Wala naba koy love sa akong wife?

[rsuna1010]

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Honestly wa gyud ko kahibaw unsa na akong feeling towards my wife. Wala naba ko akoang love sa akong wife?

To cut my story short:
Nagtrabho mi duha. Daghan plano para sa among pamilya. Naa mi anak 2.

Before, Sa kadaghan sa amoa nga plano, mostly ako ra gyud ang nag plano.. though happy man gihapon cya sa naabot namo.. naa nami house and lot..the rest are plans and implementations.

Unfortunately, sa ngadto2, mura na nuon ko ug naglibog.
Sa cge niya ug uyon2 sa halos tanan nako nindot nga mga plano, naglibog na nuon ko ky feel na nko respeto ra iya gibuhat or medyo naa cxa kahadlok nako mao mostly uyon ra cxa.

Wala gyud mi sukad nagkaaway.. Wa gyud ko kapasakit nya..
Before, if naa mi conflict, ako ang magcge ug voice out.. medyo prangkador gyud nuon ko pero walay bad words ha.. dili ko tigpamalikas. then igo ra cxa maminaw..
Unya maulian ra pud..

Kron, murag gikapoy nako.. instead nga mo-istorya ko sa akong gibati, DILI nalng...ky igo ra gihapon cxa maminaw,.. moingon ra "unsa mn dw kuno iya buhaton" dayon mohilak na..

Dili ko gusto mausab cxa tungod kay mao na akong gusto.. ang ako lng unta nga maka realize cxa unsa ang mas maayo para niya (gikan gyud sa iyahang huna2) nga mabuhat PARA SA AKOA.

Kahibaw gyud ko nga Selfish ra kaayo ko. Pero I think deserving ko ug LOVE and Care. Binata ra cguro ako gipaabot (wa gyud ni nko i-istorya nya pra ma feel nko nga gikan gyud niya.. as-in heartily gyud ba..)

Before, makig-storya ko niya bisan unsa lng gud bsta mkaistorya lng..(maihap ramn gyud sa tudlo nga cxa ang ni duol nko nya nkig-storya..)

Here are few things nga wala ko kaauyon/nalipay sa amoang pag-uban:

* Dili cxa mo-istorya kung unsa iya gihuna2.. (Mao ni iya routine: trabaho, kaon tan-aw sa mga bata, tulog and other things except this issue)

* Sukad2 wa gyud ko kadungog niya kung "kamusta" nako.. Musta akong trabaho.. etc.
naa times cguro mangutana cya pero gikan mn pud nko.. medyo mo-istorya ko una gamy about ako lawas or something about trabho den dha ra mngutana..but kana gyud at least feel nako nga concerns...medyo wla nko ma feel...

* Dili pud cya mo-istorya kung unsa na iya gipamalit or unsa iya gusto buhaton or plano.. Isuwat lng niya sa notebook.. as if ang notebook nlng akong usahay basahon para mura pud ug cxa ang ni-istorya nko.

* If maglagot ko (usahay mosaka na akong tingog), motubag ra pud ug "dili dw ko sensitive".. (naglibog ko asa ko dapit dili sensitive para niya.)

* Gawas sa dili mangumusta, wala pud ko kasuway ug medyo lambing lng gud pud gamy..like mo kupot sa kamot,. mo masahe gmay.. or other gestures nga medyo mka feel pud ko ug care..

---- Towards other family issues: Of course KAYA ra kaau nako atobangon ----

Why I'm longing for those things I've mentioned above? It's because ako na tanan gibuhat niya.. (Nag-expect lang gyud cguro ko ug return, PERO unsa paman diay lain ako i-expect nga mag-asawa mn mi?)


Kahibaw ko lisod mahimong inahan, pero medyo lisod pud mahimong amahan kung ang imo asawa igo nalng motan-aw nimo.. (Feel nya ok ra tanan. Pero para nko DILI.. samot na nga dili nko ganahan ron mo-istorya..)



Right now, I'm suffering very deep and serious depression (medyo mosakit na akong dughan(literally) ... Dili nako katulog ug sakto.. permi nlng ko kapuyon,. dili na pud ko gnahan motingog..usahay mglagot nako makakita niya.)..


Gamy nlng bakante sa ako time, makahuna2 dayon ko : "Ngano ingana man akong asawa..?" gamy ra gyud unta ni nga pangutana pero bisan gamy wala gyud pud ko ikatubag.

Mao ngayo ko sa inyo opinion if love pba ni ako na feel...ky if dili na, dili nlng gyud mi magpadayon..

[kenniku_you]

Istorya na sa imo asawa brad, ayaw diri namo..

[rsuna1010]

Istorya na sa imo asawa brad, ayaw diri namo..

Well, imo pud na sir.. nangayo rman ko ug comment regarding my feelings nga questionable na..

[kenniku_you]

Mao na ako suggest bro, dili na siya tira padong nmo..

I mean kamo rmang duha cguro maka solve ana na problem. Di paman hnuon ko minyo, so im not sure kung unsa jud but communication rman guro nid ninyo.

Kana lang daan naa siya notebook nga suwatan sa iyang mga problema or gusto, naa njud something wrong ana.

Try to be more open on her, or put yourself in her point of view and tanawa kung ngano inana iyaha reaction towards nmo then maybe makita nmo ang solusyon sa inyo problema. Ayaw pg huna2 anang wa na kay gugma or unsa, ky usahay raba dha rata maka amgo kung unsy importante kung wala na nato..

Peace

[beyee]

In any given relationship, communication is the key.

It seems like the way you exhausted everything you don't
like about her and your relationship has been given much
thought over time but it's so plain to see you "refuse" or
simply gave up to talk it out with her.

Tell her everything so she would also improve - it may appear
that it's not coming from her but people learn from each other
and from their own mistakes. Unless she refuses to change --
that's a different story.

Have you even tried listing down her good points? I bet there
are some -- if there's none then why did you even marry her to
begin with?

If you're so open to us about your wife, why not do the same with
her? Take her out on a date night without the kids, prolly you guys
need some time off and rekindle what you used to have as a couple.

[rsuna1010]

In any given relationship, communication is the key.

It seems like the way you exhausted everything you don't
like about her and your relationship has been given much
thought over time but it's so plain to see you "refuse" or
simply gave up to talk it out with her.

Tell her everything so she would also improve - it may appear
that it's not coming from her but people learn from each other
and from their own mistakes. Unless she refuses to change --
that's a different story.

Have you even tried listing down her good points? I bet there
are some -- if there's none then why did you even marry her to
begin with?

If you're so open to us about your wife, why not do the same with
her? Take her out on a date night without the kids, prolly you guys
need some time off and rekindle what you used to have as a couple.

Thanks bro..,great thoughts,.
The other side of her are the best..Shes a very good mother.. I really love to talk to her,.. but simply I can't do because my complains are for the benefit of myself.. (Tell her to take care of me? love me?).. If ako pud na buhaton, then iya pud sundon, how does it affects/change her? dili mn gud coming from her mind and heart.. She was told to do so.. so, theres no difference.

[my_hEaD_isBIG]

I may miss some part sa imong story pero I'll ask.

Nausab ba imong asawas since nagminyo mo?

Katong uyab pamo, ingon ana na gyud siya?

In bed, do you think malipayon siya nimo?

salamat sa pagtubag.

[beyee]

Thanks bro.., the other side of her are the best..Shes a very good mother.. I really love to talk to her,.. but simply I can't do because my complains are for the benefit of myself.. (Tell her to take care of me? love me?).. If ako pud na buhaton, then iya pud sundon, how does it affects/change her? dili mn gud coming from her mind and heart.. She was told to do so.. so, theres no difference.

Ngek... Pila ra paglambing, "Baby, pangga-a pod ko beh.. Mingaw
na Kaau ko kato sauna bah blah blah blah"

So she would know, you long for that bai... Women are not wired like you.
Prolly she needs a lil verbal shove so she would give you the love and care
that you need.

[rsuna1010]

I may miss some part sa imong story pero I'll ask.

Nausab ba imong asawas since nagminyo mo?

Katong uyab pamo, ingon ana na gyud siya?

In bed, do you think malipayon siya nimo?

salamat sa pagtubag.

* Wala kaau, mostly preha ra sauna uyab pami..
* Yes, but I tried to adjust and understand since we;re different.
* Of course,. I think so.. but I guess this is out of it since there are no 3rd party involved.

[my_hEaD_isBIG]

* Wala kaau, mostly preha ra sauna uyab pami..
* Yes, but I tried to adjust and understand since we;re different.
* Of course,. I think so.. but I guess this is out of it since there are no 3rd party involved.

Ah ingon ana na gyud na imong asawa brad. Naa jud ingon ana nga tao, parehas nko, insensitive. Dle man kaau ko magmind sa mafeel sa uban tao basta khbaw ko secured ko niya. Secured in a way nga love kaau ko sa akong partner, perme siya magpakita nga love ko niya, atimanon ko niya. Murag kanang something like "magsalig" ba. Magsalig kay love kaau sa partner dle nasad mubaws magpakita ug love. I know love kaau ka sa imong asawa, naa gyud mo anak + atimanon pajud niya ug maau inyong mga anak. Sa pagkakaron lang guro, dle pa kaau ka niya priority kay both of you are busy labaw na siya pero sad lage, kitang mga lalake mangita man jud ug pagtagad pag alaga sa babae. Padaun lang sa imong ginabuhat brad ayaw pag po-ol2, deep inside naka appreciate na imong asawa sa imong effort, dle lang siya expressive sa pag say ug "thanks" nimo. Storyahe lang pud siya sa imong ganahan himoon niya. Pasabta, lalake gud ka need nimo siya.