bana, ni-resign nga wa nagsaba

[tikotakz]

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atubanga lng sis... nya ask ngano nahitabo na nnu..

[s3thk]

naa to xa gi tagoan

[rockyroad]

yaw na dugay dugay mrs. storyahe na one on one imo anabs. its not too late.

korek! nagpa bugnaw pako. actually plan nako karong sweldo, hapit2 naman pud.
@spike412
i'm being strong now, as i have been the past 4 years. call it justifying, im only trying to see things on both sides. why iya ni gibuhat, ug unsa kahay ako gibuhat that caused him to act this way.
@street_of_no_return
ive learned from my past mistakes. kung yawyawan, mu grabe. thanks anyway. but sakto ang apektado ani ang mga anak.

[rockyroad]

I don't think this will be an infidelity issue, though there might be a chance.
Right now, I think he is thinking that he wants to focus sa networking.
That is why he resigned, maybe all of those people he is contacting are simply prospects.

The reason why he resigned without telling you, is he doesn't want you to worry.
But apparently the opposite has happened causing you to worry more.
The type of person your husband is, don't really think that well. (simply...dili gyud brayt.)

Ang ako lang tambag because I came from a household with similar background.
Is for you to find a way to compensate for your husband's inability to provide.
Naa man guy tawo nga dili kibaw sa value of hard work, magsige lang og hunahuna unsay sayon. EASY MONEY!

Unya unhan na lang tingali nimo siya, that you know he has been contacting people.
Don't jump to conclusions and just let him explain, the "focus" on the networking thing will come up.
Anyways, if I am right with how I assessed your husband, you will have a very ROCKYROAD ahead of you.

for a moment there, i panicked! kaila sguro ka namo noh? kay ang imo side matches what my husband has reasoned with me sauna..
anyway, so ipadayon lang nako ako work " to compensate for your husband's inability to provide" nga mao naman na ako gibuhat ever since we married. me working one job while he jumps from one company to the next. nothing's changed. bisan nag naglahi na mi ug puyo, mao ra gihapon..mao na balik nalang mi sa ilaha..wala pay bayranan..but BUT other issues have risen tungod ani!

ang nausab ra gyud kay iya ni gi sekreto, and ako pud wala nag saba.

before man gud estoryahon gyud nako dayun pero bati ang effect. but then again, init kau kog ulo ato nga pnahuna. thats why karon, ako pa gipalabayan ug pila ka days..para ma kalma ko. 6th day na ron since his resignation, and he still prepares for work bisag wala nay adtoan

to the others who have posted, thanks for your opinions. private matter gyud ni, ga duha2 gani kog post but on the other hand, nindot sad to discuss this openly. aron kamo mga laki nga ing-ani ug batasan, mausab namo kay mahago ming asawa ninyo.
ug para sa mga asawa to keep the communication open

[pepponeskie]

basin naay laing trabaho ang bana mao molakaw inig kagabie.

ang maau ana, istoryahan nilang duha aron masuta kung unsa jud ang tinuod.

[Klave]

for a moment there, i panicked! kaila sguro ka namo noh? kay ang imo side matches what my husband has reasoned with me sauna..
anyway, so ipadayon lang nako ako work " to compensate for your husband's inability to provide" nga mao naman na ako gibuhat ever since we married. me working one job while he jumps from one company to the next. nothing's changed. bisan nag naglahi na mi ug puyo, mao ra gihapon..mao na balik nalang mi sa ilaha..wala pay bayranan..but BUT other issues have risen tungod ani!

ang nausab ra gyud kay iya ni gi sekreto, and ako pud wala nag saba.

before man gud estoryahon gyud nako dayun pero bati ang effect. but then again, init kau kog ulo ato nga pnahuna. thats why karon, ako pa gipalabayan ug pila ka days..para ma kalma ko. 6th day na ron since his resignation, and he still prepares for work bisag wala nay adtoan

to the others who have posted, thanks for your opinions. private matter gyud ni, ga duha2 gani kog post but on the other hand, nindot sad to discuss this openly. aron kamo mga laki nga ing-ani ug batasan, mausab namo kay mahago ming asawa ninyo.
ug para sa mga asawa to keep the communication open

My father is like this so kibaw gyud ko sa imong situation.
Ako mother gyud ang main bread winner karon.
Unya atong time, nga naginsurance broker akong papa kay kataw-anan kaayo.
Mag full-formal working attire gyud na siya, unya igo ra muadto sa iyahang mama, matulog og balik.
So kana gibuhat sa imo husband ron similar ra sad gibuhat sa akong papa.

One good thing to note, is their self-esteem is too low, so they can't approach women.
And if he is cheating on you, you can be sure it will be on a rich old ugly hag.

He really might be working on the prospects though.
Hopefully, this silent effort of his is something positive.
But speaking from experience, he won't change in this lifetime.
Labi na kung daghang enablers like doting rich parents.

Teach your children to understand and hate this behavior, without letting them hate their dad.
Unless of course your children already hates him.
Teach them the value of hard work and honest effort.
Pamawi na lang gyud, that your children will not grow up like him.

[digitalsuperman]

mao nay giingon nga awahi gyud pirmi ang pagmahay.

[rockyroad]

My father is like this so kibaw gyud ko sa imong situation.
Ako mother gyud ang main bread winner karon.
Unya atong time, nga naginsurance broker akong papa kay kataw-anan kaayo.
Mag full-formal working attire gyud na siya, unya igo ra muadto sa iyahang mama, matulog og balik.
So kana gibuhat sa imo husband ron similar ra sad gibuhat sa akong papa.

One good thing to note, is their self-esteem is too low, so they can't approach women.
And if he is cheating on you, you can be sure it will be on a rich old ugly hag.

He really might be working on the prospects though.
Hopefully, this silent effort of his is something positive.
But speaking from experience, he won't change in this lifetime.
Labi na kung daghang enablers like doting rich parents.

Teach your children to understand and hate this behavior, without letting them hate their dad.
Unless of course your children already hates him.
Teach them the value of hard work and honest effort.
Pamawi na lang gyud, that your children will not grow up like him.

katawa lng ko sa ugly hag. your words are inspiring, but sad at the same time. he is good with the kids, tapulan gamay pero nakat-on na sad. just not a provider though. his dad is also like this, so i think history repeats itself. kalagot sad kay iyang parents seem to be ok with this setup. like they dont see anything wrong! iyang mom sad ang tig kayud but swerte lang gyud that she has rich, influential contacts and relatives nga nagtabang ug pakaon namong tanan and even send some to school, spend vacation in resorts and travel abroad! you can just imagine how rich these "sources" are nga asta kami and grandkids kay naapil sa grasya.

at least now i won't be hoping for a change. frustrating lang bah. wala ka naglagot sa imo papa nga ing-ana cya? im afraid my kids will turn out exactly like him. especially now that we're back their place duha na gyud ang example: father and grandfather

dli gyud ko ing-ani pagdako. we're not poor but i grew up thinking and living the lifestyle of the poor because of how my parents raised me. so i fully understand the value of work...wala gyud ko anang mag absent2 ug klase atong studyante pako because i know how hard my father worked to send us to exclusive schools. that's why pag-ila nako niya i was surprised unsa ka sayon para niya nga mu absent ug klase kung d cya ganahan sa teacher or walay gana..

the reason kuno why he chose me is bec. i "changed" him. if not for me, d unta cya maka graduate. kay 1 of the conditions mana nako before i consider a guy as bf material.
now i think i have outlived my usefulness. maybe i will have to come up with a challenge aron ma-push napud nako cya, but this time around, not for me but for our family. the kids.

if u dont mind me asking, how are your parents now? wala gibadlung imo papa sa iyang mama ig matug ra cya sa balay? mao sad na iya buhaton dri katong naglahi mi, mag visit2 nga patago only to sleep, mag internet, watch TV or simply mukaon. naka hibaw ra ko ana kay gisultian ko sa iya auntie nga nag visit sa ila ato nga time. nahibung why ang iya pag umankon nag lingaw2 sa iya parents house while ako intawn nag duty or nag atiman sa mga bata sa amoa gipuy-an..

[rockyroad]

mao nay giingon nga awahi gyud pirmi ang pagmahay.

i should have seem this coming. girls, be attentive to your instincts and choose your guys wisely. if he's not good enough now, he might not be good enough in the future.

[cardo]

Reality bites TS, lets face it TS you'll be the breadwinner for the rest of your lives considering sa pattern sa imong husband nga dili mag dugay sa work. Sooner in the future you'll out grow your husband emotionally and psychologically.