Your Lover's A Cheater? What would you do? Why?

[daMiro ronaB]

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bro,

Knowing she did thats totally unacceptable....and you are so good to her...give justice to yourself ...
I would say, look for another .

[maia21]

Well there are a lot of psychological "complexes" out there. My take on it is that most "battered" women tend to stick with men who are violent, simply because they have certain fetishes that requires a participative violent man to be part of--otherwise they don't achieve the sexual satisfaction they need from a "kind and gentle" man. Call it crazy, but it's a natural thing--everyone was made differently I guess.

-RODION

most women? sexual gratification is not the reason most of the time. the woman's self-esteem/self-worth must be taken into account and so is "learned helplessness".

[rodsky]

most women? sexual gratification is not the reason most of the time. the woman's self-esteem/self-worth must be taken into account and so is "learned helplessness".

Why did you have to take out the word "battered" in the equation? I said most "battered" women and did not mean women in general. And according to Freud, all notions of self-esteem/self-worth are sometimes rooted in the subconscious, hence sexuality comes into play as well.

-RODION

[maia21]

most battered women? sexual gratification is not the reason most of the time. the woman's self-esteem/self-worth must be taken into account and so is "learned helplessness".

[rodsky]

most battered women? sexual gratification is not the reason most of the time. the woman's self-esteem/self-worth must be taken into account and so is "learned helplessness".

Okay, so basically you're telling me that these women, who never leave the men who batter them, somehow have a skewed perception of their self-esteem and self-worth?

-RODION

[maia21]

my point exactly. battered women have very low self-worth and self-esteem (which maybe caused by husband's abuse or other traumatic events in life) that they have this perceived inability to escape. i have to discount the statement that most battered women tend to stick with their husband because of fetishes. not all battered women engage in any sexual activity with their husbands.

[rodsky]

my point exactly. battered women have very low self-worth and self-esteem (which maybe caused by husband's abuse or other traumatic events in life) that they have this perceived inability to escape. i have to discount the statement that most battered women tend to stick with their husband because of fetishes. not all battered women engage in any sexual activity with their husbands.

Point taken. I stand corrected.

-RODION

[mistsen leighzie]

waaahh paita ani oi..btw sak2 cla..if shes worth it pasayloon..pero d mn permi cya nlng..tnk bout urself pd..^_^ lisud na mgpa agrabyado rn..

[dabidoo]

a person who fooled you once will fool you again and again and again and again...........trust me!

why settle for someone who cant be trusted? remember 3 things essential in a relationship - love, trust and respect!

i disagree

you mean, once a cheater, always a cheater? dili tanan.

its just like saying once a drug addict always a drug addict?

once a snatcher, always a snatcher?

i dont think so, people can change maski unsa pa na ka grabe, but then again not all.

[dabidoo]

to threadstarter:

if you love her, take her back, and if you do take her back, learn to trust her completely.

thats what love is all about dba? we always give second chance to the ones we love(ka-drama)

manganta nalang tag "love hurts"

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