During a fight with your spouse, what's the right way to deal with it?

[vienzel]

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as they say daw ky ..."easier said than done" when it comes to communication at the height of one's emotions. labi na away sa mag-asawa. pero better gyud na dont let the sun set without talking pero make sure na di na grabe ka-suko ang usag2x ninyo. just talk about the issues and nothing more. always make sure, god is the center of ur relationship. make effort to change for the better pod pra di sige balik ang issues.

[mastersun23]

it's true much better if we let it cool first before discussing it. This is usually my weakness, i like to settle things right away coz dali raman ko maulian but my partner loves to get furious. Ambot, he takes pride in being maldito, he loves to insult and make me feel dako kaayo kog sala even unsa kagamay sa giawayan padak-on jud. Hahaay, much better if you have a partner like mine who loves escalating into a bigger fight, palayo sa mo when you have a fight then talk when you feel ok na. Sadly, if he has a very high pride na di mo-una ikaw nalang ang mo make sa move. Anyway, it takes two to tango. When you fight decision na ninyo duha to engage in that.

agree ko ani. Much better to cool things down before you talk and settle the problem.
A lot of times, you do bad things or say hurtful things or make bad decisions when you are mad. Then you regret it in the end.

[mastersun23]

"kanang di paaugmaan ang away" is a nice concept.
But then you shouldn't force the issue especially if init mu duha.
Mag-dolug sa nalang mo then talk it over tom when di na init.
Especially if gabii mu mag away kapoi na kaayo. maypa ugma na tiwason.
Ambot lang ha kay di paman ko minyo. apil2x rako diri. hehe

[ej___]

I simply move a distant para dili ko katubag ug sayop due sa ka init sa ulo.

Kanang bitaw talikod gamay, after awhile say 30mins the least, just to cool down.

Then, get on with it and talk it over again.

[jntio]

say - puede hilom na ky pintalan tkw rn

[vicente1]

magpa-ubos nalang.. hilom lang.. mag sorry. hug tight and say my side in a calm manner.

[r3roble]

how to deal?

if kasab-an ka, kasab-an pud nimo ug mas dako nga tingog. if mosyagit sya, syagit pud ka pero mas kusog. if mamoak sya figurine, buakon pud nimo mas dako nga figurine. if sagpaon ka, yatak-yataki...
bitaw oi, joke joke joke...

hilom lang ka, nya ask segi ug sorry then masahion pud nimo katagsa...

[love2travel]

talk about your conflict when you are both calm...

[simply_wife]

yes, it is better to let it cool down for a few hours or it depends if dali ra ba mo mukalma..
in my case man gud, parehas me dali ra mukalma. after we fight, iyahay nalng mi ug hilom ug
then ang nakasala, maminaw ra jud but i see to it that before we sleep na masettle jud, kay
dli jud ko katulog till dli mahuman... para int the morning nindot atong pagmata...

basta accept lang jud if you're wrong and apologize for your wrong doing...
and if init kaayo ang ulo sa imong spouse, ayaw nalang dungan... adjust nalang sa situation...

i hope this helps...

God bless!

[aylen]

Paubos ang usa,be it the wife or the husband. Lahi2x man kay nay uban na mag-silent ka, maglagot noon. It's dependot!
But be prideless. You're married,hello!