Bana: “Dili ko makatuo nga lahi kaayo mi sa akong asawa! Pananglitan, gusto kong mobangon ug sayo, apan siya dili. Maglibog pod ko kay kalit lang mausab ang iyang mood. Ug sa dihang magluto ko, himantayon kaayo siya, ilabina sa dihang itrapo nako sa kamot ang trapo sa plato.”
Asawa: “Ang akong bana hilomon. Apan naanad ko sa akong pamilya nga alegre, ilabina panahon sa pagpangaon. Ug maglagot ko kay kon magluto siya, itrapo niya sa kamot ang trapo sa plato! Hay, kalisod gyod sabton sa mga lalaki! Giunsa kaha pagpalampos sa uban ang ilang kaminyoon?”
IF YOU are newly married, have you faced similar challenges? Does it seem that your mate suddenly has acquired faults and foibles that were absent when you were dating? How can you reduce the impact of the “everyday troubles that married people will have”?—1 Corinthians 7:28
First, do not expect that just because you exchanged wedding vows, you and your spouse become instant experts at married life. You might have acquired valuable social skills when you were single, and they might have improved while you were dating. However, marriage will test those skills in new ways and will likely require that you gain new ones. Will you make mistakes? Certainly. Can you gain the skills you need? Absolutely!
ASK YOURSELF . . .
- Have I made my spouse my closest confidant, or do I prefer to consult with others?
- Within the last 24 hours, specifically what have I done that shows that I love and respect my spouse?