Should Couples Live Together before Marriage?

[keira_bianca]

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its ok..
atleast, in that way,
makita ninyo ang mga differences..

nya maka adjust mo,
before it's too late

[lhykah]

im not into this..

[babychic]

it's fine w/ me kung fine pd ang laki og wa napugos... as long as BOTH of u wud b responsible enuf sa mahitbu, ups n downs! :mrgreen:

[Innosaint]

I've seen many couples who lived together before marriage break up because the woman always wanted to get married and thought it would happen once they'd been living together for a while but the man never wanted to get married. If only they'd discussed how they felt about marriage before they moved in together, sure they would probably have still broken up, but at least they wouldn't have spent so much time on a relationship that wasn't going to last, and wouldn't have had the added hassle of changing living arrangements when they broke up. So personally I think it's dangerous to move in together without first discussing your views on marriage.

But if you have discussed marriage and agree it's something you both want and you both want to live together first then I don't see any problem with it.

also think one advantage of living together before marriage is that any problems that arise before you adjust to living together, such as one being messier than the other and not pulling their weight with the chores, will get sorted out before you get married and won't put a damper on the newly wedded bliss.

But I don't think it's a good idea to use living together as a test of your relationship. I think that if you're not already sure that you're right for each other and can make it work then there's too big a chance that it won't work and you'll break up and you'd be better off not moving in together (at least until those doubts are gone).

[Innosaint]

I've seen many couples who lived together before marriage break up because the woman always wanted to get married and thought it would happen once they'd been living together for a while but the man never wanted to get married. If only they'd discussed how they felt about marriage before they moved in together, sure they would probably have still broken up, but at least they wouldn't have spent so much time on a relationship that wasn't going to last, and wouldn't have had the added hassle of changing living arrangements when they broke up. So personally I think it's dangerous to move in together without first discussing your views on marriage.

But if you have discussed marriage and agree it's something you both want and you both want to live together first then I don't see any problem with it.


I also think one advantage of living together before marriage is that any problems that arise before you adjust to living together, such as one being messier than the other and not pulling their weight with the chores, will get sorted out before you get married and won't put a damper on the newly wedded bliss.

But I don't think it's a good idea to use living together as a test of your relationship. I think that if you're not already sure that you're right for each other and can make it work then there's too big a chance that it won't work and you'll break up and you'd be better off not moving in together (at least until those doubts are gone).

But since pinas is the only catholic in SEA... i guess, mahirap parin tong ma accept ng society :mrgreen:

[Metz]

Living in lets both of you test the waters w/o the hassles of a broken marriage. Makita jud ang katag, all the good as well as the bad of each person. Kung di jud na ninyo ma overcome then time to split but if you do then marriage is a good choice.

[Zahara]

This is actually their choice. Whatever they decide, we have no right to judge them 'coz its their life.

However, im against it 'coz im pro-women. Guys won't marry you because they already got the benefits of marriage without commitment. Why not have their cake and eat it too? In real life, men loves challenges and mystery. If they've got you without that much effort, expect to be treated like dirt in your relationship. Respect is the 2nd ingredients of a loving relationship. If you let yourself be treated like a doormat, chances are, that's how he sees you. This is based on the many self-help books that i've read.

[earljahn]

I personally think that men and women should not live together before marriage.....
Living together before marriage is just like testing a prototype design... What if it will fail? Will you test another one?

But in the end, its our cal wether to take this or not... It will depend on your principles in life and the current situation you are in

[dexterdal]

may ni pra testing sa

[WinFlo]

naa naman pareha ani nga topic uy