Straight-Natured Gay Men, Post ta diri mga brad!

[ThornedPrism]

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New guy with slight homophobic tendency here so please be gentle on me?

Living with my Dad for the most of my life-who has homophobia issues- had some of his mentality rubbed on me. Growing up, my dislike for Gay men had slowly risen and only got worse when I get to meet this guy in his mid 30's wearing clothing for women, had a terrible high pitched voice, basically the trying hard type. It terrified me that this carried on even now-not as much as before though-as I had contact with the same types, I recall some tried hitting on me, I did everything I could to ignore them and stay as far as possible without being so obvious. As a result, I ended up indirectly bashing the good sorts in my class and school.

When I got old enough to start questioning everything, I looked back and felt bad about it. The more I got exposed to the internet the more I looked and got guilty at looking down on them like they're the most disgusting organism that's ever set their foot on this planet, a sentiment my father would possibly agree. I wanted to change, so I began to talk to some guys I know and slowly began tolerating them. I'm still in the process of changing my mentality and I believe I made progress.

Some questions:

Quoting OP's post
"why are there people who would always talk behind our backs, making our preference a hot issue to talk about whenever we're not around? what will they get from "OUTing" us?"

How do you feel about it when it happens? Have you ever thought about lashing on them? It must've taken some real emotional and mental strength to wake up in your bed and go on about continuing your day.

[FreezedEntity]

Welcome sa thread bai, it's always refreshing to see some straight guys posting in our thread nya mangutana.

Some questions:

Quoting OP's post
"why are there people who would always talk behind our backs, making our preference a hot issue to talk about whenever we're not around? what will they get from "OUTing" us?"

How do you feel about it when it happens? Have you ever thought about lashing on them? It must've taken some real emotional and mental strength to wake up in your bed and go on about continuing your day.

Jealousy? Or inborn lang jud sa atoa ang manghimantay and manglibak.
Even in our community, lgbt, naay mga closet homophobes and bigots.
Sometimes di na jud closet, straight acting/discreet gay guys hating effem gays. As well as effem hating the discreets.
And maybe because it's taboo. People love to talk about taboos.

Sa ako part, I did not really mind it man since I was a loner before. So wa minimal ra ako na-experience nga ing-ana nga butang.
Nakadungog pud kog mga huhungihong man sad about sa ako from people, specially relatives, but then again they didn't know me, (the real me **queue in song this is real this me this where exactly where im supposed to be now!), so I just let them pud. I was minding my own business and happiness so fvck them.

[lester_j]

People are always bound to gossip. I've read somewhere that gossiping triggers our brain to release chemicals such as dopamine into the system. Topic may not necessarily be about gay people (who's in the closet and who's out).

Anyway, I've had that. Some girls I knew from HS cgeg pangutana sa laing close friend nako if I'm gay or what. Annoying lang kay hyped up kaau sila like it's a big thing, Life/death situation nga makabalo sila. And once they find out, they're all happy and smug like they discovered the actual location of Atlantis.

I just try to be casual and ignore it. Too much effort getting angry at people you don't really care much about, esp the gossiping ones. They can get all hyped up for nothing. I usually make no big deal about coming out to people I care about.

Perhaps in the future, magka tolerant na ang society sa gays, the novelty of outing gays will fade. Ngita napud laing topic for gossip mga tao like who's banging their own clone or something.

[illidan_great]

ThornedPrism, to quote from FOB "I don't care what they think as long as it's about me, the best of us finds happiness in misery". At times I feel the pleasure of being eccentric, there is this elated kind of feeling to show smug towards your haters or just the gossipers. Haters gonna hate, ain'ters gonna ain't, and potatoes gonna potate.

In all seriousness though, if i were to answer that question 4 years ago, it would definitely be a pain in the buttocks. But growing up and learning to accept that reality has slowly shifted my focus on solving the rest of the mysteries in life, and that now I can't be bothered with such rumors. I am still living with insecurities though, that voice of depression and anxiety, it will never go away and it has become a part of me. There are some problems that I've come to accept, but there are certain problems that I find it hard to settle with myself. It's a brick tied to me and slowing me down. The struggle is real, a struggle to live, a struggle to the threat of my extinction. But one has got to live with it, until death gives meaning to one's life.. /wrist

[chris_smith]

make up you-know is worth fighting for baya daw.

heyyy guys! i am back. single and ready to mingle. read profile first. i am here to make friends but if you're hot enough we can be with benefits. i am looking for that special someone that will accept me for who i am and will love me, must be a guy with at least 5'7" height, muscle toned body, great looks and can afford his own coffee. i just need someone to accept me..huhuhu. hopeless romantic here!

gay guys in yellow twitter looking for chat mates and friends. hahahaha. and this is why i am a troll

basta, ako naa lng ko gnapangita sa usa ka tao na gusto nko mauyab. hehe

[illidan_great]

@chris_smith hala sorry prejudice kaayo ko sa kanang mga for chat and friends na status.

[jeno_cide]

musta mg brad

[arphaxad23]

just stumbled here...nice lage ni nga thread...curious lang...lol

[gibra'al]

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[sarcasticretard]

Bayyyyeeeeettttt! Daes and dears. Lol.