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[samantha]

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hey guys tnx.....he already dumped me..!!..i dunno,for the simple reason nga la ko kpananghid nya..i have mixed emotions ryt nw..la ko kbw kn ako b makgreconcile nsd nya..bt it happen to us a lot of tyms,nga pagmakigbuwag cya,ako ang mangita ug way to kip the relationshp goin..haayyyy...m confused njd..sayangan ko s memories as well as sa amo mga naagian...

to me, that's an insecure guy and immature enough to understand that TRUST is essential in relationships...

on the other hand, i see that he's trying to get rid of you since if he seems to be pushing you away... BUWAGI daw -- see if he tries to get back.. If he does, then he's really just being a jerk and needs a good mentoring on relationships... but if he doesn't, then you're better off without him anyway.

tell us more about the relationship so we can evaluate more.

thats wat m thinking mymaria..bt confusing mn au ya mga statements and actions..kn dli cya msuko,palangga ko au nya..bt wen he thinks that m coming into his nerves, icurse nko nya..

[samantha]

I agree with duchess and MyMaria but disagree at the same time.

Seems like girls in this thread conclude like lightning, too one sided it comes to a point where it's not fair to the guys.

samantha, i'm a guy and the reason why i decided to reply in this thread (though it's hard for me coz i'm not into love advice) is because the situation you and your boyfriend is in feels like home to me, sort of.

here are the reasons why he's acting that way:

1. he's insecure: there's that gut feeling in him that something isn't just right. period.
2. he's afraid to lose you: some guys are just like that, believe me. especially when you're sexy.
3. IT IS in your personality: when you're the kind of girl who loves to hang out with guys, chances are, he wouldn't trust you that much.

these are my top 3, there may be more.


chad

does it mean that i dnt hav to hang out with my guy friends

[chad_tukes]

does it mean that i dnt hav to hang out with my guy friends

simple as this, just don't create an impression that you're too flirty and comfy with guys so your boyfriend won't think of you as someone who can easily cheat with him.

[MyMaria]

hey guys tnx.....he already dumped me..!!..i dunno,for the simple reason nga la ko kpananghid nya..i have mixed emotions ryt nw..la ko kbw kn ako b makgreconcile nsd nya..bt it happen to us a lot of tyms,nga pagmakigbuwag cya,ako ang mangita ug way to kip the relationshp goin..haayyyy...m confused njd..sayangan ko s memories as well as sa amo mga naagian...

thats wat m thinking mymaria..bt confusing mn au ya mga statements and actions..kn dli cya msuko,palangga ko au nya..bt wen he thinks that m coming into his nerves, icurse nko nya..

girl, my take is that you're wasting your time if you even try to get back together with this guy. obviously, he couldn't care less about this so-called relationship. you should have realized by now that HE SIMPLY DOES NOT CARE... and you owe it to yourself not to be taken granted just like that.

for me man gud, WASTE OF TIME jud nang magbuwag-makigbalik scenarios, especially if it happens almost always. take it from me, i've had many relationships but not one of them nakigbalik ko... all because if it means you can give up the relatioship, you can simply give it up all over again. so yeah...

trust me, you're sooooo better off without him.[br]Posted on: June 25, 2007, 08:21:52 PM_________________________________________________

does it mean that i dnt hav to hang out with my guy friends

#1 Never let any guy be the reason why you should change, especially if the change is meant to please a guy.

FACT: You can't please everyone. Do you seriously think it'd make a difference if you make this change? I strongly feel this guy IS the problem.

If a guy truly loves you, he wouldn't worry so much especially with things like what clothes you wear or who you hang out with... because if it's really love, then he should be able to trust you completely (no questions asked!)... the people you are with or the clothes you wear DO NOT define the kind of person you are and certainly does not reflect the kind of love you share... anyone can camouflage their personalities or mask their true colors but when it comes to love, there's no hiding the truth... especially if it's real.

But to give him the benefit of the doubt, maybe he's just not ready for a serious relationship. Have you tried talking to him, I mean, like a heart-to-heart conversation?

[samantha]

#1 Never let any guy be the reason why you should change, especially if the change is meant to please a guy.

FACT: You can't please everyone. Do you seriously think it'd make a difference if you make this change? I strongly feel this guy IS the problem.

If a guy truly loves you, he wouldn't worry so much especially with things like what clothes you wear or who you hang out with... because if it's really love, then he should be able to trust you completely (no questions asked!)... the people you are with or the clothes you wear DO NOT define the kind of person you are and certainly does not reflect the kind of love you share... anyone can camouflage their personalities or mask their true colors but when it comes to love, there's no hiding the truth... especially if it's real.

But to give him the benefit of the doubt, maybe he's just not ready for a serious relationship. Have you tried talking to him, I mean, like a heart-to-heart conversation?

i did..bt he nvr listen..its like that his always the one who'd nvr done wrong..i was the one who always do the wrong things and stuff..to him, his friends and famly,m the bad person..

[caspey]

samantha i'm here 4u..

[black_vixen]

@samantha, what made u stick with him till now? you know what HE MADE YOU SICK!!! so better get out from him.

[samantha]

samantha i'm here 4u..

hehehe....tnx caspey[br]Posted on: June 25, 2007, 11:12:19 PM_________________________________________________

@samantha, what made u stick with him till now? you know what HE MADE YOU SICK!!! so better get out from him.

i guess it more on the memories and the things that we've been through all this time...

[omad]

wat wil u do f ur bf kips on questioning ure sincerity and honesty??and everytym mkabuhat k ug saup makigbuwag daun cyasam I am:

your story just doesn't make sense. something's missing, something's just ain't right... at least to me...

there's a possibility that your BF (now ex) is all of the above -all the nasty adjectives thrown at him by posters here- OR MAYBE -you're withholding vital info from us- info that would solve the puzzle that is samantha. info that would turn the tide against you. info that would complete your sob story. and last but not least, info that would give us an idea that maybe you've done this "two-timing" thingy before.

guys don't usually question someone's sincerity and honesty if that person hasn't done any "bad stuff" before don't they?

tell us the truth: have you done things that would make your bf overly sensitive down to being paranoid? like cheating on him. like constantly telling him lies. like getting busted when you secretly go out on dates. like flirting with the opposite *** constantly... etc etc..

you know the drill.. so what is it?

[MyMaria]

well, after reading omad's reply, i cant help it... since an every action has an equal and opposite reaction, is there something that you've done to him, Sam? perhaps before? or is this guy really just a jerk? Because if he really is, and the fact that you've broken up... move on.