would you rather risk, or do your best?

[neversaydie]

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what will you do if your husband or wife is diagnosed with cancer, and at this time there is no definite duration the doctor says of how long will he/she be living..


My aunt was diagnosed with a malignant cancer of the liver, when she found this out, she decided not to go back to the doctor, she rather go to binisaya tambal2 rather than the medical ways. She didn't want to be hospitalized, her reason is " mao ra japon mamatay ko, dako2 ra gasto kung magpahospital." Since then adto rajud sila sa pabinisaya na tambal, we as the family wants her to be take care of, to be given the right medicine for her. But her husband just granted what she wanted, now she is struggling through life and death, when you ask her husband why not brought her to the hospital, it's too late, and she never wanted to ever since.. I am so sad to see their children.. it will not be easy to loose a mother, for me, mas maayo pa ang walay papa kaysa mama, the yougest is just 6 years old, and on't even know what's happening to her mother. perhaps this could be her last day, it hurts to see her when you can't do anything..

If you were the husband, would you rather see her suffer because she doesn't want to go through medical processes, or would you risk bringing her to the hospital and do your best just to let her live longer, even if it costs you a lot and not granting her request. I am just confused of how my tito handles the situation, I feel so sad when I saw him cry... but it's always at the end of the line to regret of not doing what ahs to be done...

[stallions]

lisud jud na TS, I also have something to share, hope it might help..

nagpacheck up akong uncle and a tumor was found. cancerous to nga tumor pero ok pa kaau, removable pa kaau. pero
instead nga ipatangtang, my uncle opted for another alternative. inom nlng daw cya og mga herbal kay mahal2x ra daw ang
hospital, mao ra daw ghapon resulta. Ana cya if he was meant to die already, then he will die.

anyway, a few weeks later, he was diagnosed with colon cancer and it had spread drastically na. it became stage 4 cancer that fast! and his other organs especially his kidneys were starting to fail. He was put on dialysis and underwent chemotherapy. (before that kay ni larga cya sa states for treatment but i dont know what happened, but ni balik ra daun cya dri). Wa naabot og dugay, his condition was so severe na. At that point, nagregret jud cya maau sa iyang decision about atong herbal2x kay preventable pa unta kaau ang situation. Naabot nlng sa point nga niwang na kaau cya and he couldnt speak anymore.
Naluoy nman gyud akong auntie og cousins, they accepted the fact nga there was nothing that could be done anymore so
they pulled the plug nlng gyud..

My point here TS is that even if there is no assurance of a long life, bsag 10% success rate pa na, just take it.
yes, daku kaau na og gasto but a life is priceless. Those kids deserve to grow up with a mother. or even if they dont grow
up with one, at least they know that their mother fought for her life. I think it would be pretty selfish of her to give up just easily.
Im no mother and I know shes in a tough situation but I think her family deserves a fight for her life..

thats the simplest way I can put it. hope I helped!

[brian joshua]

DMD ui.......

[imyourninja]

Pahospital tawun na ts uyy.. tambagi na imung tito. unsa mai matabang sa binisaya sa cancer uyyy,,,, unsa bah! >_<

[yvonne6]

ang kuarta makita ra rather than feeling guilty nga wala jud kay nabuhat sa sitwasyon. kung d nimo dad on sa doctor or hospital, mura ra sad kag nag tanaw nga nag inum siya ug hilo little by little everyday and you just watched. and kuarta, makita rana. ug mao may pagbuot sa Ginoo that they have to go, then be it, but at least u just didnt sit and wait for things to happen. do something before its too late. again, ug mawala man siya u can face anyone and tell them, i did what i can do

[mj.pocholo]

Grabeh ani ts relax kaau ko gnina karon naguol man noon ko ani oi, ako ika.advice ani ts ipa.hospital nlang jud ni oi kay wla pa btaw sure if when jud ang duration niya, kutob sa mkaya total if magkina.unsa at least gbuhat ninyo ang tanan kutob sa unsay nahibaw.an ninyo nga ikaau pra niya, samoka anang bisaya2 oi.

[trinalla]

lisod jud if naa sa ingon ana nga situation, if i were on her shoes, i will do the same, i won't go to the hospital coz mao ra gihapon mamatay, hospital can only help your life extend at d same time louy ang pamilya kay ma prolong sad ilang agony, mas sakit hinoon its better stay at home and wait till d day i die, rather than spending much and mamatay ra gihapon. we experience same situation my dad was also diagnosed for liver cancer and he only have days to live. he requested not to put any machines just to extend his life, he rather choose to die and not experience the pain from whatever medicines, injections and machines will be put on him, but our other siblings from abroad made a long distance call to talk to the doctor and tell to do everything to extend our father's life para lang maka abot pa cla nga buhi amo dad when they arrive, pero sa side namo nga naka witness sa whole scenario, kanang butangan ug mga tubo, and other instrument just to live and revive our dad, its very difficult and painful to see him suffer and still died after how many days. so in your auntie's case i understand why she choose not to stay at d hospital ;-( it is very difficult when your on that situation so better grant the wish of your aunt and do everything to make her happy rather than going to the hospital and everybody experience pain ;-(

[Dorothea]

I would respect the patient's decision, I guess. It's so hard to offer opinions sa mga ingon ani nga issues, until it happens to you, you don't really know what you're going to do.