Adopted Sister brings hell to our House

[ed168II]

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bro for me, if ul formalize ur action, in court, its not easy for you to win, coz ur parents recognize her like enrolling her in scul, giving support, etc, daghan properties imong parents? more on personal mani sya, make sure lng kung galisud na imo parents ur adopted evil sister wil take care of them.. daghan case na mga adopted child pamatyon sa mga legitimate children...

how old r u wen ur evil adopted sister arrive?

[splendid moonlight]

One way to help the situation is if you stop thinking of her as someone merely adopted (STOP right now!). Naa tuod kay plano pero it will hurt your parents and endanger a life that is probably more fragile than yours. Ayaw ana oi. Why don't you step in as an older brother and start teaching her, tell your parents that you do have a role in molding her because you are also her family. Pero please treat her like a human being, not a subordinate.

Pero kung wa gyud kay paki, as in super wa gyud kay inigsuon nga pag bati para niya, lisud lisud gyud na buhaton. The least you could probably do is offer support to your parents and urge them to put a little discipline in her. Tell them you can't stand to see them hurt. Help them put some sense into their minds kung ingon ana man kaha sila ka blinded. Someday she'll know that she is adopted, or she won't, pero ayaw anang i sulti na nuon nimo nga adopted siya, medyo mabaw ra kaayo. Mo layas pa nuon na, duha na mong ga layas.

Or maybe she must've already known all by herself that she's adopted. Tingali nakadungog siya'g istorya istorya among your relatives. Wa ta kahibaw. Unya that's her way to garner attention from you guys and assure herself that she is loved. If you choose the right path, which is the path of kindness, it will be a long process. Don't expect instant results.

[xtian_hero]

bro.. your the older brother.. you've been to a lot of situations already... and your the bread winner of the family.. i mean.. was... but bro.. shes already a part of your family.. you would've at least tried to teach her a lesson first before you left.. because, its like, your running away to your problem....

you would've at least.. think it over first before you left... you do realize that Old people shortens their life when their depressed... just imagine your mom and dad, worrying about you everyday... tsk tsk tsk... you know.. my cousin's just like that... spoiled.. and so tamad.. but you know what i did.. I tried to test her if she would follow my order in just once after her favor.. so she'll realize what she's doing.. same thing.. tinamaran ako.. well.... a WEEK of deadma to let her know... so her parents talked to her.. then she changed... see... look, its not that she's adopted... ok.. let me ask you this... where did she made her first step?.. where did she yell out her first word?.. so its like.. she was born with you guys... the thing is... you have the right to teach her.. be a good example to your sister.. she'll realize someday..

[drknyt]

mga dudes and dudettes and other istroyans 1st of all thanks for ur your time and advices coz im getting more direction in solving this prob than anywhere else..

one more thing wen i talk to my parents and sis is is ta good idea to bring a neutral party like a religious parish fellow to act as mediator is that a good idea? about other relatives nga nakisawsaw ani situation what do i do w em ,, dead ma ? thanks..

[Gwynhuever]

..my take on this....personally i do not like stressing the situation about being adopted etc etc...mao man na ang maka cause gud nuon sa conflict kay ang "real" child mag expect man ug specific treatment versus the adopted one....sub consciously at least...para nako sister jud na nimo siya....nurture sometimes is far more powerful than nature ...ang uban biological lang ang pag ka parents....mas parents jud ang nag adopt kay sila man ang nag nurture...

try thinking of her as your SISTER...period. and maybe this will help you be more tolerant and patient....and more willing to help her out of her mess....

ako lang sad na ha...i know lisod sa na tungdan...kay mora ubay2x na jud to imo kasakit nga gi batbat.....

[ryan22]

@ drknyt

bro imo adopted sister adolescent pa sah? maka relate man ko niya..hehehe
dili sa pagka adopted ha maka relate ko sa iya pagka adolescent niya ako pud gahi ug ulo sa una...
pero basin ig dako2x naa nay buot gamay ba i think mao nay best time sultian cya nga adopted cya & explainan ug tarong...

[jangoironic]

naa man gyuy mga butang nga di nato ganahan but you just have to live with it pagkabata baya nimo imo baya ginikanan nagbuhi nimo wa gyud ka nila gibiyaan bisag unsa pa.bisag unsa pana kabati ug batasan imo adopted sister tabangi sad tawn imo ginikanan oi kamoy ragoy pamilya magtinabangay.agwantaha lang na bai ana man gyud na pareho gani ako lola naa na gapuyo namo lain kaayog batasan mas sayon pa ang bata pero amo lang cyang gisabot kay wa na man mi choice kay ciya nang laman usa malooy gani ko ako mama kay cya lang ang gada sa tanan.

[grail98]

i am a parent ug naa koy adopted daughter and a biological daughter. baliktad lang kay ang adopted nako mao ang sige ug tabang and ang manghod na tinuod na anak, mao ang spoiled. pero i love them both the same. Unya mugubot gyud kung someone will tell my daughter that she is adopted. don't want someone to do that...
so don't tell anyone that does't know that your sister is adopted, i can relate to your parents if you do that. siguro, there was a time na you love your sister...just remember that when your parents are gone, only you and your sister will be the one to look after each other.

[fairy]

ka evil oist but then thats life, i really felt sorry for u & ur family considering that u all had the good intentions for keeping her. Maybe shes just n her rebellious stage. Just pray and ask for God's guidance.