LOVE PROBLEMS ( post em all here ) READ FIRST POST...

[xtian_hero]

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maybe if they've been broken up for 5-10 years already, it would be no problem.. but if all this has happened within a month or so.. tsk tsk tsk... you're asking for it.. really.





read between the lines... kung nag buwag sila... there must be something wrong there... so y do want to go through something... wrong!?

hmm.. your right.. but what if the boy confesses his love to her?.. what will she do?..
so the dellima for this is that she has to choose between her bestfriend and the guy that she fell in love with... but then again.. patience is a virtue.. wait after 5 years... my maria said... if you guys are meant for each other... then you can't do anything about it.. but accept.. again.. nothing is certain in this life.. think about it...

[dark_phoenix]

ei..
here's my situation..
nag kaila mi sa net then nagkita mi...
then ni txt siya na malingaw daw siya nako...and he told me sweet things..sweet siguro para lang nako.hehhe...
then after we met..la nami nag kita balik pero mag cge gihapon i chat...and he told me na he misses me daw he even mdae a poem for me...
naglibog ko if tinood bah jd iya gi sulti kay wala rasad siya nag make ug effort nga magkita mi...

[sassyces]

GUYS, Is it possible na makipag live-in kayo for the SOLE or at least, primary reason na you want to be with your baby kahit na hindi nyo na love ung mom ng baby nyo or dapat love mo pa? According to this guy kasi na it would be very hard for him to see his son as often as he wants to if he and the girl would live apart.

[diem]

@sassyces, if a man love his child; if a man sincerely want the best and live his life for the happiness of his child then he would MARRY the woman who bore his child in order to provide the right sort of environment for the child to grow up healthy and well: a loving family.

If the man does not love the mother of his child, then why should he live in with her?

What other reasons could it be? One possible reason is because the mother of his child is stable enough, he can live off from her by staying with her with her care and under her roof. It would be convenient because he wouldn't have to pay for child support, exchanging it instead of just being there.

According to this guy kasi na it would be very hard for him to see his son as often as he wants to if he and the girl would live apart.

I firmly believe any reason of why a man should be with his child and its mother OTHER THAN LOVE is just weak and lame and not worth understanding.

In this scenario, there will be certain expectations particularly from the young mother he is living with. Considering about the young mother herself, how would she feel if she finds out that the guy is living in with her without love for her? Does that mean she's using the child as emotional bondage? A hostage so that her boyfriend with her? Lame. Evil and lame.

Eh what if the woman wants to move on? If she wouldn't accept this situation anymore? So what would the guy do then? Would he force himself to remain with her just because of the child's well-being? Then he becomes the hostage taker now, using the child as a reason.

@sassyces, how about you? Ever think of yourself in the young mother's shoes? Or are you actually wearing those shoes? Well after all that's being sad and done, if it makes the guy and the girl happy and it makes their child happy~ if it makes everybody happy, then.. God bless them. Maybe they'll figure it out after all.

[diem]

[color=navy]@dark_phoenix, please be patient and observant. You've heard and read his words, don't you think it's time to see if he could prove them with his actions?

Give the guy a chance to prove himself but while you wait and watch, please keep your emotions in check. "Look before you leap", at times like what you're going through is similar to going to swim in a pool; you have to check if there's water right before you dive in?

So just wait and see, if this guy holds water or if he's just a sorry sad leak with plenty of holes.

MOST LIKELY, he just wants to be friends. He's just flirting with you, pulling your leg, hoping to make you smile or feel good about yourself. It could be that positive, so just take it as it is and don't put any special meaning into it. If he's really really serious about you, he would make the time and effort to show how really serious he is about being with you.

If he's not with you, then he's not with you, kasabot ka? So don't keep him in your head because you're just driving yourself wacko, just deal with him when he's there in front of you, with you.

Here's some advice-- Life in Moderation: Don't take Life and Love too seriously, or you'll never have any freedom or fun

Wishing you the best in Life and in Love :mrgreen:

[louie007]

not a good idea IMO. unless you still think there's a chance to save the relationship, there should be no point living together. the parents can always spend different days with mom or dad.

[dark_phoenix]

^thanks diem...

i always say this to myself.."ayaw pada sa imo gi bati..."..
it's working man sad...pero there were times jd na you know mura nako ma boang cge huna2 niya..heheh...

you were right when you said that maybe he's just flirting with me and all those things you said...


hapit na mu one month na we did not see each other...
is it ok if i'll ask him if unsa na jd para dili nasad nako maka kapoy akong self bah...inig one month na hinoon nga wa mi nag kita...
what do you think?

[peg]

@dark_phoenix,
char char lang na iyaha ngali oi.. aron sad ingnon interested or wala na cya lain topic ika storya---mao ngali pa shweet shweet...
wa ta kabalo if cya gyud naghimo anang poem. basin kinapy..?
naa ko kaila sa iyang experience, ingon cya, cya moy tighumo love letters sa mga friendships niya.
hehe

[dark_phoenix]

^about the poem...
he wrote it jd...he's kind of a poet...hehehe...
i felt his sincerity when he told me that ws for me...

ang ako problema...murag inconsistent sad gani siya...

[dana]

basta inconsistent naa pa na hang ups! dli pa na sure oie.. dear, don't waste your time with guys nga la pa klaro. but im not saying don't give him a chance. just what diem said wait and watch! just keep your senses open! God bless