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[jugs_06]

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bro, there are a lot of factors that come into play when dealing with this.. she also might be so insecure about how YOU handle your relationship with her.. or she might not be satisfied with the kind of love and care you're giving.. so she ends up having to compare you and her ex's cz she's probably evaluating you and that she has this set of EXPECTATIONS on how the relationship should work between the two of you..

but still, it's ANNOYING.

bro, remember this.. one of the MOST HURTFUL thing that a girl can tell to a guy is that he's a LOUSY lover especially when compared to her ex's..

believe me.. i've been there, done that.. like what @Ms. Beau said, you have to command and DEMAND respect from that girl..

else, the BEST solution is to LEAVE..

[Streetcar]

This is a no-no in relationships. Never compare the ex to the present and vice-versa. If you cannot go past that always comparing and living in the shadow of the past, then might as well not get involved to be fair to the present person in your life. Because it only means to say that you are not healed from the former.

[GlassMoon]

naa ko uyab den two years na mi,halos sa whole 2 years kay cge lang jud mi kuyog..kung makakita ko sa ako mga barkada before kay masuya jud ko sa ilang kalingaw,pero clean fun ha,dili minaldito ang lakaw.lahi ra man gud ang kalingaw kung kuyog ka sa imo frens nga naa imo uyab,labi na kung all boys,nga sumtyms mahulog nga hasol..ok ra na nga mangayo ka ug frens day?maski once a month na lang jud?di man gud cya sugot...muabot man gud ang tym nga ang laki magpangita jud na sa iyang mga migo kay lahi ra jud ang lingaw n fil nako wa ko naka-enjoy sa akong kabatan-on kay sayo kau ko nisulod ug serious relationship..

Nothing wrong with asking, man! Communication is one of the keys to a healthy relationship. Tell her in a nice way that you need time with your friends and I'm sure she also might want to go out with her friends. My wife and I keep this type of communication as often as we could. She goes out with her college buddies as I do with my buddies lots of times.

[MyMaria]

yup me too.... Diem is totally right.

[diem]

It truly means a lot to me that women of wisdom such as MyMaria, Streetcar and duchess concur with my words. It is deeply appreciated, ladies!

@everyone, this coming new year let us all rest, review and reflect on the past days of 2006. What have we done, where have we gone and who have we met and loved? Let us remember what made us happy and let us even remember what made us sad. Let us not close the book yet on 2006 but keep in heart all the lessons that we have learned in order to live through 2007 better than ever.

Forget about the regrets, face your fears, know your problems but focus on the solutions, accept your fate yet choose your destiny, consider others but remember oneself, ward evil and do good, the truth sets all free and with freedom there is happiness!

A blessed and prosperous new year, everyone!

[Bashka]

@ Diem

Thanks for the advice.. I am standing on my decision, but is it too early too start a relationship or even to look one? I am planning to ask out this gal whom I met. I am not planning to use her as a "panakip butas".

[diem]

@bashka, is this the girl you met through that managerial seminar? The one with a boyfriend?

Anyway, here's one good criteria to know you are ready for a serious and committed relationship.

First, buy yourself a plant (be it a fern or a money plant). Take care of it and if it's still clean and green for two years then buy yourself a pet (dog, cat, bird or fish). If the little guy's happy and healthy in two years' time then you can say you're ready(mature, considerate, caring) to take care of a relationship.

Anyway, if I were you I'd get to know the lady as a friend first. Ladies appreciate that more, take time and be patient~ get to know her and befriend her truly, sincerely and honestly. And if Love would blossom from such a relationship, then take that as God's blessing.

[Bashka]

@ diem

Actually, there are 2 gals whom i like. Right now, im in the process of getting to know them. And about the one with the bf, from what ive heard, her relationship is shaky ryt now. I am in the process of "getting their numbers".

[diem]

@bashka, if you are sincere with your wish not to use any lady as a rebound~ slow down~ take it slow~ and pagklaro diha~ know what you want~ who you want and you could do that by knowing yourself first.

[wicked_b]

guys, please tell me what's wrong with me.
before, i am so dieing to have a boyfriend, so i dated a lot para makapili ug kinsa akong sugton.
came out na dili diay mi bagay... he is too good for me. tsar!
bitaw, it's either ma turn off ko or buotan ra kaayo xa.. or naa jud apan na ma dili nako ganhan.. etc. (sabta nalang heheh)

ngano manko? pwedi mangutana? kasuway namo ani?
am i so perfectionist? what should i do?
1 year nakong nag long.. i guess i should wait nalang noh?
or i'll keep on dating?
maypa friends nalang una sah? kapoy naman date-date woi.
haaayyyy... noy kulas, kini akong suliran.

babe, y wori? nga naa man jed guy gnanhan nimo..
mmm, myb u lang kasi hi-standard...hehehe
babe, dont rush muna having bf oi...1year nga wala ka.
is short span ra na to be single..mmm, babe take time lang..
i think nana man tingali kai fish nga nabingwet run..hahaha
i mean bu.aya..lower ur standard lang cguro..start from the basic.
be fair enough fud..mostly baya, mga buotan ang pirmi modoul..
hehehe,usahay mka.turn off kai subra nasad ka.buotan...hehehe..
waaa! babe, wa ko k.gee ako g.suwat..basta if u need help about
such guy..tell me lang.kai atong i.critique..LOL..
luvyah babe.misyah!!!! muwaaaaaaaahhhh