HELP ME! I need advise what to do with my son :(

[binarypill]

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Please do not be so quick to diagnose children with ADHD!

The trouble with our school system is that it is outdated and is basically geared towards creating "cogs" in the machine of industry. Think about what you've learned at school and the basic reason why education exists.

While there are many high minded reasons for education, the most practical is to make sure people can do the jobs they are expected to fill when they finish school.

But what has this got to do with TS's problem with his kid?

She is measuring her kid's behavior against the established "checks" we have for making sure a child can become a productive and effective "cog" in the industrial machine. That has its purposes and actually ensures the kid's future.

However, humans have a ton more potential than that. And the way we focus on the requirements of industry in terms of education tends to blind us to other possibilities our children have. Think how many painters, dancers, writers and inventors we lost because we could not give our children some time and space to learn, explore and create for themselves!

This is not a unique point of view, by the way. This isn't a visionary idea. This is well known and our school system and, potentially, our future as a whole is in danger because of it.

See this video, OP. It's interesting and entertaining and explains things so much better than I could:

Ken Robinson: How schools kill creativity | Video on TED.com

[Flor's Fab Finds]

Hi, i think your son just needs your attention, care and love...Dili lang nato pirmi kasab.an or show any negative things..Then from time to time, talk to him if unsa iya na feel, what he wants and ngano iya actions ana...I think naa lang cguro na cya problem mao sa uban tao nya ipa hungaw...hope all will turn out fine..God bless!

[carbrill]

ipa-check up sya sa miga sa psychiatrist...if money is an issue, naay psychia clinic sa vicente sotto ...reliable pud ang mga doctors didto...or adto sa velez hospital sa clinic ni dr.edwin menguito...psychiatrist na sya...
naa pud sa chonghua hospital sa medical arts bldg. psychiatrists....try sa clinic ni dr. jacqueline chua or sy man tingali to iya last name..
kinahanglan jud ug help imo anak.....godspeed...

sir di buang ang bata psychologist ang angay di psychiatrists. hehehehe...

bitaw ma'am as what you said naa cya'y sign ug ADHD better talk to a guidance counselor/ Psychologist... to evaluate more..

[krishnu shivaq silquin]

Maau paka mam kay nakita nimo ang sitwasyon sa bata... Ako intawn Igso.on... Maskin piyongan klaro kaau...

Pun.an pa sa asawa nga mo.ingon lang ug kulang ra sa pans in kay lagi naabot ang manghod...

Normal diay nang mo 4, Dili pa kahibaw mo sulti... Loner kaau... Ang tablet mura gikibido kung motan.aw... Mo katawa ra sa iyang self... Mag piko.piko sa kamot... Then mo kalit ug tan.aw sa pinaka.kilid then mo smile... Then kung saputon manghagis ug moshagit...

See a doctor jud.. Kana si dr. Espina kay mao na na katabang sa anak sa amo officemate... Then Sunda jud iya isulti bahala na ug medyo lo.oy tan awon ang bata...

[mandix]

pa check up na cya sa doc nga specialist TS

[R_sQuArEd]

OT:

psych grad here...never practiced though...
looks like what LadYKilleR8520 mentioned...ADHD...
and yes, you will need to see a psychologist...NOT a psychiatrist...since your kid is normal...only that problem...
try Dr.Boholst dapit Cebu Doctors Univeersity Hospital...
he's the dean (i think) of USC Psychology department...

ayay ka baro diay ta yadz! hehehe unsa ka nga batch? wala na si Dr. Rick² sa Pinas ron...nilangyaw na...

OnT:
What school are you sending your child? Try to visit their Guidance Center and talk to the counselor. He/She is the first person that you should approach before you see a specialist, @kit_cebu is right on seeing a psychologist and not a psychiatrist unless you want your child to get drugged up. I've handled cases like this and some of the kids that I've been with are now doing fine without seeking the aid of a specialist. Try to change the diet of your child and engage him into sports so that he can channel his "extra" energy into different activities.

[Scott Bernard]

Disiplina ra jud na ang pagpa dako sa bata. Love, attention, guidance, ug bunal / labtik panagsa para magkat on.

Kung fratman ka,kabalo naka asa pwede og ang dili pwede dapit bunalan... heheheh!

[kit_cebu]

OT: @R_sQuArEd - dili ko USC boss..CDC sauna..boholst handled our transactional psychology..which i learned a lot more in the 2-days than what i learned for 3 years sa CDC...hahaha...
wa na diay siya diri? gamay raman gud diri sa ato mo-seek ug help kay people have a MAJOR misconception sa psychology and psychiatry...

OnT: @Scott Bernard - sakto gyud...physical punishment is good but hopefully, it will not escalate to physical abuse/child abuse...

[yvonne6]

my son is undergoing therapy. para sa mga wala kasabot, dili lang sa ta magpatak ug hatag ug advice. no offense meant. para lang dili maglibog ang ang TS. first thing first, see a psychologist and not a psychiatrist. although they work hand in hand pero ang psychiatrist kay kadto nang naay chemical imbalance sa utok nga maka cause ug psychosis or pagkabuang ug sa binisaya pa. ang psychologist mostly deals with behavior. accdg sa psychologist sa akong anak, we have to look at 3 things, biological, genetic ug environmental. if it runs in the family, then genetic, wala natay mabuhat, biological, ug nasakit atong bata pa nga naka cause ug naunsa ang bata karon, environmental would be, at home, mga taw kauban sa bata including family, friends, teachers, relatives. the kid has to go through a series of examination. for my son, we have done eeg, para mabasa ang brain waves while sleeping kay anha daw usually makita ang abnormality ug tulog. my son is very functional, very sweet and loving boy. pero sa school, short tempered, short attention span ug dili siya makapuyo sa iyang chair. lihok kaau. dili ka makasulti nga adhd without going through all the test. the biggest factor that we are looking at kay ang pag abandunar sa amahan sa akong anak and me being a single working mom. and psychologist, ni suggest jud nga undang sa ko ug work until mahuman ang therapy sa akong anak. its not going to be forever, until such time nga confident na ang bata to be with other kids and assured nga dili nako siya biyaan like what his dad did to him. grabe ang patience nga kinahanglan ts kay dili gusto ang mga psychologists nga singhagan ang bata, calling names, balikason, bunalan and all negative things. usahay mahurot baya imong pasensya ani nila. ang pagbunal sa bata maka cause lang ug kahadlok but mas maau nga masabtan sa bata nga sayup iyang gibuhat without hurting them physically. if needed, naa may medication nga maka help sa mga bata nga hyper active but dili ka maka buot2 ug hatag without going through everything i have mentioned. i hope this can help TS

[imfatsoo]

Very smart mn sya. Dali ra sya makakuha sa lesson but ang problem is dili jud sya ma puyo. Murag iyang thinking pirmi is duwa ra jud. E ask namo sya why mn mag bad sya sa school daghan kaau sya ug pasangil. Wla nami kabalo sa buhaton.

Same ni siya sa aku daughter before super ka hyper.. we had her checked by a psych and were told to let her drink cherifer paired with pedzinc and it worked for her (ask your pedia for dosage if you wanna try)..

you may try reverse psychology, there are instances that it will make your little one think twice..

And to address that extra energy try channeling it to something productive, e.g. sports, dancing or any recreational.. Mine does Ballet so when she gets home she's tired enough to just sit and stay still..