LOVE PROBLEMS ( post em all here ) READ FIRST POST...

[diem]

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^^@Soul Captive, please choose your happiness. Nobody could make you more happy than yourself.

Wishing you all the best in Life and in Love!

[monrose29]

i'm really thinking about...nguha lang kog opinions coz i might be over reacting...guess i'm not..too bad coz i love him ..but i love myself more

yeah kana jud girl, ayaw jud pa ulipon sa gugma..

but just clarify the issue lang before leaving that relationship coz sometimes na-a jud mga butang nga in ana... but grabe napod na ilang ka close as in.. asawa ko ang naka butang ddto sa iyang cp...then ddto pa mo sleep sa iyang room imong bf... halerrrrrrrrrr....

kinsa man deli mag confuse ana or deli mo react ana nga situation... normal ra na oi.. ma suko gali ta atong tsenelas sul-obon og lain or na-a ddto sa lain pultahan na butang.. how much more atong uyab... di bah..

so give your self a peace of mind.. go on with ur plan...

[Bashka]

Hello, its me again.. Thanks for the help from my previous problem, it removed a big burden from my back... Anyways, I am here again to ask some advice and opinions.

Since the aftermath from my past relationship, I am able to move on and able to cope up myself. I have money to save and use. I am planning to start on school. But even I am improving, there is still something missing. I feel lonely. I've never felt lonely in my entire life. I miss on having a relationship with a special someone. All the lovey-dovey stuff.. you know what I mean... Because of my X-gf, my friends told me to find someone who are liviing closer to me... ( just a little info about me, I live in Canada.. my x-gf lives there in pinas). So I did follow their advice. I tried be open about it and I dated a lot of gals, from Japanese to British.. But no luck.. Either I get turned down or no spark between us. I did not force myself about it.. and I know that if I force myself to it, I might get a wrong person in my life. Few weeks back, I was looking at my Friendster and checking up my friends... FYI, all the peeps in my friends list are my REAL friends or persons whom I know before. Anyways, I checked this one profile from one of my friend's list. She is a dropped dead gourgeus gal. And I realized that she was one of my old classmates when I was in elementary. I asked some of my old friends about her and they told me she is available(Thank God!!!!). They told me she did not changed a bit. And I kinda bit liked her.... But I am not sure what to do....Not to mention that she is in Pinas ryt now.
- What should I do first? Should I introduce myself to her? I did send her a message if she ever remembers me... she never replied me yet....
- Should I try another LDR My last 2 relationships went horribly wrong because of it...
- I've been wondering about this but how come I could easily get fall in love to Pinays? Whether they are Half chinese, mestizas or just simply pinay... I droll over them... But I cant easily "do it" to other gals.... Does this means that I am picky?

[dark_phoenix]

diem, do u have any advise column?
mau ,an gud ka mu advise..ehehe...

[dessay]

@Bashka

simple lang na... call the gurl

if you think there's chemistry then pursue her...

take another risk maybe this time it will work...

i suggest though na imo usa siya ilhon ug pag-ayo or maybe visit pinas and meet up with her and see how you guys click in person.. ...save yourself from getting another broken heart...

ngano diay diha Bashka, way mga dalaga diha na pinay? I have a friend who lives there..ehehe..how old are you?

[dessay]

i'm really thinking about...nguha lang kog opinions coz i might be over reacting...guess i'm not..too bad coz i love him ..but i love myself more

you go gurl! enjoy life, you'll find someone better, i assure you that..

[diem]

[color=navy]@dark_phoenix, I just like to help people. Helping is a good, positive, hopeful thing to do. Thank you very much for your comment but no I don't have an advice column in a newspaper or a magazine but you can always PM me or read my comments here in Love Problems @ iStorya.net

@bashka, bro I understand you and sympathize with you. I guess you are at a stage when you're willing to commit to something other than yourself. And that something happens to be a meaningful relationship with that special someone.

It's okay and its very good because kanya-kanyang saya iyan eh. It's your life and its your happiness. And God bless you, you should have it.

Now considering your latest endeavor for romance and love, I'd like to suggest the following.

1) You are attracted to her. You're infatuated obviously, so don't get carried away with what you're feeling right now. You done the right thing, get to know her first. Try to re-establish a connection. You were once friends so get to be friends again. But don't just put any clues or indications for romance or a deeper relationship... NOT JUST YET.

2) There is nothing wrong with a long-distance FRIENDLY relationship. It's a way to get to know one another thought and personality wise but the problem is, not a lot of people have patience, time or effort to pursue that kind of avenue.

You just don't know, maybe she's the type of person that doesn't go online often. So what do I suggest, just be patient, keep trying just don't go obsessed and try other avenues like snail mail. I know its kind of old-fashion but old-fashion can be sweet too. Just try to get that reconnection but don't appear like a stalker okay? Keep it cool and friendly.

3) And when you do get to re-establish that friendly reconnection maybe you'd have enough information to decide whether to visit her or not. Meeting face to face will be that first step whether you pursue her romantically or keep the status quo as just friends.

4) Though this is too far ahead in the future as of now, yes I understand your fear about having and maintaining a long distance relationship. It's really tough and all things considered, its not truly a relationship in a sense. For me, you've got to be WITH somebody to be WITH somebody. You get my point? So just wait and see, see how it goes first if the girl becomes your friend, and then your friendship develops into more than friendship.

And maybe by that time, months or years from now, you'd decide okay-- I've been through two past relationships and it didn't work out and now I have her and I don't want to lose her so something's gotta give. Either I come home to the Philippines to her or she makes her home in Canada with me.

That's ultimately the choice bro, when you find the right person (if she's that person for you) then you'd be with that person and you'd do anything to be with that person? No ifs no buts, you just do it because your life and your happiness depends on being with her.

And I guess the reason why you like Filipinas more than the girls of other nations is simply because you share something common, common ground is a good foundation for any relationship. You can share Pinoy jokes, Pinoy gossip, enjoy Pinoy foods and traditions and so on and so forth... no need to explain just simply share and be happy.

I hope that these sort of calm you down and clarify things for you. All I am suggesting is you should deal with those things that you're worrying about now when the time to deal with them comes, when you cross that bridge. Right now, you see a girl you like and so you should focus on how you can get to know and talk with her and how she could get to know you.

A relationship is a two way street, so build the street first.

Hoping for your kind consideration Wishing the best for you in Life and in Love!

[MyMaria]

@caspey, please leave MyMaria alone. If you're going to ask a girl that question, better do say it face to face to earn courage points.

thanks D...

Sa txt ra jd. Never done it face to face.hehehe. How would I say it man? Never been on a date pa sad

Will you go out with me Ms.Tan Bi Se? hehehe. Just happen to visit your multiply site.

You know.. you don't have to translate it... Chen Mei Xi sounds so much better.. Listen up, the only way you'll ever get to date someone for real is when you get out there and stop whining online. Go find yourself a nice girl but if you're not lucky, why don't you just wait... see what happens. Expect the unexpected. Good luck.

[xtian_hero]

:mrgreen:

i do agree with that.. it simply means.. stop being a "WUSSY"...

[caspey]

You know.. you don't have to translate it... Chen Mei Xi sounds so much better.. Listen up, the only way you'll ever get to date someone for real is when you get out there and stop whining online. Go find yourself a nice girl but if you're not lucky, why don't you just wait... see what happens. Expect the unexpected. Good luck.

Sory na gd.hehehe. Anyway, tnx for d advice. I'll go and find myself a girl or should I say, I'll get myself a girl.