what I meant when I said when I go home i won't be a stranger is . . . my family moved here (Louisiana, US) . . . we will be going home for a visit a couple of years from now . . . and when that happens I would like to have many friends to visit and hang out with . . . about the 10 -15 i just like it that way . . . i have observed that as men grow older they seem to exhibit the symptom of "look the other way" disease . . . worse . . . is that they not only develop the symptom early in their 40's but they have now the disease . . . and usually ends up with a lot of crying on the part of the original and a lot of "hide and seek" in the part of the other players