to try a relationship again..

[crush_23]

not redi to have serious one....get tired.