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[WinFlo]

@n'gel: I really have no idea ngano nakabuhat siya ani naku. ang nakapait sad gud is he strongly denies it, he says para sa iya chatmate ra daw sila ato nga girl. pero when i talked to the girl she told me uyab daw sila, that was before she found out that i was the wife. when i called the girl i asked her if she knew my husband and how long have they known each other. she kept asking me who i was and at first i told her i was his friend. it was only when she told me nga gf siya sa ako husband when i told her i was the wife. so i really don't know who's telling the truth and who's lying. though there were things that the girl told me that will make me believe that she's telling me the truth kay sakto man.

they haven't met yet, i asked her if they've already met in person. she said wala but they already planned to meet in person sometime in the future daw. i guess it was a good thing i found out about it before sila nagkita jud. nag sorry sad siya naku kay ang pagtoo daw niya buwag na jud mi sa ako bana. nagpasalamat sad gani siya nga wala daw naku siya gibalikas kay kung uban pa daw tong baye gibalikas na daw ta siya pag-ayo. tarong man siya ka storya naku sa phone, pero ambot gi unsa niya pagsulti sa ako bana basi iya gipun-an ug gikuha-an ako gisulti mao naglagot nuon pag-ayo ako bana diri naku. or maybe she really wants my husband mao gusto niya pag-awayon me para matinuod nga magbuwag na jud mi sa ako husband and she can have him. but there was really no need for her to do that, ako man siya giprangkahan when i talked to her on the phone that if they really want to be together go ahead. pero dapat ila una tarongon kay may usa ka tao nga masagasaan -which is me. i told her if my husband doesn't love me anymore and would rather be with you, i'll be glad to set him free. pero karon ********* usa ninyo kay ako ang inyo gitonto. she promise she'd end the relationship now that she knows that he's still married. ambot lang, all i can do is take her word for it and hope for the best.

@monrose29: good day to you too. salamat kaayo sa imo advice. i know everybody will either say martyr ra ko or gaga. i guess i'm more of a gaga/tanga than a martyr. i really love my husband and i'm willing to work on this marriage. i made a vow in front of God and i intend to keep that vow for as long as i can. di man ko gusto nga ako ang mo walk-out sa marriage gud especially nga dili man ako ang nagbinuang. i was raised to believe nga when you make that "till death do us part" i-keep jud na. usa pa jud, my husband is my first - in everything - mao siguro nga lawom kaayo siya ug duot naku.

a day after my confrontation with my husband, i asked him again if he still loves me - he said yes. he asked me if we're gonna be alright and i answered him that everything is all up to him. i told him that i still want to be married to him and that i still love him. but i am not sharing him with other women, he has to chose - stay with me or be with somebody else. he told me he doesn't have a girlfriend and that he has no plans of having a girlfriend - ako ra daw iya gusto. he said to just forget what happened and start anew to keep our marriage. so that's what we're doing right now, we're making baby steps one day at a time to keep this marriage. hopefully wala nay magsamok-samok.

sa uyab pa mi la man ko kabantay ani kung sige ba ni siya chat or unsa. pero di man mi kuyog 24/7 sad gud, so i don't know. to tell you the truth, buta kaayo ko kay puerte jud daku ako salig sa ako bana didto niya sukad nakasal mi. kung mag internet siya kanang gabi-e na kaayo ug sayo sa buntag ako ra man na siya pasagdan. it was only this year nga nagsugod ko paniid niya kay napuno naman jud ko kay sigehan ra man ko niya pasangil nga naa ko uyab or ka chat. so nagduda na nuon ko nga basi siya ang naay milagro nga gihimo nya aron dili ma guilty, ako ang pakasad-on. mao ni nga mura nagubot nuon amo kaminyo-on sa ako na discover.

i tried to leave him a few months back, gipamutos na gud naku ako mga sinina ug gamit, pero di naku kaya. everytime i think about leaving him mura ko mahugno. that is why i keep trying to make this work. pero half sa akong mga sinina ug gamit nakabalot pa gihapon hangtod karon.

this is my/our last ditch effort to save the marriage. kung di jud mag work, aw, wala na tay mahimo.


@fanhan: ako siguro ni buhaton kung naa jud ko concrete evidence on my husband's infidelity. pero karon gud all i have is that phone conversation i had with the woman. mao nga di naku siya puede mapalayas, labi na nga kung ako siya pangutan-on i-deny man niya. kay ug kahibalo pa ko asa nagpuyo ang baye ako adto-on ug dal-on naku ako bana para mag inatubangay ming tulo. para maklaro kung kinsa jud ang nagsulti sa tinuod ug kinsa ang namakak. i know i'm trying to get my husband pero i also made it clear to him nga wala sad ko namugos. he's free to chose man sad who he wants to be with.

[n`gel]

@WinFlo: It must really really hurt you... pray lang walay laing makatabang nimo God ra gyud. Nothing is impossible in Him man... He can even heal the sick samot na nang papanton ug bana. That's good nga klaro gyud imong condition sa imo bana... they need to know nga dili ka magduha duha ug biya ug magbinuang siya. It is very hard nga you once were very much inlove ba and then buhaton na niya nimo. I hope ma okay namo.

[ronna]

@rommel..

sakto jud na si MyMaria bro. dont be harsh on the gurl..she will realize ra sooner or later. toinks.
naka relate man gud ko. hehehe. ing ana man gud ko.

extremely outgoing----> basta babay na na anad ug crowd den friendly na bugalbugalon sad mao na xa.
hilig ug night life (abot ug 5 pm sa balay gkan laag kuyog laki) ---> pero dili lake ako kuyog, barkada.. den hatod manko sa balay so way blema.. lingaw lingaw ra man sad na samtang bata pa. den basta wala pay tag-iya walay mobadlong, mangita pa nag mobadlong, suwayi daw ug badlong in a nice way den see the reaction. just show na u cared.
"red horse girl" -----> pero kani lalisunon pa ni kay dali ra ko matumba/suka di pako tanggera, laagan lang. hehehe. magpratice pako ani.. to be perfect. hehehe
super friendly sa mga guyz--> if anad na xa makihalubilo sa guys, like me almost all my friends kay guys kay engr man kuno ko, so dali ra jud magkasuod sa laki. den it doesnt mean na bad na xa. kay di baya tanan laki mo take advantage. kabalo mansad kaha xa kinsa iya kuyugan na good guys. ok rana. nindot mansad gu d ang company sa guys kay lingaw cge katawa. labi nag gurls na mura guys mo act or mo kantyaw aw.. lingaw jud.

i know basta ma inlove na mao nana ma behave.
den daghan na ni court nako kaso haven't seen the right one yet.
ang makasurvive lang ug suyo nako.. wala man sparks nanu sugton diba? hehehe
haven't met my match.

dont you worry rommel you'll reap what you sow. if willing ka mo fight for your love it might be hardwork pero kon ganahan jud ka wala naman na efforts diba? kaya a na nimo.. basta as what MyMaria said kuyog nalan ug asa xa tagay or laag hehehehe.. wa ka kabalo..

[fanhan]

@Winflo:

you are a very brave woman. and i admire your courage of saving the marriage especially your love and fear for God..
you said salig kaau ka sa imong bana. there's nothing wrong with it..after all, that's what a relationship is supposed to be, diba? i hope di lang nimo i torture imong self pag maayo. it's not your fault if he cheated on you. if there is something wrong going on, cheating is not the answer but an open and honest communication..i wish you luck and sooner or later, take comfort that you will get past this difficult moment of your life..

[r0mm3L]

mas ganahan ko sa advice ni ronna

[WinFlo]

@n`gel: thank you. Hurt mo lang, the moment the girl told me about their affair mura jud ug nahugno ako kalibutan. Lain jud ang feeling when you give your all to someone and then you find out nga gibinuangan ra diay ka. Grabe kaayo akong trust sa ako bana pero iya ra giduwa-duwaan. I just hope and pray nga wala nay lain pang pagsuway nga pareha ani kasakit ang moabot sa amo married life kay I don't know kung makaya pa naku.

Nakapait sad kay kahibalo diay iya nephew pero about sa affair pero wala jud ka advice sa iya uncle. Dili mi close sa iya nephew pero la sad ko nagminaot sa iyaha pero la jud siya nakunsensya sa gibuhat sa iya uncle nga unta magkita man mi sa iya nephew almost everyday. Sa pagkakaron magkita gani mi sa iya nephew I can't bear to look at him straight in the eye, ambot kung ako ba naulaw or sa kalagot ni.


@fanhan: thanks. but i can't help but wonder what's wrong with me, ngano nabuhat man ni sa ako bana naku. i have told him over and over (that time nga pagduda pa lang akoa, before i finally called the other woman) before to just be honest with me. dili man sad ko eskandalosa nga pagkababaye, di man ko ganahan ug gubot gusto ko nga storyahan lang sa tarong whatever the conflicts are. ang ako lang di ko gusto himo-on lang gago. and that if he found someone new and would rather be with her, ok ra man naku basta sulti-an lang ko sa tinuod. di man sad ko ganahan mamugos ug tawo. but everytime we get to that topic he always assures me nga he's not having an affair. so just imagine my surprise and hurt when i found out.

[Bashka]

Hello.. its me again... thanks for the advice guys.. i decided to stop the relationship sa girl diha sa pinas. I feel great since I did it. Murag naay na tangtang na bug-at sa akong kinabuhi. And I decided to move on, which is great cause there been a lot of girls whom I meet in my job and at school. And I realized that I missed so much in my life. About the other gal, I decided to wait a bit. We usually talked to each other on phone when there are questions and infos needed to be verified about our inventories.

I also need another advice. Since I am in different country, our culture is different from the Canadian culture, especially on dating. I need advices on how to deal the culture differences, how to cope up with it and what will i do if I am going to ask her out or make a move. I never dated a gal who is not a pinay.

[n`gel]

@WinFlo: About the nephew... it's a guy-thing baya. Generally man gud common ra kaayo na sa filipino society mo na makakita gani sila ug bana nga nagbinuang ra sila asawa okay lang pud nila, okay lang pud nga dili isulti. Or perhaps basin mahadlok pud ang nephew nga siya gyud mismo ang moabli sa door nga makacause unya nga magbuwag mo.

Hay love and forever-ness =) lisud gyud diay ning grabe gyud tang mahigugma tuod. Abi nimo WinFlo? Ako, pasalamat ko naa kos america kay naay option for divorce diri. Although if indeed I get married the second time around and akoa na gyud choice... pakasal gyud ko sa church... and mo na gyud na. Hugot na gyud bakus. Pero naa gyuy mga kaso like infedility nga dili pud gyud mada ug pasagdan lang... nga i-allow lang pud ang bana nga magbinuang tungod lagi sa panaad nga forever. Ako ingnon siguro ako uyab daan before mi kaslon nga mo gyud nay one of the few problems nga ako gyud siya ingnan biyaan taka basta imo buhaton. May nang klaro sabot daan ba aron ug ingkaso man ganing buhaton niya... he knows the consequences of his actions.

[ronna]

guys, please tell me what's wrong with me.
before, i am so dieing to have a boyfriend, so i dated a lot para makapili ug kinsa akong sugton.
came out na dili diay mi bagay... he is too good for me. tsar!
bitaw, it's either ma turn off ko or buotan ra kaayo xa.. or naa jud apan na ma dili nako ganhan.. etc. (sabta nalang heheh)

ngano manko? pwedi mangutana? kasuway namo ani?
am i so perfectionist? what should i do?
1 year nakong nag long.. i guess i should wait nalang noh?
or i'll keep on dating?
maypa friends nalang una sah? kapoy naman date-date woi.
haaayyyy... noy kulas, kini akong suliran.