What do you believe to be the root of most problems in relationships?

[chik_08]

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infidelity


pde sad dota kung mga bata pa mo. lol!

Infidelity = lack of self respect

Dota = interest vs partner

[chik_08]

there are two issues here actually

root

cause

kana root.. if bad gani, kinahanglan i up root, otherwise.. mutubo ra gihapon. like jealousy, one must learn to control it, perhaps convert it to passion.

kana cause... lisod na kay ang principle is cause AND effect man gud. naa cause.. naa pud effect.. and it usually results in a chain reaction.. if negative.. nagkadako till mu blow out of proportion na. it takes two to tango.. so the partners must consciously invest themselves to suppress those causes nga makapa arouse ug differences - the key words are adjustment and understanding..

VERY WELL SAID! ... ikaw na!!

[quirkychinita]

So true... miscommunication leads to arguments, plus gossips here and there! till u wont know what to beliv anymore..

Iv'e been to the wild world of mean gossipers and I therefore conclude na wa nay makalupig sa:

believing in ur Intuitions,


Silent observations,

and

confrontation sa people involved...


I no longer believe in what OTHER PEOPLE say... I'd rather hear what the people involved says and does... Gossips? They're just ear candies... the mass like the following topics: Controversy, s*x, violence and money...


communication is everything! However, I can and even you can say these things to the point that people get so impressed with us cuz the person saying this sounds so wise and strong....

But the truth is, once you're already in the middle of a mess that it got into your heart and head,

you'll lose composure and breakdown, cry, get angry at the same time sad at the same time confused and the wisest things you've said and you've always believe in, you can no longer apply

cuz the pain buries your wisdom and knowledge in dealing with such painful stuff in your chest....



in short, mayra ko mutambag kung naay masakitan pero kung ako na gani ang naa sa situation, I'd be confused too... We're humans anyway! hahahah!!! I guess that's what istorya.net is for!

[Rhade]

Money.

Ang relationship lami rana sa sugod - romance, ses, og tanan palami. Pero after ana, pag walay kuarta, dra na magsugod samut na kung na pag mabuntis ang bae. Kung wala muy kuarta, taman ramu biga-biga pero wala muy paingnan - bsag mangaun sa gawas di ka afford. The best gyud kung ang lalake financially stable and capable - wala gyuy mahay.

agree ko ani.

[Europa]

Kasagaran mga misunderstandings like jealousy, miscommunication, time, etc. masulbad ramana especially kung mature napud mu og maistoryahan rmana og tarung. Kay anyway kung di gyud mag kasinabot unya unhealthy na ang relationship, well buwag nalang gyud. lol

Pero kanang money matters, mao gyud na ang mugawas especially after mga 1 year mu mag kuyog. Bsag unsa mu ka mature unya walay kuarta, wa na mao rana inyo awayan which is perfectly normal. Busa ako sa inyo mga babae, pangita mu og someone who is financially capable and make it your number one factor and you will really enjoy life

Og kita mga lalake, padato nata. Kay ang lalake nga walay kuarta walay pulos - especially tung mga dili ka provide sa ilang mga anak, gapkauwaw lang na sila - og dili mo respetohun sa inyo mga anak.

[stuart]

Money.

Ang relationship lami rana sa sugod - romance, ses, og tanan palami. Pero after ana, pag walay kuarta, dra na magsugod samut na kung na pag mabuntis ang bae. Kung wala muy kuarta, taman ramu biga-biga pero wala muy paingnan - bsag mangaun sa gawas di ka afford. The best gyud kung ang lalake financially stable and capable - wala gyuy mahay.

agree ko ani.

Hmmm dipendi bya xa for me i dont really give a support for Money, yes money is the cost of everything in a relationship but take not that we could be avoided if we really put trust in God ur relationship specially for those married coz you take a promised that "for better or for worse" "tell death do us part" we will love each other forever and ever" AMEN hehehe be responsible lang jud mo to each other let the communication active and be open to each other. do u believe those saying "Bahalag saging basta loving?" its not really the money hu roll the relationship its the LOVE if u love each other then you both can stand all those storms that u encountered on your journey of LOVE

[stuart]

battles well with time.....

Yes!!! human being as we are have our own priorities in life, family, friends, career, hobby, etc...if you dont know where u stand and organized your self for hus goes first then at the end you ended up sacrificing some of it that you dont have a choice but to accept it, in a relationship always put ur shoes to our behalf to that you will know were you are from her/him located. its just like saving a persons on a crash vehicle your first priority is to save a person hu have a chance to survive and dont waste ur time for those person hu is dying and about to die.

[Goatwhore]

Lack ov communication leads to dryness and coldness...

[Wynna]

para nako it all starts with One's SELFISHNESS

which would eventually lead to

third parties
Lust over another person
secrets
lies
and etc..


mao nang pangutana na "are we really willing to offer some sacrifices for the sake of love?"
kay wrong expectations definitely causes complications..

[chik_08]

Og kita mga lalake, padato nata. Kay ang lalake nga walay kuarta walay pulos - especially tung mga dili ka provide sa ilang mga anak, gapkauwaw lang na sila - og dili mo respetohun sa inyo mga anak.

true, but i dont believe that guys should cater "ALL" expenses in a relationship.. girls should work too dli lng magsalig coz its a basic essential to survive this game.. called LIFE!