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[rey04]

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Men will always be men regardless of status <----- waaaaah!

i know reactive gyud ang women ani but unsaon man reality man nih.

[MyMaria]

WinFlo... bitaw naa pod point si rey04 kai ingon ana man jud nang mga lalaki... *peace* in reality, cyber can be to a lot to their advantage.. hahaha!

basin imo husband naay account sa kanang mga hubo hubo webcam girls... basin kadtong pictures from a girl to nga kanang mo bare gud sa webcam or something.. u know, for a price
hahahaha birthday suit... i wanna see that! hahahaha just kidding! bitaw oi.. basin ngita lang pod na'g diversion imo bana.. *** in marriage should be a lot more adventurous considering nga "legal" na... but then again, most married couple take that for granted na.. i don't want to discuss anything more about intimate matters kay basin ma balhin ta ani sa mature 18+ thread ani, pero let's face it... WinFlo, you need to keep your husband happy (you know what i mean)... dress up, put on a show for him, etc... the possibilities are endless and like I said, how about chatting with him? get him all excited and all that, flirt or whatever.. he is YOUR husband!!! and maybe then you'll know what he's up to online! (hey, you can always be someone else in the net!).. it sure does look like he's hiding something being defensive and all -- to the point of accusing you of chatting with your EX -- *sigh* ka paetch ani oi...

[Bashka]

Sorry to Interrupt, but I need some advices... good ones...

I met this gal 2 years ago sa net. Then as time went by, I felt in love with her. But the thing is she is in Cebu and I am in Canada (till today). Until that day, we keep sending messages, i kept calling her.. usual lovers stuff. We also just realized that we bumped each other a few times in our past. I came to Canada after 2003. I also chatted to her parents and her relatives. Around 2004, my sis went back to Cebu for a week. I ask her to bring my girl's pasalubong and give it to her. But when she was there, my gf's bestfriend was the one who went to grab her pasalubong. Same thing happen with my freinds in Cebu, she was going to met them because I bought her some Christmas presents. I send it to them since I was busy at school. But her bestfriend was the one who grabbed it. I called her and ask her why, she told me she was busy at school. She took Nursing at SWU. So I was ok about it, but my barkadas in Cebu told me that she might be taking advantage of me. I did not take note about it. By the way, her bestfriend is a guy, bayut to be exact.

Last year, she told me that her parents left her for some reason and living in Bohol, until today. And got this BIG debt that is needed to dealt with. So I decided to help her out. She told me nga she will be a whore in order to pay it. As a desperation move, I keep givng her money every payday. Intawon, I am a full time student with a part time job because of love i gave everything to her. I keep asking her to look for her parents and relatives for help. They all left daw, according to her. I ask her why, she told me nga naa daw ning harash nila thats why they left. So believed her story. A year later, it is still the same thing. I am really starting to pissed off about it. And she keeps telling me nga she would be a whore if I did not help her out

A month ago, I got this job. As a part of this job, I have to attend a seminar. While in this seminar, I noticed this girl who is really cute and smart. we talked a bit and she is working in my store but different branch in the city. I told my friends and colleague about her. They told me to go for it and even my manager is willing to grab her from her branch, even though she got a BF... I really don't know why are they doing this or even who is her BF.

Ok, my question are:
- Should I leave my gf??
- Should I make a move on the new gal??

[diem]

@bashka, bro~ would you make a move on a girl even though she's got a boyfriend?

[Streetcar]

^^ @ Bashka...

well, if I were you, i'll take on a new girlfriend. the other one is no good. you deserve someone better. you dont need all that stress the gf has put you through. i also think she is taking advantage of your kindness. and because you have a soft spot, she is capitalizing on the opportunity. you need to drop her and find someone more responsible with her life. about the new attraction, its probably healthier for you to go that route.

[junmar4]

@bashka

bai ngita lain babaye wui. naay daghan. ayaw jud pailad ana naa sa internet, naay daghan pangwarta sa chat bai. naa gani pasend ra ug load then mosaway na maghubo. Pinoy pa, basta mahibaw-an lang gani naa ka sa abroad daghan na jud na problema but t first ila sa kuhaon imo trust.

[Streetcar]

Bitaw Bashka, you also need to be realistic about the situation. You also need to support yourself. There's nothing wrong man with helping your gf every once in a while but i think you are over-extending yourself already. The fact that you are presenting your love problem here means to say that you are feeling the burden and its going on for quite sometime. That's the red flag there. If you are already starting to feel that way it means to say that there is definitely something wrong. So you need to stop doing that and think of yourself for a sec.

Pay attention to how you feel. That is your cue. If you feel there is something wrong, then there is something wrong.

[Bashka]

Thanks for the advice guys...

I did tried to debate her about it. I even suggest her to go to Cebu and find a job. I even ask my friends for help since they work at call center. But she told me she cant because her debtors will hunt her down. Her only solution is for her to be a whore in order to pay the debt...

About the other gurl, I am not sure wat will I do.. It is really tempting and I do not know what she thinks about me...

[sakurai999]

reality: You love # 1 but you're falling for # 2, you cant leave # 1 but you cant bear loosing # 2...#1 wont be happy without you but #2 is your hapiness...# 1 gives you the world but # 2 means the world to you....who should you choose? ehem...comment lang!

libog xa dah!!!
unsaon kaha..!!
pero dli sad pwede clang duha unsa man duha imu heart para magduha2 ka Ug fafa!!!!
pwede sad saboton nmu ang isa kavit hehehhe (joke)

try to think not just once not just twice..!! hehe
balance d situation Kinahanglan man jud na usa ra imu piliON..!!!

sa ako part kung kinsa ang mas bug-at sa ako heart.. ahemm!!!

[jugs_06]

@bashka:

hehe.. while i was reading that last part of your post, i remember my own post on "LF: ways to breaking up an existing relationship"

you didn't include in your post that you've actually met the girl during the course of your relationship.. so in this case, i'm assuming you haven't.. nwei, this is one of my favorite lines so people could realize that they're in a state of, let's say, dreaming and the need for waking them up or slapping them a bit with a large trout is of great necessity (like irc )

DUDE.. WAKE UP!!!

like what @Streetcar stated, you should be able to see the red flag RIGHT NOW.. i fully understand your situation.. i'm a full-time student and got a part-time job like you and i tell you, it's not easy.. i'm sorry if i'm being too frank and honest here.. but from the way i sense it, that girl is only USING YOU.. why would i threaten someone and tell him i should be a whore when i can find a job for myself and eventually pay off my debts??

and come on, this has been going on for A YEAR.. you don't wanna support her for another year without even knowing EXACTLY where the money is going, do you? yeah right, you love her.. but the question is, are you sure that she loves you as much as you love her? or she's just using you for this matter?

those two questions that you threw out is an obvious reason for me to assume that you're getting fed up and that it's time for you to move on.. and man, you're getting interested with other girls.. i'm not saying it's a good thing to pursue her coz she's got a bf in the first place.. but the only fact that you're getting interested with girls so you could eventually forget about the other girl (whom i think it's not worth pursuing) is a good thing..

so to answer your questions:

- Should I leave my gf?? YES
- Should I make a move on the new gal?? DEPENDS