Your Lover's A Cheater? What would you do? Why?

[diem]

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[color=navy]^^Bro, from your own words, it appears you've gotten yourself an immature person. Please be honest with yourself and consider the future, is this person you're with now be a helpful, strong and supportive partner for you? Do you think she will be a responsible, capable and caring mother? Someone that your children can look up to?

Kasi if she's causing you trouble now how much more in the future? Have you explained yourself truly with her and your intentions?

[b]It's true that often we cannot choose the one we love, but we can sure choose who we marry. So if I were you, friend, choose carefully because marriage should not be a joke.

[Unmei]

ive done all the explanations.. but i dont think if naminaw sya ug tarong.. im trying to give her all the things she wanted.. the house i bought is in sta. lucia.. somewhere near sa mercado sa lacion... i dunno.. guys.. help me out.. to make a decision... gilisuran sad ko ani..

[Unmei]

the girl is actually telling me.. if i need time.. or if biyaan nako sya.. she would still be there mag-wait no matter how long.. should i believe such words? from a person who lied almost always? even when my father died last july 24 i asked her if nagbinuang sya or wala.. pero shell look at me straight to the eye na wala daw.. and she loves me.. karon.. what im worrying.. is that si mama kay affected sa hitabo... giatake the other day..

[diem]

[color=navy]^^Bro, it's basically your life, your choice~ all the best we can offer here is what we think. The fact that you're still confused and unsure shows that you're still hurt by your girl's betrayal.

Here is what I suggest that you should do, take a step back from making a decision right now. Is it important talaga to make the decision to continue the relationship or not? No I don't think so. I feel you're not ready yet. You should be calm first and the best way to do that is to leave things as they are right now, in limbo.

It's something like taking an exam where you meet a problem that you're sure you know the answer but you just couldn't remember-- so what do you do? You move on to solve the other problems in the exam and when you still have time you get back to the problem you passed over and try to answer again, hopefully you would have the answer in mind by then.

Right now you have pressing priorities and obligations, how about your mother? I think this time she needs you more than your girlfriend!

You don't have to be with your girlfriend for the moment. You don't have to think of the problem as of now, right? You just have to be yourself right now. Get over the hurt and the anger~ these only cloud your judgement.

Again, these are just suggestions... only you can decide what is best for you.

[Unmei]

thanks for the concern bro.. my mother is okay now... so.. what im bothered about is that the girl is now wanting me back.. and said that he didnt love the guy.. (i doubt)

grabeh na ayou ko kadaghan sacrifices nabuhay.. la ko nilarga.. kay i was afraid na mag-inana sya.. im currently working coz wanted to save up for the future.. whats on my mind.. is that.. she did it once... then she can do it once she likes it...

pero now shes begging me to take her back... (luoy man gud ko magtan-aw maghilak)
and she said never again would that happen..

[diem]

[color=navy]Then I suggest you tell her you need time and space apart, because you definitely do.

I suggest that you should be honest with her and tell her that you're still hurt by what she did and that you feel that all your sacrifices for her has been wasted and your good faith in her is broken. And that if she sincerely, honestly love you she should respect that what she did cannot be easily forgotten or forgiven.

Ask her for some time and space, bro. If she cannot give it to you then that's a selfish act. If she cannot give, then give it yourself some time and space~

How much time? How about a month or two? Sounds reasonable, right?

[bukikong]

the bf should buy her gf a new celfon and they should live happily ever after. ana lang.

[Unmei]

bitaw ana nalang

[anti-christ]

Re: WHAT would you DO in this situation?

clearly, give her one for the road.

then kick her out of your life.

[Serene]

No matter how much it's hurting you, everyone deserves a chance to redeem themselves. The relationship might never work out anyways but at least you did your best. You can now walk away without guilt kay you tried to make it work naman. Besides, we're human, prone to mistakes. You might be in her situation someday and you'll feel relieve kay you are given the same consideration pud. That's just my POV.