More than bestfriends pero dili uyab

[lintanks]

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I love to share this with you guys. I hope we can internalize the implications into our lives.

An old Buddhist adage puts it beautifully: “In the end only three things matter; how fully you lived, how deeply you loved, and how well you learned to let go of things not meant for you.”

[mariebiscuit]

yeko ar ni.. dapat kamo duha balo asa mo mulugar especially when ang isa naa uyab,, enjoy playing.. pag involve na gani ang feelings, too bad, sakitan jud ka..

[R@uL]

like gi ingon sa uban.... ok ra ni as long as nag sabot mo daan.... having fun is having fun... if naa ka makit.an na naa nay something something... storyaha dayon... or undangi sa.... kay di mn sd ka ganahan maka guba og relationship diba? if ever naay uyab or something..

[Mald|3Ta]

Asa ani mam ang sudgawas? hahaha peace.

Bitaw, dili jud ni pwede sa mga hilig ug fairytale or koreanovela like nga panghunahuna. ang nindot nga tambag ani kay "AY'G PA DA!!" hahaha

saman imong g huna huna nga pasabot sa sud gawas be? kong maoy imo mao pod akoa

btaw, nindot man jud na maka agi og pain, it's our constant reminder that we are not living in a fairytale ....

[Mald|3Ta]

The first time I tried this kind of set up kabalo ko nga ma shot ko's kabo ba, but GO japon ko coz I know dili ko makablo unsay feeling kong dili ko mo try. Na inlove ko sa guy, naka agi ko og pain, but payts ra man coz nalingaw ming duha....pinaka lingaw is knowing after we ended the FWB set up kay kana mag cge pa xa og hagad balik coz naka tilaw og dili malimtan.... hahahahahahahhaha .....

He got married a month ago and nagkita pa jud me days before his wedding. I was thinking hatagan nako one for the road, but wala naman kwenta oi hahahahahaha dili nako lamian niya naka get over naman LoL!!!

[DigiBoy]

how would you handle such situation when in the first place you both decided to be just friends?
for me, personally, it hurts, coz the first time u were together, you became attached to that one person, the second time, u became more attached.
why on this earth have something like that?
the hardest part is, after everything, then he leaves you like that. no more text, calls, not even fb. hahai, .

how'd you guys think about dat huh?

Thats why its called FWB. You both know that it is going no where not unless if you both have feelings for each other. After having more than 3 mons of session. Both party should be aware that one of you will get too intimate already and shows affection. Both party should be considerate. If one feels that the partner is showing love already, he/she must move on and roll the next dice.

how'd you guys think about dat huh? --- I think mature people could play this game pretty well. I am referring to singles out there. Not those commited.

[lintanks]

Hey guys. I came across this article which dichotomizes FWB. I hope it can further illucidate cerebrally the present topic at hand.


Casual s3x between casual friends
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by Saurabh » Sun Jan 30, 2011 9:37 pm

If you've willingly boycotted the 'Commitments-cum-Expectations' camp long back, 'Friends with Benefits' (FWBs) is probably the thing you're looking for.

For your frame of reference, this fad defines a mutually beneficial relationship between two friends who indulge in casual s3x with no bonds or expectations involved. In an age when all that people think of is adding digits to their bank balance, this trend has become quite a rage. Commitment might have taken a backseat but the desire for pleasure never will.

On being asked reasons as to why this trend has come into being, relationship therapist, Rachna Kothari says "Some reasons would be, the mere known fact that two friends are physically attracted to each other and can benefit each other (most often sexually), the want of pleasure or feeling of loneliness in a person or exes wanting to be in a physical relationship with no label attached. For those who believe they live in a culture that pursues individualism as the highest goal, it makes this relationship more pragmatic. Because there is no commitment or responsibility, one is free from feelings of hurt, pain, etc. and this can be a very honest and practical way of going about in relationships."

It is for sure, considering how comfortable one is with the idea, 'Friends with Benefits' is not a bad way to go about relationships. But then again, it is not all that easy. Here are certain dos and don'ts while being a FWBs.

Most times, in such a relationship, it is difficult to maintain proximity after you're done with your physical needs. Don't hook up with someone you are extremely close to or someone you can't do without on a regular basis. People generally say that women tend to fall in love with their partners after getting physical. But studies break that myth. It is normal that the moment you have had sexual intercourse, the body naturally emits hormones which generate feelings of love and affection. Sometimes, one of the partners agrees to being 'friends with benefits' just because they have feelings for the other and think that having casual *** would actually initiate sparks for the onset of a relationship. This can lead to heartbreak or a break in friendship or, in a worse scenario, both.

If, god willing, you fall in love at some point, this past phase can provoke doubt in your current relationship. FWBs can be a human interference when you're in a real relationship. Your current love can actually be insecure (and we see no fault in that) because of this so-called past-bed-buddy. If the FWB is an acquaintance, it's easy to break ties once you both have satisfied your physical needs.

Remember, it's about having an unspoken agreement between you and your friend to have occasional ***, leaving out the emotional baggage. You both should acknowledge this. Make sure the signal 'We're not lovers' is clear. Don't nestle or cuddle everytime you get an opportunity. Even sympathy s3x is a no-no. This paves way to wanting more than just s3x.

Rachna Kothari says, "Mutually, if two friends agree that there's no expectations, no commitments, then it's not detrimental because their attitudes are set right for this. But for those who believe that lovemaking and not mechanical s3x is what's important, it is obviously detrimental as it violates every bit of their expectations."

Make sure the intimacy of this relationship is just between the two of you, without making it a public deal. Don't brag about what a love muffin you are. The friendship could be gone with the wind.

Comfort is the key word while being FWBs. You need not be worried about concealing that birthmark which you've always disliked, or those flabs you couldn't lose in the gym or whether you will perform well in bed. Just enjoy the moments without fretting much.

Most importantly, play safe. Don't just hook up without taking precautions. A bubbly night or a stressful day should be no excuse to not use protection before s3x. Make sure you don't end up panic struck because of this risky relationship.

Maintaining friends with sexual benefits can be quite a hassle unless you stick by the ground rules. There is no harm being offbeat in relationships, but not acting in accordance to the rules would just lead to your life going haywire.

[kenotkabugnot]

ayaw lagi mo padala...paanud lang.....bitaw ug inyung sudlan kinahanglan kamao sad mo mugawas..mao rana ug mukaun gud kinahanglan kahibalo ka mutulon arun dili ka matuk an...

[adz]

like gi ingon sa uban.... ok ra ni as long as nag sabot mo daan.... having fun is having fun... if naa ka makit.an na naa nay something something... storyaha dayon... or undangi sa.... kay di mn sd ka ganahan maka guba og relationship diba? if ever naay uyab or something..

Korek....kalaay naman lang if maka among ka or ikaw na nuon ang ma among.

[Rena Lo Sab]

My advice to everybody... whatever you do, you should have no regrets... though what you have done is bad, on the brighter side, what has been done will always be a part of what you are right now.

More experience means more wisdom...